‘I can't eat the food in my own home’: Wife Files for Divorce After Husband Refuses to Admit He Purposely Tightens All the Food Jars in the House to Keep Her From Opening Them

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Jun 26, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Imagine being in a loving relationship with a person that you truly care about and that truly cares about you, and then imagine throwing all that away because of the most random reason ever. Not to say that I am condemning or even judging the woman in this Reddit story, but I only want to show that even the smallest and the most silly aspects of a relationship can cause its downfall.

In this Reddit story, the wife (OP, original poster) decided to divorce her husband over the most bizarre reason I have ever heard – she can't get him to admit that he purposely tightens all the food jars in their home, to a point in which she can't open them herself. She claims he does that with every single jar, including the ones he never uses himself. Poor OP cannot figure out why her husband does that, and since she can't even get him to admit that he is doing so, she finally hits a breaking point.

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    AITAH for filing for divorce because my husband over tightens all the jar lids?
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    His over tightening jar lids has been an issue since he was just visiting at my house when we were dating. First it started with just things he used and then over time it became every de
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    glass jar with a metal lid. He'd tighten them so much I couldn't open them without assistance. It wasn't a huge deal if he was there, but if I was alone, it was so annoying. More times than I
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    can count, I've opened a new jar of something because I couldn't get the jar open. It's been a recurring cycle over the past 5 years. It's just a thing that would escalate until I had a
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    major meltdown and freaked out, screaming, frustrated and seemingly crazy because it's just a lid. Then it would get better for a while, then it would slowly become an issue again.
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    Just getting worse and worse until I reach a breaking point again. Sometimes I literally feel insane for being so upset over jar lids.
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    He initially claimed that he did it to 'keep food fresh'. After many arguments about it, and my insistence that I don't believe it keeps anything fresh and even if it does make things last
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    longer I don't care if it means I can't eat my foking food when I want. I'll just replace things that go bad because they are closed normally. Then the excuse was that it's a habit.
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    So about a month ago my husband had a family emergency and had to travel out of state for 10 days. First day he's gone, I discover a jar I can't open. I was annoyed and
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    was going to the store to buy new pickles when the neighbor said hi and to let him know if I needed anything while stbex is out of town. I said wait here and got the jar which he opened.
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    The next day I saw him outside and asked him to open another jar. He offered to come open all the jars. I agreed and he came in and he went to the fridge and opened all the jars except 2, which he couldn't get open.
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    I thanked him profusely and told him I'd baked some of his favorite cookies later in the week. He laughed and said it was no big deal and after confirming that I wouldn't be
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    upset if the remaining two jars were destroyed in his attempt to open them, he took them home to his garage to open them one way or another.
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    He said that he's heard me screaming about over tightened jar lids a few times over the years and he's really pondered if I was crazy or if my husband was really over tightening the jar lids.
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    He said you know this was intentional. It was every jar, and I'm sure he doesn't regularly use hot pepper paste or mango puree or any of your other fancy cooking stuff. Then he
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    held up the two jars he couldn't open and said, I don't know why he's doing it but it wasn't an accident. After he left, I locked the door and sat on my kitchen floor and cried. Then I felt hot and light headed.
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    Later the neighbor came back with the opened jar of hot fudge and apologized that he couldn't save the figs. He said he broke the jar trying to get it open. He also apologized for what he said about my husband doing it on purpose. I assured him it was okay.
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    I couldn't sleep that night. Tossed and turned all night. I called out of work. By 10 am, I realized that I couldn't stay married anymore and I made an appointment with a lawyer for the next day.
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    There are literally no other issues, no cheating, no al se, we had a good life, both have good jobs, nice house, no financial issues. He was absolutely blindsided when he came home and I told him I wanted a divorce.
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    He still won't admit that he tightened the lids on purpose. He suggested we go to marriage counseling, but I refused. There is no point. I just literally can't get past the god d ed jar lids. I still feel a little bit crazy about that. I have no
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    idea why he would tighten every jar lid so tightly that I couldn't open it. He has given me no reason. He still won't even admit that he did it on purpose. But the hot pepper paste is in the back of the fridge. I use it only when I make
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    Indian food. It's behind other things. He's never used it. It's nothing you could put in food without cooking it. The pepper paste could not have been an accident. It couldn't. Maybe he
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    put mango puree on his toast or in his oatmeal, but the pepper paste couldn't have been an accident. That's what my life comes down to. I'm getting a divorce because the lid to my hot pepper paste was over tigh. If it
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    had been every jar except that one, I could try. I could have a sliver of doubt. I could do something else but I just can't get past the hot pepper paste. Most of our friends and families either think I'm crazy or an AH. What do you think?
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    Commercial_Place 9807. 14 hr. ago . edited 14 hr. ago I'm just imagining this dude sneaking into a dark kitchen every night to tighten all the jar lids while manically laughing.
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    luckyartie 14 hr. ago My ex told me he just didn't hear our two babies when they woke at night. Too tired, just didn't hear them. I believed him. When the younger kid was 3, the ex told me he'd lied! Smiled about
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    it. 'I knew you'd get up! Of course I heard every time'. Divorced him 6 months later. Like you, it stuck in my craw.
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    Jay Now 14 hr. ago OP before you move out buy his favorite jar foods and super glue all the lids.
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    Open-Incident-3601 · 14 hr. ago NTA. Your husband has spent five years deliberately making your life harder in tiny ways and then lying to your face to make you think you are crazy.
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    flobaby1 14 hr. ago All 33 years with my husband he did nothing but make my life better, easier. Know why? Because he loves me. Your man is trying to make your life harder, make you seem crazy, unhinged. That's not love.
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    It's not about the jars/lids. He not nurturing you, he's trying to make you dependent in some way however small a way it is. His ego has cost him you.
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    I too would not be able to trust my man if he did this type of behavior. And without trust...there is no relationship. NTAH
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