Man Plans Surprise Divorce After Finding Out That His Wife Agreed to Be Her Best Friend's Infidelity Alibi During a 'Girl's Trip'

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    r/AITAH u/Hairy-Union-7654.5h AITAH for being very upset that my wife is helping her friend cheat on her husband
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    A while ago, my wife and her friend went on a weekend trip, which seemed fine. Turns out, the friend didn't really want to go on the trip, she was meeting a guy ("her best friend, her soulmate"). Apparently, these two have been messaging each other for years.
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    My wife didn't know this, but obviously found out about it, and told me, but she just ignored it because it wasn't our business, we didn't tell the husband. It was a weird,, kind of thing. I do not know the husband at all, i barely know this friend. I was thinking "not my circus, not my monkeys". SO HERE'S THE THING.
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    The friend asked my wife to go on another trip, and that she will pay (probably about $3k) for the sole purpose of cheating on her husband again. My wife was gleefully ecstatic about going on a free trip. She will be the alibi for her friend cheating. AITAH for being outraged, feeling betrayed, feeling that our marriage is a joke, and frankly wanting to end it. If her and "the girls" make such a farce of marriage, and help each other out and cover for each other cheating, is our marriage?
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    I am seriously considering telling my wife that she can make her own decisions, but they have consequences. And when she returns for the fest cheating weekend, the locks will be changed and the divorce papers will be pinned to the front door. ↑ 2,754 1,110
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    NTA RaddishSlaw • 5h Ask your wife if you were cheating, would she want people to tell her? ... Reply 726
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    Ok-Telephone2918 • 2h THIS. Just because her friend claims the side piece is her soulmate, that is no excuse to help them cheat. A truly good friend would never go along with this. 163
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    No_Ice_7361 • 5h My guess is it's a double date this time. ← Reply 797
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    virtualchoirboy • 4h What makes you think it wasn't last time? 324
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    NTA BlueGreen 1956 • 5h Divorce her. If she would assist someone else cheating, you can bet she would have no problem asking her friend to do the same for her. Reply 410
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    theeangeline • 2h Before making any irreversible decisions, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your wife about your feelings. Explain how her involvement in her friend's infidelity affects you and your perception of your marriage. Clear communication might help both of you understand each other's values and expectations better. ... Reply 51
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    Beneficial-Bad-2125 • 1h I agree with this. I am firmly in the anti-cheating camp, and agree with other people who have stated that this casts doubts on the wife's position on fidelity in marriage. But, it is still possible that there are extenuating circumstances, and she's glossing over why her friend is looking for love in other places, and revealing her friend could put them in danger if she's actually trying to escape a controlling/ violent spouse. 10
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    Worried_Ad_8387 • 10h Just in case you read my comment I'd like to clarify my suspicions just in case I nail it. I think she might be throwing you a red herring. I think she's the cheater and has always been. Do you have any evidence from the friend that says otherwise?
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    I think she set the stage to ease your suspicions for later trips. Logically who pays $3000 for a cover story. Or is your wife creating a believable scenario that explains why her trips is paid for. It's being paid for by the dude she's banging brotha. -Batman 399
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    reeeeeeco • 9h Interesting theory. You're right, $3000 for an alibi is a bit weird especially if they're "best. friends". Can't she just verbally lie to say they went on a trip together without actually going and "third wheeling" 151
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    Legal Statistician172 • 9h Ya dude lol. The old Chinese saying... "if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you" 1000000% your wife is cheating on you too. This is likely her way of soft-telling you / rationalizing it warming the waters. You think she is just going on a vacation and knitting quilts while her buddy is getting pounded into oblivion.
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    Your wife's participation in all of this already shows you that she doesn't value marriage and allows low integrity people in her life. you didn't even care about the first time. You kept that secret too. You allowed yourself to allow this behavior.
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    It's called conditioning. And all you will do is delay the inevitable. You will continue to live w stress, paranoia, and misery. Just get it over with The most valuable asset anyone has is time... and you are choosing to waste yours every. Single. Day. 76 Reply 1 more reply
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    chzeman 8h • NTA. My ex-wife cheated on me non-stop. People knew, but they didn't facilitate it. Your wife is the AH. Plot twist... Your wife is the one cheating and using her friend as the alibi. I'm not saying that's what is happening, but it's certainly a possibility. Reply 36
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    HeyDude378 • 13h My first wife started developing feelings for a man she met online, and became besties with a woman in the same community who was a cheater. They made their own little "cheating is okay" bubble and about their husbands together and told each other about their affairs. Her other friends -- all the ones who had actually met me and knew I wasn't how she was telling people I am -- when they found out she was cheating on me, they stopped being friends with her. ← Reply Ŵ 47 ♡

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