Egotistical father squanders his underaged son's inheritance from grandma, years later, the son gives him an ultimatum to pay back the $250,000 in exchange for a relationship with his grandkids: 'It's restitution'

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    "My parents could be a part of my kid's lives if they gave me my inheritance"
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    AITAH for telling my parents they could be a part of my kid's lives if they gave me my inheritance.
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    My grandparents passed away when I was very young. They left me an inheritance that would have paid for my education and helped me get started in life.
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    If my parents had left it alone I would be in a good place. My cousins and older sister are all debt free and own their own homes.
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    My dad decided that he could do better than the account my grandfather left my money in.
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    I got $27,000 when I was old enough to get my money. That was about 10% of what everyone else got. My parents also lost a bunch of money that had been left to my mom.
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    I have cut my parents out of my life. They were not invited to my wedding and they have not met my kids.
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    My sister is child free so I have their only grandchildren. My parents want to be a part of their lives. I said that if they replaced my money, with interest, I would forgive them and allow them to meet my kids.
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    They say that I'm being ridiculous and that the amount of money I'm asking for would put a huge dent in their retirement fund. I asked them how much they would have if my idiot father didn't think he knew better than my grandfather?
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    My sister thinks I'm being mean. I told her that she was welcome to give me her money if she didn't think it was a factor. She said she wasn't going to do that. I also suggested she go have a kid if she wants them to have grandchildren. Once again that was not an option.
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    It has been years, obviously, and I'm still that they stole my future just for my father's ego. To show he could turn a profit investing like my grandfather had. AITA?
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    Bertie-Marigold "A huge dent in their retirement fund" means they have it, and they owe it to you, so it's not a dent, it's restitution. NTA
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    Ok Perception1207 .5 hr. ago I'd be taking them to court over it. If they took OPS inheritance then it would be theft, no? Doesn't sound like it was chump change either.
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    Sweett_Moons . 4 hr. ago It's your life, your money, and your children. You're entitled to set your own terms for reconciliation, and it's up to your parents to decide if they're willing to meet them.
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    No_Cockroach4248.6 hr. ago You were a minor, your parents were trustees of your Inheritance. If they were not qualified to invest the money, they should have sought professional advice. You have to be monumentally irresponsible to lose 90%.
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    Far-Season-695.7 hr. ago NTA family doesn't automatically mean access to kids. You gave them terms and it's up to them to decide.
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    • LuRouge 6 hr. ago People need to put protections and lock on money they leave for grandkids so this doesn't happen. I'm a cynic so I'm alway cautious. Don't matter if it's my son/daughters kids. I'm leaving it for them. Only they are touching it. Tell your sister to leave her opinions to herself since she got wjat she was left. You got what was left over.
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    Fair Trade Advocate .5 hr. ago Yup. My grandpa left his great- grandkids money (2 of which are mine) and left it in a trust. My sister & I didn't get anything, but every quarter the trust mails my kids a check. The check is made out to them so it has to go into their account. Because they're minors I'm on the account, but on their 18th birthday it becomes theirs
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    JanetInSpain 6 hr. ago Wah wah wah, they blew that money and they owe it to you. It wasn't left to them. It was left to you. You are not being mean. You're being logical and realistic. That's the price of interacting with their grandkid. Pay up or shut up. This IS a hill to die on. You are NTA. "But family" is a stupid reason to keep or allow abusive people in your life.
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    BlueGreen 1956.6 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Your parents seemed not to grasp the idea that actions have consequences.
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    sillyHannahX 5 hr. ago and maybe they never will, all they might get are mean stares and a lot of shouting, no real repercussions
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    joe-lefty500 6 hr. ago NTA. Consider getting a lawyer. They've stolen your money
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    Prettylicious_barbie . 6 hr. ago NTA like you've been through a lot with this situation, and your feelings are completely valid. Losing a significant portion of your inheritance because of your parents' decisions must be incredibly frustrating and hurtful.
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    shoresandsmores . 6 hr. ago Sounds like they could pay you back but won't, so they are choosing not to see their grandkids.

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