Woman and Sister-in-law Decide on the Same Baby Name, Despite SIL Not Even Being Pregnant, Sparking Rift When Woman Refuses

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 13 hr. ago ItzChicken BoyYT AITAH for refusing to share my baby name choice after my sister-in- law "claimed" it for her future child?
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    I (31F) am currently 7 months pregnant with my first child, a baby girl. My husband (33M) and I have spent a lot of time picking out a name that's meaningful to us. The name is actually a nod to my late grandmother, who I was very close with, and it's a name that isn't super common anymore. We decided to keep the
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    name private until the baby's born.
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    Here's where things get awkward: my sister-in-law (SIL), Laura (29F), isn't pregnant yet but has been trying for a baby with her husband for a while. She has shared some potential names she likes, and it turns out one of her top choices is the exact name we picked for our daughter.
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    When we all got together for a family dinner recently, someone brought up baby names, and I jokingly said, "Oh, we have one picked out, but it's a surprise!" Laura pushed me a bit, asking for a hint, so I finally shared that it's my grandmother's name. She immediately guessed the name, and when I confirmed it, she
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    looked shocked and said, "But that's the name I wanted for my future daughter!”
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    She asked if I would pick something else since she had. "called dibs" on the name first. I told her I didn't think it was fair to ask that, especially given the family connection. She got pretty upset and said I was being "selfish and inconsiderate" because I know how much she wants that name.
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    Now, my husband is totally on my side, but Laura has been cold to me ever since and has even brought it up in front of other family members, saying she "can't believe I'd take a name she told me about." Some of the family thinks it's a bit harsh of me to use a name she clearly had in mind, while others think it's
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    unreasonable of her to expect me to give it up.
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    So, AITAH for sticking with the name we chose, even though my sister-in-law wants to use it in the future? Note that she never mentioned the fact she was planning to use this name.
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    BeerDudeRocco • 13h ago • NTA. She ain't pregnant, so everything is hypothetical with her (not to sound rude, but I know getting pregnant can be hard and it doesn't always happen). It isn't right to ask you to pick a less meaningful name because
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    she had that name on a list of possible future baby names. She needs to get over it and pick a new name for her future hypothetical child.
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    FloMoJoeBlow • 13h ago • NTA. First, who gives a shif cousins have the same name?
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    Secondly, you told her the name before you knew that she wanted to use the same name. She can't claim she called dibs on the name, when you told her first. Let her be a moody b and move forward happily with the name you want!
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    BeachinLife1 13h ago She's does not even have a child on the way. When she does, it may not be a girl. She does not own a name.
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    Tell her that you "called dibs" on it years ago, because you always planned to name your child after your grandmother. I don't even know why this is up for discussion.
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    Particular_Cres... • 13h ago • NTA. It's your grandmother's name.
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    Newgirlkat ⚫13h ago • SIL isn't pregnant SIL doesn't even know if her future baby will be a girl SIL doesn't have any connections to the name other than oh that sounds pretty! Along with other names
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    You can't call "dibs" on a frigging name, especially if it's one that has a significant connection to you not to her. Sorry SIL you have good taste, you have other options on your list, you have no idea if your hypothetical future baby will even be a girl, it could be a boy.
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    Objective 1990 • 13h ago if she didn't tell you she was going to use the name then your NTA.

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