Man Refuses to Attend Brother’s Wedding After Learning His Cheating Ex is Invited, He Retaliates By Removing His Financial Share of Wedding Costs

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    r/AITAH • 14 hr. ago TheGramarNasi AITA for Refusing to Pay for My Brother's Wedding After He Invited My Ex?
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    So, here's the situation: My (28M) younger brother (25M) is getting married soon, and I was excited for him, until I found out he decided to invite my ex-girlfriend (27F) to the wedding. Now, let me give you some background. We broke up over a year ago, and it was pretty rough. She cheated on me with his best friend, and it
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    took me months to get over that betrayal.
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    When I found out she was invited, I was furious and reached out to my brother to express my feelings. I told him that I would not attend if she was there. Instead of being understanding, he got defensive and accused me of ruining his big day. He insisted that he wanted her there because
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    they've become friends since the breakup and that she's "changed." I told him that if I'm not welcome, then I won't be attending, and therefore, I won't be covering my share of the wedding expenses, which I had already agreed to pay before the invitation fiasco.
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    Now, my family is pulling me in every direction, saying I'm being petty and ruining my brother's wedding for no reason. They're calling me an " " for not supporting my brother and for potentially putting a financial strain on his wedding plans. Some even suggested I should it up and attend for the just sake of family.
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    I've now decided that I'm not paying for a single thing and that if he wants to have a wedding with my ex as the guest of honor, it's on him to cover the costs. Am for standing my I the ground and refusing to fund my brother's wedding under these circumstances?
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    . Temptress_Lottie ⚫ 14h ago NTA. Your brother is being completely insensitive to your feelings by inviting your ex, especially considering how the breakup happened. It's his wedding, but he needs to understand that his choices have consequences. You're
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    not obligated to pay for something you're not comfortable with.
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    A... • 14h ago Edited 11h ago NTA. But what is the deal with all these people paying for siblings' weddings? When did that become a thing????
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    Individual_You_6... • 14h ago Why is this "paying for sibling's wedding" even a thing? If he's old enough to get married, he's old enough to cover his own expenses.
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    Why are people adamant about throwing a party they can't afford? If your family thinks you are ruining it, they can chip in.
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    External-Medicin... • 14h ago NTA this woman betrayed and hurt you and now your brother is friends with her and she's "changed". Don't pay, don't go. Hold strong and give your brother a "I told you so" when she cheats on his best friend.
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    You're brother is showing you how important you are to him. Believe him.
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    WeegieBirb 14h ago This sounds like your ex and the ap friend are still together, and your brother wants to ignore your trauma in favor of checking boxes of who attends...
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    NTA, obviously. Brother is stupid for inviting her. She's stupid for agreeing to go. Your family in general is stupid for trying to sweep this under the rug as though your feelings don't matter.
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    TheGramarNasi OP 14h ago Just to clarify, I'm not upset about the wedding itself, but about the fact that he invited someone who hurt me deeply. I feel like my feelings don't matter to him, and frankly, I'm tired of being the one expected to just roll over.
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    a... 14h ago • Edited 14h ago Your brother is choosing a cheater over you. Go on a trip and be out of town on his wedding day. And under no circumstances do you help pay for any of his wedding. He should hit your ex up for money being that they're so close and all.
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    Camalean-86 12h ago Did your brother also get a turn with her?
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    soft_riley 13h ago you're totally the jerk [*insert my sarcasm] Obviously, ignoring your feelings and paying for a wedding where your ex is the star guest is the "family" thing to do. If they want a circus, let them pay for it.

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