Entitled expecting mom demands her sister give her decor from her 7-year-old niece's room for her baby's nursery: 'She just glared and told me I could tone down my greed'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Oct 30, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Having a baby is a prime time for getting gifts. You can create a whole registry with precisely what you want, and your friends and loved ones will get it for you! If you're smart, you won't tell your friends and family the gender of your baby, so at the baby shower, you'll only get practical gifts like high chairs and playpens. If you ask for gender-specific things, you might end up with a bunch of truck shirts you don't want or 5 million pink onesies that the baby will only fit into for 4 weeks. 

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for baby items for a baby shower or asking family members for old baby products and clothes that have been rotting away in their basements for years. But there's a vast difference between asking for things that have long been out of use and asking for items that a child in the family is currently using. 

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    AITA for being 'greedy' and not giving our daughter's stuff to my pregnant sister?
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    I'm 33 and my husband and I have 2 kids, 8M and 7F. We didn't plan having them back to back but it happened, my husband got a vasectomy and we're set. When I was pregnant with our son, we were living in a rented 2 bedroom house and decorated the nursery with olive and wood tones. We kept it the same when we had our daughter and just made room for the baby.
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    When our son was 6 and our daughter was 5, my husband got a big promotion at work that allowed us to look for and buy a 4 bedroom forever house. Since it was permanent, we thought it'd be fun to give the kids theme rooms. We asked them each what they wanted and our son picked dinosaurs (my husband likes to joke that we have a mini Ross on our hands) so we did a wilderness theme and my daughter picked Aurora so we did a fairytale theme.
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    We went all out since it'll be their bedrooms until they're teens and we gave the nursery furniture away since we were done having kids. We asked our families first but none of them were planning kids at the time so it went to friends. Present- my sister is 21 weeks pregnant with a babygirl- their first. She was over at our place and said she was leaning to something like my daughter's room for the nursery but nursery stuff are expensive. I told her that she should go with neutral tones since it
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    She was like 'nah, I want themed ones for each baby like you did with [my kids names]'. I raised my eyebrows because that's going to be expensive but nodded because who am I to talk when I kind of did the same?
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    We continued chatting for a while and she grabbed my laptop and started going through the website I used and complained again so I suggested that she put some of the reasonably priced stuff on her baby shower list. She gave a noncommittal hum and then said that I can give her some stuff as well. I was confused because I thought she meant the old nursery and I reminded her that we gave it away. She shook her head and told me she meant stuff from our daughter's room. I asked her what she means bec
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    I asked her sarcastically if she wanted the sheets as well? Or maybe the clothes off our daughter's back? She just glared and told me I could tone down my greed and help out with this. I told her a flat no, it's unreasonable that she's even asking because she and her husband are well off just like us. It's not like she's struggling and I'm refusing to help. She told me that it's different because they want a big family so they need to save more. I told her if that's the case, they can save by us
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    She's not replying to my texts and my mom called to ask me what happened because she called her to complain about me without specifying anything. She was just as bewildered as me when I told her. My husband thinks I'm in the right and I do too, I'm just confused and maybe there's something we're not seeing?
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    DazzlingxHannah NTA. Your sister's request is unreasonable, and you're not obligated to give away your daughter's belongings.
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    sikonat I'm baffled at the entitlement, also if you can't afford a big family then don't have so many kids! Have as many within your budget. Don't expect your niece who is a child to give up her room furnishings.
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    Salamanderonthefarm "tone down your greed"... like, for example, someone who's literally trying to grab her niece's possessions? Sheesh. NTA.
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    Open_Equal_1515 oh wow, so your sister's idea of "borrowing" a nursery setup is to just... raid your daughter's room like it's a discount decor warehouse? honestly, i'm impressed she didn't ask for your daughter's entire bed frame as a "starter gift." and the best part is, she's not asking out of necessity but because, in the spirit of financial planning, she's saving for this big family she plans to have. clearly, her budget strategy is to let you "sponsor" the first kid's theme.
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    honestly, i think you're handling it way better than i would. i'd probably throw in a "limited edition sibling discount" just to make it really clear: all inventory has been marked as non-transferable. if she wants themed rooms for every future little one, she can start where all of us do: the land of pinterest dreams and DIY attempts ! so, yeah, definitely not the "greedy b "here- you're just out here preserving your daughter's right to her own princess castle !!
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    Mela777 If the next one is a boy, the sister will want stuff from his room too.
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    nightcana 30 bucks on the only reason she chose an identical theme for her child was to pilfer the contents of your childs bedroom.
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    counterburn NTA My mother always acquiesced to this stuff and ruined our relationship. I'd come home from school to find her chatting with some new friend while their kids played with my toys and she'd just give them away. She never understood why I started hiding my stuff, stopped talking to her, and wouldn't be friends with these kids she was giving all my things to. By high school, I treated my living space like I was in boot camp: no posters, no mementos, nothing out. I carried all my books
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    Internal-Soup906 OP I'm so sorry you went through that, I can't imagine. Of course I never entertained the idea but I was thinking of buying her a couple of things she liked from our daughter's room along with the original baby shower gift I had in mind. Now I don't even think I want to do that.
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    Bride1234109 NTA. After reading the title, I thought your sister was going to ask for the baby items that your daughter has grown out of. However, after reading your post, your sister is entitled af. To expect to be given things from a child's room that they're currently using is crazy. What happens the next kid? Will she take your son's room too? Or what happens when your daughter gets a new room decor as a teen? Will she try to rob your teen daughter's room too? NTA. She can get her own stuff.
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    Internal-Soup906 OP My husband and I asked both of our families if they wanted us to save our kids' baby clothes for their future kids, they said no, my sister included. Honestly this is all weird but thank you for confirming I'm not being unreasonable!
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    Moon_whisper NTA. But your sister should be tested for prenatal psychosis (it is a thing), because her thought process is not the thought process of a normal rational person. If untreated, it will most likely get worse. It does sound like the early symptoms of such a condition. (Kind of like early symptoms of a brain tumor is change in thoughts or paranoia. Prenatal psychosis can start with irrational off the wall logic that is completely logical to the person saying it, a.k.a. delusions.) If no
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    Internal-Soup906 OP To be honest I don't see a scenario where I bring that concern up that doesn't end with not launching a miniature ww3 in our extended family but I will look it up some more and maybe bring it up with my mom first.
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