Entitled Husband Insinuates That Any Time He Watches His Children He Is Doing His Wife a Favor, SAHM Beyond Fed Up: ‘He's their dad and it's a part of his job’

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    AITA for telling my husband taking the kids for the day isn't "help"
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    I'm a stay at home mom of 2 young kids. My husband works, sometimes long hours..so I am usually in charge of the day to day routines/schedules/activities,
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    cooking meals, etc. It works out for us. He is taking this week off, and decided he would take the kids for today (all day) He told me I deserve a day to relax as this
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    week is our "vaca" for the summer. I ran some errands, and while out I spoke with my husband briefly about dinner. He asked if I would be home for
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    dinner, to which I replied yes. When I got home, his first question was "what are we doing for dinner" and I told him I assumed he would have already
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    figured that out, seeing as it's getting close to bed time for the kids. He said there was no food in the house and would go out to the store to grab groceries.. at this point it's getting late, so I
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    told him to just order food. He did (begrudgingly) and asked why I was so irritated and why I couldn't just do it, he said he "helped all day with the kids"
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    When I told him it's not help, he's their dad and it's part of his job, he lost it and told me I'm being an Am i wrong for saying that? ? Am I the
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    kiwihoney 19h ago Aficionado [19] NTA. This idea that dads watching the kids equates to "babysitting" or "helping out mom" instead of dads simply doing their jobs as fathers has got to go.
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    You are absolutely 100 correct here. Time to have a serious sit down with your husband to talk about parental responsibilities and equity in the parental load.
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    Yes, you are a stay-at-home mom but you are working all day, just like he is. He should stay home with the kids alone all day for 5 days in a row while you go out of the house during his normal
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    office hours. Give him a list of everything that you do during the weekdays (kid stuff of course but also cleaning, shopping, scheduling, activities, cooking dinner, etc). At the
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    end of those five days, sit down together and discuss what his days were like - I guarantee he will understand that you are truly working and he won't be so glib with his whole "helping with the kids" routine.
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    Alternative_Tone... • 18h ago As a father, I say NTA. My children are all grown now, but when they were young I took care of them as much as my wife. We both did laundry, dishes, and kept things moving throughout the day. While my wife did most of the cooking, I definitely took my turn.
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    Once I was shopping with my children without my wife. Another man who was shopping with his wife and kids looked at me and asked, "You got stuck babysitting today?" My response was that I NEVER babysit my children. I take
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    care of them, I raise them and I am part of their lives. The grin on his face dropped away and me mumbled something like "I was only joking" as he walked away. Men in America need to step up and be active parents, not just bystanders in the lives of their children
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    Sea-Poetry-950 · 17h ago "Vaca week" and you get a few hours to yourself one day and still need to make dinner?! Yea, some men need to really step it up and realize they are parents, not babysitters.
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    thehollowedhearts 18h ago Not the Dads don't babysit their kids. It's called parenting. Just because he's not the default parent doesn't mean he's a babysitter.
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    ExaminationDry3... • 16h ago NTA and that wasn't a day off either! A day off for moms is where you get to take care of only yourself and do the things you want to do, it also includes a full nights sleep. It does not include running errands or even being asked what's for dinner.
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    Buckupbuttercup1 • 17h ago He is not a babysitter or a family member helpingnout. He is half responsible for their creation and thus they're his responsibility. He doesn't get to "help out" he does his duty as a parent, its not a one way street. NTA
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    louisebelcherxo • 16h ago Nta. So he takes a week off and expects to still not do. his share with the kids because you're a sahm? And you get one day off because he so generously gives you a vacation day? He's not your boss. He shouldn't get to dictate when he's willing to "help" with the kids. You're absolutely right, he was doing his job.
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    alicat777777 15h ago • It's rough when you have small kids. As a stay-at- home mom, obviously you have the bulk of the housework. But when he gets home, you both need to have some time to yourself. Just try to get through these years. NTA. I get it, it's tough for you both.

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