Woman Refuses to Cover Birthmark and Scars for Sister's Wedding Pictures, Sister Threatens to Replace Her as Maid of Honor: 'You'll ruin the photos!'

Author image for Ely Bulnes
Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 27, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Welcome, gossip goddesses. How far would you go in changing your appearance for a wedding? It is something of a rite of passage to attend a wedding in a bridesmaid dress that you hate. Whether the dress in question is legitimately unflattering or simply not your style, sometimes it is just better to deal with it for the sake of your loved one. Ultimately, a dress is just an item, and you can burn it, donate it, or turn it into curtains the day after the wedding. However, some bridesmaids have such specific visions for their dream wedding that they require guests to make more personal and invasive changes.

In our story, a woman demands her sister to cover her burns and scars with make up so as not to 'ruin' her wedding photos. Our protagonist, who has come to terms with her appearance, stands her ground and refuses, leading to an unnecessary family fiasco of drama. Get all the details down below.

Add as a preferred
source on Google
Advertisement
  • 01
    r/AITAH u/Critical Lion_7271 • 1d . AITA for "ruining" my sister's wedding by refusing to cover up my scars and birthmark?
    via u/Critical_Lion_7271
  • 02
    I have a pretty big birthmark and some burn scars on the left side of my face from an accident when I was little. I've learned to love them as they're just part of who I am and I live a normal life.
    via u/Critical_Lion_7271
  • 03
    My sister's getting married next month and dropped this bomb on me yesterday. She wants me to get "professional stage makeup" done to completely cover my birthmark and scars for her wedding because, in her words, "the photos need to be perfect and you'll ruin them looking like that." She even said I'm "being inconsiderate and lame loser" by not agreeing since "it's her special day."
    via u/Critical_Lion_7271
  • 04
    I'm supposed to be her maid of honor. I've helped with literally everything, spent a ton on the bachelorette party, and even learned how to bustle her ridiculous dress. But apparently my face is too ugly for her perfect wedding pics.
    via u/Critical_Lion_7271
  • 05
    When I said no, she started crying and called our mom. Mom says I should "just do this one thing for my sister" and that I'm being difficult. My sister's now threatening to replace me in the wedding party with our cousin if I don't agree. I told her fine, get the cousin, I'm not covering up who I am for anyone's photos.
    via u/Critical_Lion_7271
  • 06
    Now half the family is blowing up my phone saying I'm selfish and trying to make the wedding about me. What should I have done, you tell me here. Like, am I going crazy here? I've never hidden my face and I'm not starting now, not even for my sister's "perfect" wedding. 3,827 ☐ 990 D D
    via u/Critical_Lion_7271
  • 07
    VII_187 • 1d NTA. If you looking as you naturally do would "ruin" her wedding then she can get somebody else. Good on you for standing your ground. Reply 6k
    via u/VII_187
  • 08
    QuietWalk2505 • 1d Scars means she is a survivour. I don't get why the sister is judgy and pushy 2.1k B
    via u/QuietWalk2505
  • 09
    Veil Of Twilight_66 • 1d Honestly, if a bride is worried about someone's appearance ruining her wedding, she may need to reassess her priorities. Plus, who wants to look like a carbon copy of every other bridesmaid? You do you, OP. ... ← & 286 3
    via u/VeilOfTwilight_66
  • 10
    Stephiee1793 • 23h You not wearing stage makeup won't ruin her wedding. Her being a horrible person will especially when everyone finds out the horrible things she said about you covering a part of who you are. 129
    via u/Stephiee1793
  • 11
    goodlookingcaspia · 1d Not covering up your scars or birthmark isn't selfish, it's about self-respect and being true to yourself. Reply 1.2k
    via u/goodlookingcaspia
  • 12
    Either Management813 • 1d I agree she is out of line, you shouldn't do this and I'd stay completely away from the wedding. If you had gone through with it she'd spend the rest of her marriage explaining to people who the person was in the photos because no one would recognize you. Likely the same thing would happen at the wedding. I'd personally tell her to but you might want to point out that if you did this everyone would spend the whole time either asking everyone about it or staring at you.
    via u/Either_Management813
  • 13
    Jazzlike-Bird-3192.1d Your sister told said you will ruin the photos by looking how you look????!!!! That's beyond insensitive and obnoxious. I'd skip the wedding altogether. Make plans with people who love you for you. NTA Reply 252
    via u/Jazzlike-Bird-3192
  • 14
    louloutre75 20h And I'm not sure if I'd stay in contact at all ← & 쇼 123
    via u/loulloutre75
  • 15
    Vegetable Business897 • 1d Maybe she's never heard of photoshopping?? Personally I'd tell her congrats on the wedding and also on showing her true self to the world..... That hopefully she won't risk having kids ever....since she might end up with a lame loser child who ruins her motherhood with a birthmark or a scar. Then I'd dip on the wedding and group text the entire invite list to enjoy themselves as you will be hiding your hideousness so as not to ruin the day, per your sisters request. Pe
    via u/VegetableBusiness897
  • 16
    Ururuipuin ⚫ 1d • Icame here to say photoshop. My dad was a photographer and my mom retouched photos by hand. She sould sitt ther for hours painting out things if she could have done it by hand then photoshop can definitely do it ← & ☆ 8
    via u/Ururuipuin
  • 17
    JasperJ • 1d Painting them out would be just as bad, honestly. But at least it's only on items nobody cares about. ←☆☆ 11
    via u/JasperJ
  • 18
    LunaSings 1d NTA. Ur body, your choice. It's incredibly shallow of your sister to prioritize "perfect photos" over ur comfort and confidence. ← Reply 72
    via u/LunaSings
  • 19
    NTA. Anxious-Routine-5526 1d At this point, don't even bother going to the wedding. Lawd forbid you appear in the background of any photos or video. You may also want to step back from your mother and the other flying monkeys supporting your sister's bs. ... Reply 12
    via u/Anxious-Routine-5526
  • 20
    LucidChaos78 • 21h People are so horrible. And there is something insane about the way we treat brides and weddings today... it's making them into such horrific humans. - First good for you coming to love yourself, scars and all. Your sister and mother should support that 100% and not being playing these kinds of games. It's hateful and hurtful.
    via u/LucidChaos78
  • 21
    Second you aren't making anything about you. - Your sister and mother are. You said no. You said get the cousin. You didn't start blowing up everyone's life with your drama - they did that. You are hurt, and they are acting like YOU did something to them! The audacity astounds me.
    via u/LucidChaos78
  • 22
    Third-walk away. You've done what you can for your sisters wedding. Your mother is clearly not a grown up. You're not going to get any compassion or understanding here - save your energy and soul the stress. Just wish her the best, tell them you love them and hopefully they can see how what they are asking is just so many steps too far.
    via u/LucidChaos78
  • 23
    - Also once you do this for her "perfect" day once, they can ask it again. This is like "hide who you are for me for just this one day, pretty please?" Gross. Don't let them use and ab e you. 100% NTA Reply 4
    via u/LucidChaos78
  • 24
    Difficult Box_5119 • 1d I'm sorry...you'll ruin the photos by looking... like you? That's disgusting. Honestly I wouldn't blame you if you never spoke to her again. Horrible! ... ← Reply 3 ⇓
    via u/Difficult_Box_5119

Tags

makeup family drama marriage wedding drama toxic sibling rivalry Female Empowerment siblings reddit story relationships wedding love entitled sister reddit thread Reddit
Scroll Down For The Next Article