Woman Demands Coworker Give Up Vacation Days to Accommodate Her Honeymoon, She Refuses, Sparking Controversy in the Office

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    r/AITAH 9 hr. ago GenTube0 AITAH for refusing to give up my vacation days so my coworker can go on her honeymoon?
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    I work at a small company where vacation time is pretty limited, and we have to request it months in advance. I put in my request almost a year ago to take a two- week vacation during the holidays. My plan was to visit family, who live out of the country, something I only get to do once every few years.
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    Recently, a coworker of mine, who's getting married, came up to me and asked if I'd be willing to give up my vacation days so she could go on her honeymoon. She apparently didn't realize how quickly the days would fill up and waited too long to request her time off. Now, the only way she can go is if someone cancels, and
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    since I have one of the longest vacation blocks, she came to me first. I told her I was really sorry, but I can't give up my time. This trip means a lot to me, and it's the only time I can see my family this year. She wasn't happy and told me I was being selfish for not accommodating her "once-in-a- lifetime" event. Now, a few other
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    coworkers are chiming in, suggesting I could be more flexible since I don't have "special circumstances" like a wedding.
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    I feel bad, but I also planned this trip far in advance, and it's important to me. AITA for not giving up my vacation so she can go on her honeymoon?
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    Spoopyowo •9h ago • NTA, I am assuming she planned her wedding for a while, it's not your problem. that she didn't think ahead. Enjoy your vacation!!
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    clearheaded01 • 8h ago • NTA Apparently her own honeymoon was not important enough to secure time off for it.
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    Amazing_Reality... 8h ago • NTA You are not being selfish. Her poor planning does not constitute an emergency for you. She should have planned better. and put in for the time off as soon as she could. Now she's got to deal with the consequences of her procrastination.
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    If she or your other coworkers keep giving you a bad time about this, take it to HR or your boss. It's not ok for them to be pressuring you and guilt tripping you about this. They're bullying you and creating a hostile work environment.
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    peakpenguins •9h ago • NTA, it's not your fault she waited so long to request the time off, and seeing your family is not less important than her honeymoon.
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    If people don't back off I wouldn't be afraid to pull some I like "I have to go, my grandma is dying!" and watch them all feel real awkward. lol
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    ☐ Unpleasant_Adv... • 8h ago NTA, the wedding and honeymoon should also have been planned well in advance. •
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    Own-Whereas-7... • 9h ago • Absolutely NOT. NTA, I repeat, NTA!! And the peanut gallery coworkers you have need to hush. You aren't selfish for taking the time that you put in well in advance. People make me sick she can reschedule their honeymoon trip, it
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    doesn't HAVE to be right after the wedding.
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    PenelopeShoots • 8h ago • I took my honeymoon six months after the wedding. There is no rule that is HAS to happen after the wedding. SHE'S being selfish. How do they know you aren't visiting sick family? Just tell her it's an important trip, you can't
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    change it, and don't give details. If she asks for details, say you don't feel comfortable sharing private information with a stranger. (you work together, but she treats you poorly, so really, she's a stranger, no matter how friendly you thought things were)
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    To be honest, "didn't realize how quickly the days would fill up" sounds like they didn't plan the wedding much in advance (it haven't been planning it for years, maybe a short while) and figured people would bend to them. They can reschedule if they only
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    started planning recently and pick dates that line up for both the wedding and honeymoon.
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    FionaFierce11 • 8h ago • 50% of weddings are once in a lifetime events. The other 50% plan better. NTA

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