Woman Demands to Wear Her Late Mother’s Wedding Dress at Sister-in-law’s Wedding, the Bride Refuses to Let Her, Starting Family Controversy

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 4, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Weddings are becoming more and more a beacon of drama it seems. From family members being uninvited, to people wanting to wear wedding dresses to someone else's wedding, weddings are more and more like a circus, in my opinion. 

That's exactly what happens in this Reddit story. The original poster (OP) is a woman who's engaged to be married, and whose brother is in a relationship as well. Her brother's partner's mother has recently died, and the woman is demanding to wear her late mother's wedding dress at the wedding. Now, I understand grief can do crazy things to us, but….this? Even if the bride in question says yes, why would you want to wear a wedding dress to someone else's wedding…? Seems strange, and the person would be labeled more than unhinged. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    r/AITAH 9 hr. ago [deleted] AITA for refusing to let my brother's fiancée wear her late mother's wedding dress at my wedding?
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    So, I (28F) am getting married in two months, and I've planned every detail down to the last flower petal. It's my dream wedding, and I've been saving and planning for years. Here's where things get tricky.
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    My younger brother (26M) is engaged to his fiancée, Emma (24F), and she recently lost her mom in a tragic accident. Emma and I have always gotten along fine, but we're not super close. Anyway, her mom had a very beautiful, expensive wedding dress that Emma inherited, and it means a lot to her.
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    A few days ago, Emma came to me in tears asking if she could wear her late mom's wedding dress to my wedding as a guest. I was shocked because this felt... off? Like, I totally understand that she wants to honor her mom, but I just feel like a wedding dress at someone else's wedding is not the time or place. Especially since
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    she knows I have a very specific theme, color palette, and vibe for my day.
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    I told her gently that I didn't think it was appropriate, and she started crying, saying it was the only way she felt her mom could be with her during a major family event. She said she'd never get to see her mom at her own wedding, and wearing the dress felt like a way to keep that connection. I felt for her, but I
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    held firm that my wedding wasn't the right time for that.
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    Well, now my brother is furious with me, saying I'm heartless and selfish, and a bunch of family members have started to take sides. Some say Emma's request is deeply sentimental and that I'm being too rigid about "wedding rules," while others agree that it's weird for a guest to wear a wedding dress at someone else's wedding.
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    Emma hasn't spoken to me since, and my brother says they're considering not coming to the wedding at all unless I change my mind. My fiancé is supportive of me, but I'm starting to feel guilty because I know this is tied to grief, and I don't want to be the bad guy.
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    AITA for refusing to let her wear her late mother's wedding dress to my wedding?
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    Flashy_Confusio... • 9h ago I don't understand why she doesn't wear it to her own wedding. Why would she wear it as a guest to someone else's wedding?
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    Zookeepergame... • 9h ago NTA that's just crazy. She can wear it for her own wedding
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    juzme99 9h ago • She can wear her mum's dress to her own wedding, the hide of her trying to high-jack your wedding and using her grief to steal the spot light at your wedding. Their is never a right time for anyone to wear a wedding dress to someone's
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    dress to someone's wedding. Like you want everyone talking about her mother's death at your wedding. It is also disgusting your brother trying to rally family members and alluding to not attend. Major family event, she is not family yet.
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    Top_Sheepherde... • 8h ago. NTA - Emma needs grief counseling. If she wants to honor her mother with the dress, she needs to wear it at her own wedding. If she already has a different dress, she can wear one for the ceremony and the other for the reception.
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    YOUR wedding is not the time or place for your brother's SO to honor her mom in such a grandstanding manner -and it took a lot of gall for her to even ask. Something subtle like jewelry that would not take away from your spotlight would be a totally different story, and I am
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    pretty sure wouldn't even need to be asked about. The only parents/ grandparents that would have any place being honored at YOUR wedding are yours and your fiancé's - not your brother's SO's, not your best friend's, not the MOH's or the Best Man's.
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    Beautiful Metal... 8h ago. Hire security. She will show up or change into it or there will be a huge spectacle at your wedding. Don't doubt it. Just do it if you care about your wedding and it going the way you want please trust me give them pics of both of them and tell them about the dress Set up
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    them about the dress Set up passwords with your vendors so she doesn't try to change anything
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    kam49ers4ever • 8h ago NTA. This is very strange. I mean, it's your brothers future mil. Would she have even been invited to your wedding? Any event for your family is not the place to honor her family.
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