‘You’re ungrateful’: Woman Is Gifted Sister-in-law’s Wedding Dress to Wear at Her Upcoming Wedding, She Refuses to Wear It, Causing Potential Breakup

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    r/AITAH • 4 days ago Capital Manager_7070 AITA for refusing to wear the wedding dress my SIL gave to me as a "wedding gift"?
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    I(f27) met my fiance Jacob (m31) when I was 21. We've been together for 6 years and engaged for almost a year out of those. My mother's wedding dress has been passed down for generations and I remember being a little girl dreaming of walking down the aisle in it. We have recently been wedding planning and we were
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    invited to a dinner hosted by my fiance's family that was on Sunday.
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    When we arrived, we greeted everyone and sat at the table to eat.
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    SIL stood up and tapped her spoon against her glass and said that she had to make a toast.
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    She then said she would be right back before going into another room and returning with a large plastic bag. Everyone seemed to be excited but I just felt confused. I awkwardly smiled as I asked SIL what was inside the bag. She opened it up to reveal her wedding dress from her wedding which was 2 years ago.
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    Everyone began clapping as SIL announced that this was her official wedding gift to us and she wanted to me to wear her dress at the wedding. I tried to smile but I guess I didn't do a good job of hiding my disappointment and everyone began asking me what was wrong. I tried to explain how I wanted to wear my mother's
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    dress and that it was nothing personal, but that I refused to wear my SIL's dress. My SIL began crying as my in-laws began tearing into me and comforting her. I just burst into tears and ran outside. My fiance didn't even come after me and after crying my eyes out on the steps for what felt like hours, he finally came
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    outside and yelled at me to get into the car.
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    I was so confused, but I got into the car just to hear him berate me on how I had made such a big scene and embarrassed him infront of his family. He sounded
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    so mad and he even said he couldn't believe he chose to marry such a " " (his exact words). My fiance also said how SIL was just trying to be nice and that her dress was more modern compared to my mother's dress which looked like an "old rag" (also his exact words). I tried to tell him how
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    much my mothers wedding dress meant to me because I promised her that I would wear it.
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    I felt like my fiances family planned this and put me on the spot thinking I wouldn't stand up for myself and just agree to wear SIL's dress. I don't think I did anything wrong but a part of me thinks I should have just gone along with it and then told SIL in private that I wouldn't be wearing the dress. AITA?
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    No_Order_9676 • 4d ago Ma'am you need to leave that whole family behind including your fiance Definitely NTA. You just had a peak into your future if you carry on with this relationship
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    Affectionate-Tap1... .4d ago NTA. But be thankful that he is showing you who he really is before you marry him. You have just had a glimpse of what your future is going to look like if you go through with your wedding.
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    Top_Sherbert_2918 • 4d ago The problem doesn't exist as the wedding shouldn't be happening anymore.
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    Elliewick • 4d ago NTA I want to bet SIL did this cause the fiance has been complaining about the 'old rag' OP wants to wear.
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    It's bad enough he wants to dictate what OP will be wearing and does it in this manipulating way, but count in the complete disregard of her attachment to mom's dress, not having her back or checking on her, yelling, guilt tripping her, calling names and completely
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    disregarding her feelings and I can only make one conclusion: He is a POS and you need to leave him now! DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!
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    I know this but you deserve way better! You will find someone who actually cares about you. Sadly your fiance is not that man.
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    hip hop_sweetheart • 4d ago NTA - Tell him not to worry he won't be marrying you and then get away from him!
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    Striking Rip851 • 4d ago Run run so fast and so far. He called something important to you an old rag. This is not going to get better.
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    MizzyvonMuffling • 4d ago If it would be me there wouldn't be a wedding at all with this and his family. Don't marry this man!!

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