'If someone sent this to me, I would simply not go': Internet weighs in on couple's 15 strict rules for their wedding

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 22, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

This couple wanted to send out 15 rules for their wedding. It's not a bad idea in theory, but the tone of the list, and some of the actual rules themselves, got people on the r/weddingshaming subreddit talking. 

There are a lot of good rules for your wedding, and most don't need to be spelled out for guests. For example, there's one rule which warns guests not to bring outside drinks… who does that? Rule #2 instructs guests not to "get in the photographer's way." Who hurt this couple enough that they felt the need to include such a demand? I don't think most guests are blocking the photographer just for fun.

In another confusing rule, the couple notes that they want there to be twerking, since it's a "99s and 2000s" themed wedding. That's confusing though, because I thought that was a more modern dance… and I wonder if they wanted people not to twerk for that reason. It's possible that was a typo, too! If so, they're going to have a lot of twerking at their wedding, whether they wanted that or not. 

Check out the rules below to see which ones you agree with, and which seem superfluous. Then, read about the woman engineer who got back at her coffee-drinking coworkers. 

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    If someone sent this to me I would simply just not go
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    Here's the list! Let's break it down and see what this couple has in mind.

    Wedding Rules 1. This is "'d and 1. big day, not yours. 2. Do not get in the photographer's way. 3. The attire is BLACK and/or GOLD not red, blue, green and definitely NO WHITE! 4. Do not rearrange seats, we have a seating chart for a reason. 5. If you didn't put out any money for the wedding, keep your should've, could've, would've to yourself. Your opinion is irrelavent. 6. Pace yourself when drinking. 7. No big annoucements or proposals. 8. If you can't handle or dislike the music being playe
    via u/VieleAud
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    Just in case the font is too small to read, here's what it says:

    Wedding Rules 1. This is ¨d and 1. big day, not yours. 2. Do not get in the photographer's way. 3. The attire is BLACK and/or GOLD not red, blue, green and definitely NO WHITE! 4. Do not rearrange seats, we have a seating chart for a reason.
    via u/VieleAud

    1. This is [redacted] and [redacted] big day, not yours. 

    2. Do not get in the photographer's way. 

    3. The attire is BLACK and/or GOLD not red, blue, green and definitely NO WHITE! 

    4. Do not rearrange seats, we have a seating chart for a reason.

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    5. If you didn't put out any money for the wedding, keep your should've, could've, would've to yourself. Your opinion is irrelavent. 6. Pace yourself when drinking. 7. No big annoucements or proposals. 8. If you can't handle or dislike the music being played, simply go home. This is a celebration, not a funeral.
    via u/VieleAud

    5. If you didn't put out any money for the wedding, keep your should've, could've, would've to yourself. Your opinion is irrelavent [sic].

    6. Pace yourself when drinking. 

    7. No big annoucements [sic] or proposals. 

    8. If you can't handle or dislike the music being played, simply go home. This is a celebration, not a funeral.

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    9. This is a "Taking over for the 99' & 2000's" type of event, so there will be twerking. 10. Use #T 11. Do not sit down all night. when posting pics. 12. No outside liquor. If caught, you will be escorted out. 13. Refer back to rule #1. 14. The bride and groom said what they said! 15. Turn ALLLL the way up!
    via u/VieleAud

    9. This is a "Taking over for the 99' & 2000's" type of event, so there will be twerking. 

    10. Use [couples' wedding hashtags] when posting pics.

    11. Do not sit down all night.  

    12. No outside liquor. If caught, you will be escorted out. 

    13. Refer back to rule #1. 

    14. The bride and groom said what they said! 

    15. Turn ALLLL the way up!

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    deep-fried- I mean none of these rules and expectations are particularly unreasonable, they're just worded hella aggressively. But then, the couple know their own friends and family better than any of us, and they very well may be the type of crowd that need rules stated very bluntly and clearly to understand that they're not just loose suggestions
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    MyGood Dood22 I feel like all of these could be rewritten to not sound like an
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    Anashenwrath Is my opinion vis a vis typos "irrelavent" as well?
    via u/Anashenwrath
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    KeyCommunicati... what kind of list is this too chaotic for me
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    JustALizzyLife Sorry grandma, you gots to go. You've been sitting there an hour now. Honestly, the dress code is enough for me to politely decline. I don't mind suggestions as far as
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    pigeononapear I mean, many of these things are just "Be a human who can function in public." If people on a guest list need to be told some of this...well, that's part of why I got married at city hall. But as an adult person possessed of basic human decency, I am rolling my eyes if this is a message to all guests.
    via u/pigeononapear
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    วา polarflower229 Spelling mistake hurts my soul. Especially as this was likely proofread.
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    Knittingfairy09113 Most of these are reasonable, but the aggressive phrasing is quite off-putting. Saying that people can't sit all night and that their hashtag has to be used are both very obnoxious, however.
    via u/Knittingfairy09113
  • 14
    cocktail wear, Sunday best, etc. but as a guest I'm not buying a new wardrobe for a wedding. Especially, if I never wear one of only two colors allowed.
    via u/Knittingfairy09113
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    TrippKatt3 People need to chill the f*ckk out about their wedding, its not a televised Coronation. Then again, I'm in the States without a king, which doesn't affect me either way.
    via u/TrippKatt3
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    ecltnhny2000 How am i supposed to turn up and not sit down at least id take so many once? selfies just sitting down using their hashtag lol
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