Thoughtless husband gets a fast food burger for his wife and puts it in the fridge, lashes out when wife doesn't thank him for his 'grand gesture': 'What gesture? You picked up fast food'

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    AITA for surprising my wife with food she mentioned wanting, but not getting exactly what she expected?
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    My wife has mentioned in the past that she wanted to try the Krabby Patty burger and a pineapple Frosty from Wendy's. On my way home from work, I decided to surprise her. I picked up a Krabby Patty burger, a chicken sandwich for myself, and two pineapple Frostys. I knew she was about an hour away, so I told her I had a surprise waiting for her when she got home.
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    To keep the food fresh, I put her burger in the fridge and the Frosty in the freezer. I even ordered the burger without lettuce, thinking I could avoid it getting soggy, and we have lettuce at home that we could add fresh.
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    When she got home, she was excited about the Frosty and asked, "Is there a Krabby Patty burger too?" I told her to check the fridge, and that's when things went downhill. She got upset because the burger was cold and I didn't get fries. She said that real "justice" would have been me waiting for her to come home so we could both get fresh food together, or at least putting my food in the fridge too, so we'd both be eating cold food.
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    She accused me of always expecting grand thanks for doing gestures that aren't as big as I think they are and said I didn't listen to her, since she wanted the full meal, not just the burger and Frosty. She also said she's not going to pretend to be grateful for something that wasn't what she asked for.
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    I was just trying to do something nice, and now I feel like my gesture was totally unappreciated. AITA?
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    . Cultural_Section_862 12h ago • What gesture? you picked up fast food. Don't act like you slaved away in that drive thru. not to mention leftover fast food is nasty. You didn't even wait to share the meal with her ffs yea YTA
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    • lordmwahaha 11h ago • - This! I admit I'm not the norm but there are certain fast foods I actually can't eat hours later, because they just don't keep well. The gesture means nothing if it's obvious that no thought was actually put into it. Also the way she's talking makes this sound like a recurring problem.
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    Razzlesndazzles • • 8h ago Edited 7h ago • At first glance it's like "god what an extreme reaction" but after you read it a few times you start to notice how OP talks about picking up a food she mentioned liking in the past like it's this super special considerate thing and how he even texted he has a "surprise" for her at home which makes you go wait: how come when she said "I want to eat the Krabby Patty" he didn't go "cool, lets go get it" right then and there! Like how hard is it to go out t
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    From what she said I have suspicion that this is a grand gesture on OP's part. I doubt this has to do with him messing up the order and the fact that a "special surprise" from him is just fast food, which he didn't even get right. She probably was I because she was all giddy like "Oh my gosh what did he do? A special dinner? A special guest? That thing I've been wanting for years but can't afford?!" Then comes home to....fast food. Thats hours old. With the only extra effort being that he "took
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    I think op needs to focus on her comment about grand thanks, and not listening. THAT is what she is mad about. She is telling OP right here "I don't feel you listen to me, consider what I want, or put a lot of effort into this relationship to the point where the bare minimum is considered the extra mile."
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    pandaritosupreme • 11h ago. YTA. It's all a bit thoughtless and insensitive. You could have waited until she got home and took a little trip together to Wendy's and on the way had a little conversation about how your days went and then tried the food together when it was hot and fresh. These tiny shared experiences together are what accumulate into a relationship that feels satisfying and connected.
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    Instead you treated yourself to hot fresh food. She got NO shared experience with you; all she got was a cold novelty fast food burger and a frosty that was messed up because it was frozen. I don't believe for one second you would buy yourself fast food and then immediately stick it in the fridge for you to eat later - why would you think that would be acceptable to her?
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    I get the impression that you wanted to be "thoughtful" with the least amount of inconvenience or effort possible to yourself; because it would have been so easy just to wait and go together. And if that wasn't the intent, then you gotta start working on building the empathy that allows you to see that nobody likes cold burgers. stale
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    FishScrumptious 12h ago • I dunno, I would think something was super I at me if they got me a fridge-burger. Yuck! If you're not an , you're certainly clueless.
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    • Bright_Temporary_818 12h ago • Sounds like there are deeper issues going on here you may be ignoring. ...." and said I didn't listen to her..." "She accused me of always expecting grand thanks..."
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    I mean dude, a cold burger from a fast-food chain? eek. Double strike-out considering she explicitly stated her desire. Your wife sounds honest and blunt, perhaps work on improving your listening skills.
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    Puzzleheaded-Ad-16... 12h ago. Bruh are you high? I don't want fast food 15 min after i get it, 1 WHOLE HOUR, dog put it in the trash. YTA, if you wanted to show out wait for her to get home and go grab some food? The wrong with you cuz? is
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    Lets... . 12h ago Edited 8h ago. YTA Who makes a big deal about getting fast food WHEN THEY ARE HUNGRY, eating their food and putting a cold burger in the fridge. Leftover fast food is garbage. I mean fast food is literally garbage and chemicals. Cold fast food is worse.
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    Who makes a big surprise out of a hour old burger and frozen drink that is undrinkable until it defrosts. You seem like the man who babysits their kids and expects a thank you for vacuuming once a month

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