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‘What is this woman’s deal?!’: Married Couple Are Newcomers to Their Neighborhood, Obsessive Neighbor Won't Stop Bothering Woman's Husband and She's Fed Up

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    The neighbor is obsessed with my husband.
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    My husband and I (both 39) just bought a house. The house has a shared yard area with another house. The yard area is also the very long driveway so fences can't be added anywhere. Both houses are behind a large shared fence.
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    I should have known something was up because the realtor kept ignoring my questions about the neighbor until signing. Then she gave a brief summary that sounded perfectly fine. "A single woman, around 50, works as a nurse so she is gone a lot, has 1 dog thats very friendly and owns a horse at the stables down the street".
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    My husband was working long hours so I basically moved into our house alone. Or with the help of our daughters (twins, 16). During this time I noticed she was home a few of the days but never came outside. Cool, Im outgoing but also get social anxiety so fine by me lol Saturday comes around
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    and my husband is home and can help move bigger items in. The second we got there this woman tripped trying to run out of her house so fast to say hello. I thought it was weird but nothing to harp on and we went about unpacking after a 10 min convo.
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    It been 6 months now and Im starting to really lose my cool. If Im outside, she will wave through the window. If my daughters go outside with our puppy, she goes inside and closes the blinds. If my husband walks out to talk to any of us or to take the dog out BOOM she is outside and in his face.
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    She will talk and talk for so long I usually give up and go inside. She will talk my husband's ear off for up to an hour MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY. On one hand, hey, at least its not me she is obsessed with lol but on the other hand Ive never been allowed to sit on my porch with just my husband. I can't
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    talk to him for more than 15 seconds before she runs over with her dog. I wanted to stain the deck but I cant imagine being forced to stay outside with her all weekend while we work. I even returned a patio set my mom bought us because we could never sit outside and have a meal and I don't want chairs for her to sit on and get more comfortable, which she absolutely would.
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    I think I would understand more if she was older, lonely, had no social life. But she does! She actually has friends over every week. Right this moment she has some people over but is still standing in front of my husband's car talking his ear off while ignoring her guests. All her family and friends know who my husband is. WHY?! We don't know any of them.
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    The sort of snapping moment where I hit my limit was last night. My daughter was outside training the puppy. My husband had to go help her. He goes outside and this lady trips over our puppy, stands between my husband and daughter (back to my daughter) to have my husband say "hi" to her sister
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    on facetime. WHY?! Why is this happening?! And hurting our puppy... and the kind of pushing my daughter outta the way (not physically touching of course). Turns out my daughters have noticed this a lot. I didn't realize she was making them uncomfortable too but she has been.
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    I vented about it to our other neighbor. Turns out similar things happened with the previous owner and its a big reason. she sold her house!!! Now what?! I cant get sprinklers, I cant get a fence or bushes to block anything. What is this woman's deal?! What do I do? I really want to know what her deal is.
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    SnooWords4839 • 17h ago Hubby needs to start ignoring her. You need to plant trees, put up a trellis and other things to block her view, so you can enjoy your yard. Tell her to get the your property.
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    Snoodlesboo • 16h ago As hard as it is, hubby needs to put his foot down. "Hey, I'm in the middle of something and you're interrupting." "I need you to leave so I can spend time with my family." "You are making me uncomfortable with. how often you show up uninvited at my home." It doesn't matter if her feelings get hurt, this woman is unhinged and REALLY disrespectful. He doesn't need to be mean, but he does need to be firm and unapologetic. It if she gets offended, but that is HER issue, not yo
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    Tinker-Belle-60 • 17h ago 6 months of this behavior is unacceptable. Tell the wench to back off. He's your husband and she is intruding where she is not wanted. I would not have been nice for 6 months. Your husband needs to start turning around and walking away from her. I feel bad for the pup and your daughters as they are innocents in this. You have to draw the line before she tries to cross it more than she already has.
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    CampHitaga • 14h ago Why are people afraid to set boundaries with neighbors? Can you kindly express to her that you don't want her to come over every time the husband is out as you have things you need to get done. Have hubby carry his phone and call him if she is there. "Sorry (neighbors name) but I don't have time to talk to you today, Good bye!" People will only take advantage of you if you let them.
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    bippityboppitynope • 16h ago She has a crush on your husband. He needs to nip it in the bud by not engaging and telling her he is busy.
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    Leaf-Stars 15h ago I have a female friend who gets quite a bit of unwanted male attention. When they can't take a hint, and that happens very frequently, she jams her finger up her nose and fishes around for a bit. By the time she pulls it back out, they're gone. It might work for your husband as well.
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    Umerican Dreamer • 16h ago . Sounds like this one is on hubs. If I were him, I would just be totally frank. That I am flattered by her attention, but am very happily married, and don't find having lengthy and personal conversations with a female neighbor to be appropriate, as it makes myself and my family uncomfortable.
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    Suzywoozywoo . 4h ago Every time she comes out of her house, your family should stop what you are doing and all run inside and close the front door. Every single time. She would soon get the message. Plus it would be hilarious
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    Ituzem 10h ago . You already hate her so it won't hurt to talk to her. How you are not happy with her behaviour. And about the previous owners of the house and the reason they sold the house.
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    AdorationOx • 9h ago Get a security camera. Make sure all interactions are on film. When/if hubby finally puts his foot down (weird that je hasn't already) you'll want evidence and a record in case she retaliates
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    DrEmileSchaufhaussen • 12h ago Maybe make a "joke" (or five) about how she's into your husband. If she is, she'll realize you're onto her, and ideally cool it. If she's not, I'd think she'd be too embarrassed to continue on the way she is. But I guess that's assuming she's rational?

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