‘Cancel [your] wedding… show up to work instead’: Employee gets told to ‘prepare to cancel or reschedule’ their wedding after getting PTO denied by management

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    "I got told to cancel my wedding so that I can show up to work instead"
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    u/lavenderauraluna "Be prepared to cancel or reschedule your wedding to meet operational needs"
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    So yesterday I got told that when my wedding is already fully booked. Provided them a nearly year long notice in advance. But because they're getting rid of a bunch of
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    people, I got told to cancel my wedding so that I can show up to work instead. Can't even take leave without pay because it's not medical related so taking an unpaid day would also not be approved.
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    StolenWishes 2 hr. ago No brainer: get married on schedule. Vote Reply Share Brru 4 min. ago and invite everyone at your job to the wedding so they take time off to.
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    SheiB123 2 hr. ago Get married. They don't own you. ✰ Vote Reply Share Miyuki22 53 min. ago Correction, they only own you if you let them.
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    GrungyGrandPappy 4 min. ago Yeah them their lack of operational planning to the point that someone can't take a week or even a few days to get married is not OP's problem. Especially with all the advance notice so this isn't a surprise. I'd also be looking for a new job immediately.
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    mhkohne 2 hr. ago They either want you gone without having to pay unemployment, or they actually believe they are more important than your future wife. Are there any other signs they want you gone? I don't know that you'd win,
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    but you might talk to an employment lawyer about constructive dismissal. If nothing else, you might be able to get enough traction via the lawyer to not get canned when you go to your wedding, and give you plenty of time to find a new job.
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    Proper-District8608 1 hr. ago Bingo. "They're getting rid of a bunch of people" and expect this employee to quit. Talk to a lawyer op. No need to hire one at this point, just a consult.
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    Salt-Operation · 1 hr. ago Have your wedding and make them fire you. Collect unemployment. "I'm not asking for this time off. I'm giving you the courtesy of letting you know I am unavailable for this time. This isn't a request."
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    Lieutenant_Horn 1 hr. ago edited 1 hr. ago If your leave was already approved, take it. If it wasn't already approved, take it. If they mention you could be let go, remind them that your position being empty will cost them far more than the time taken off for your wedding, and then start looking for a new job upon your return.
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    SeeYouInTrees 54 min. ago Agreed. I bet they won't fire OP tho until after their wedding and after they've been tasked with training the replacement.
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    1717 mlh75 2 hr. ago Lack of planning on their part, does not constitute an emergency on your part. I'm a , so I would prepare an invoice of what has been paid (and still owing) toward the wedding and inform work that they need to cover the funds in order for you to work that shift, and then get married anyway.
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    The Eclipse0 1 hr. ago You provided a year long notice and they still couldn't plan around it? Not your problem. "A lack of planning on your end does not constitute an emergency on mine," I belive is how the saying goes.
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    hobopwnzor 57 min. ago Print out any emails you have confirming the date and that you were approved to be off. Then when they try to fire you and dispute your unemployment claim provide the emails. There isn't a person alive who is going to let them deny unemployment over a wedding that they had previously approved.
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    BedazzleTheCat 53 min. ago . edited 38 min. ago I changed jobs four months before my wedding. I told new job about the wedding and honeymoon during the interview process, at the time of accepting an offer, and during training (done at corporate headquarters for a few weeks). All said no problem, tell the site manager when you're there.
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    Manager says not a problem, put it in the request system. I do, and it gets rejected because I'm "too new" to take that much UNPAID vacation. I had decided i was going no matter what (didnt tell employer that), but a different job I had interviewed with followed back up with me to see if I was available and I took it. When I
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    gave notice the manager asked if it was because of the honeymoon, because "we could have worked something out." Don't miss out on the most important parts of life for work.
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    I_am_the_Jukebox . 8 min. ago "could have worked something out" They had that opportunity. They chose to not take it.
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    woman_thorned · 1 hr. ago They are trying to make you quit instead of firing you. Don't cave. Vote fuxino 1 hr. ago "Be prepared to Reply Share ... off" seems an appropriate response.
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    Technical_Inaji . 1 hr. ago Their failure to prepare with a years worth of notice is not on you. They can figure it out or go bankrupt trying.
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    Cassietgrrl 1 hr. ago Even in they legit want to keep you, they will OWN you if you cancel your wedding for this. You don't want to even begin to imagine the ways they'll take advantage of you if you give in to this ridiculous demand.

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