‘She's not going to like it but I'm not going to care’: Employee requests time off a year in advance, manager says that they're ‘being inconsiderate’ of fellow employees

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Sep 18, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Requesting time off is stressful. It shouldn't be, but having to plan things many months to years in advance means you need to have all of your ducks in a row before even thinking about requesting vacation time at your job. The next hurdle is getting that approved by management, who more often than not have some sort of issue with the number of days or specific holidays you request off. In terms of part-time work, managers have to work out scheduling, especially in the customer service industry. So, taking off very far in advance should be a good thing, right? You'd think.

When you request off, say, in a one-day-a-week part-time gig, you're not missing much. The original poster (OP) of this story has a full-time position and a part-time gig. Their full-time job approved their vacation days and now, they're just waiting for the Sunday job to approve. Instead of their days being approved, they were essentially scolded by management about how they were being inconsiderate of other employees. Inconsiderate would look like not informing them of any vacation and just not showing up. What do you think?

Scroll to read the entire story, and additionally, some commenters' two cents on the debacle.

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    I'm being inconsiderate for booking my holidays in a year advance.
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    I have 2 jobs. Managed to secure my holidays for next year from april 2025 - Mar 2026 in my full time job with no issue because apparently we were told to book our holidays as early as possible to avoid disappointments. I also have a Sunday job in a
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    small shop and have attempted to book my holidays to align with the holidays in my main job on the work portal for my manager to approve. She left it for two weeks before telling me bluntly that I should have considered other staff
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    who also works there that I can't just book a whole year of holiday and that I should consider to give everyone a chance because some haven't book their holidays from this year and so and so.
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    From what I'm getting from her that I am being selfish and I should wait for everyone book theirs before mine. But from my understanding with holidays we should give
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    plenty of notice as possible and it's first come first served. If I wait I be end up not getting the holidays I want. But that's her opinion. I could of told her that to stick up myself as she always an unpleasant one but she's
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    my boss so don't want to stir trouble. What's worse is she doesn't even know how to approve holidays as she's still new to her role. She didn't say I can't have my holiday but she needs time to figure things out, which I don't
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    know when as she's always so busy with her jobs - I know it's not easy to be a manager but it left a bitter taste after she said that. Could of just told me she could look into it first as it so long in advance and calender
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    might not be visible in system but she said too much. My colleagues who were there thought it was unreasonable. What do you guys think? I don't like the idea to book all my holidays all in one go but it seems that if I
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    leave it later then I don't get the holidays I want. Edit: I feel like talking to our area manager about it. I haven't met her personally before but she have approved my holidays like this with no
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    issues when there was no manager. But doing so means that I be prepared to start war with my manager lol. I might give it a month or so and text my manager to see. If no joy I be contacting the area manager and see. I
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    am keeping records of our communication, text and written handing over notes that anything about the holiday just in case as I believe her comments were very unreasonable. Edit 2: the holidays I booked are just normal
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    Sundays except Easter Sunday that they don't open. Trying to spread it evenly through out the year. She didn't even look at the dates and just blew me away by saying that I'm not giving others a chance and saying I'm.
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    not the only one who works here. My other job I work with 100s of people, I shouldn't have to consider everyone first before I book mine and it's first come first served. Of course I avoid major holidays but I did
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    book Easter off by accident on my full time job and they let me lol but I will be back on Easter monday. Edit 3: Got in contact with my area manager as it's really bothering me. Tried to not come off as a
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    moaner but just stating the facts. She seems understanding about it. Manager will be spoken to and asked to contact me about it afterwards. She's not going to like it but i'm not going to care.
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    Let's hope I do get the dates and I will be prepared for difficult times at work. Starting to hunt for new jobs. Thanks for all your helpful comments.
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    Clean_Fact... • 21h ago It's a pt job. If you don't get the vacation time you need, you take the vacation anyway; if you really need a pt job you get a different one later
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    Normalize-Speedos • 22h ago Planning ahead helps everyone. That your new manager doesn't understand that tells us she's not going to do well in the job. FWIW I am planning all of 2025, and looking at 2026 now. NTA
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    • Vegetable Owl_4614 OP 22h ago Yeah she isn't. She isn't making targets of sale. Granted she works hard and stays late but no excuse for that attitude. Sadly she is like that before she got promoted and now being my boss is just not nice but she had to force herself to play nice for the job as a lot have left and not much staff for her to upset. I have a feeling I will be looking for another job as the shop may not survive if we keep not making targets plus she isn't a nice person overall. I al
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    • EnigmaGuy 20h ago Planning early as possible. should be the norm, it typically doesn't stop the "seniority first if by this date" setup some places. have, but it should give a good argument to them for 'you knew about this
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    for months because I requested it months ago, why have you not planned accordingly?' It does being a manager and having everyone wanting the EXACT SAME popular days off (Opening day for
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    sports, Super Bowl Monday, days before and after federal holidays) so wonder if she is trying to make sure everyone has a chance to rotate them instead of the same people having them year after year.
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    • Illustrato... 16h ago They're not holiday requests, they're notice you won't be available to work those dates G
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