Man Cuts Contact with Fiancée After Discovering She Cheated With Best Friend, Until the Couple Invites Him to Their Wedding as the Best Man: ‘I refuse to be involved’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Oct 31, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

There is nothing worse in a relationship than to find out that the person you love and thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with is being unfaithful. However, when it comes to the cheating itself, there are definitely levels of how bad the whole situation can get. So, as a thought exercise, let's grade these next cheating scenarios, 1 being the least bad, and 10 being the absolutely worst:

If a partner cheats one year into a relationship with a complete stranger neither of you knew before, that is maybe a 3. If a partner cheats with someone you know and is considered close to you, that is an 8. If your partner of 7 years, who is also engaged to you, cheats with your best friend, that is a solid 10.

Unfortunately, that is what happened to the man in the story here, but even after cutting off both his fiancée and best friend out of his life, he had to deal with them again when they thought it was a good idea to ask him to be the best man at their wedding.

Scroll down to read the full story. After you are done, check out this story of a woman who planned her divorce for almost 7 years.

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    Now, to top it all off, he's asked ME to be his best man for their wedding! He says it's a chance for me to show I've forgiven them and that we're still family.
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    AITA for not forgiving my best friend (31M) after he cheated with my fiancée (29F) and then asked me to be his best man?
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    I (33M) have been with my fiancée (29F) for 7 years. We were planning our wedding, and my best friend (31M), who I've known since childhood, was set to be my best man. Everything seemed perfect.
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    Then I found out they had been cheating on me for almost a year behind my back. When I confronted them, they apologized and claimed it was a 'mistake' that 'just happened,' but they still
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    wanted to move forward with their lives together. Now, to top it all off, he's asked ME to be his best man for their wedding! He says it's a chance for me to show I've forgiven them and that we're still family.
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    I've cut them both out of my life, and I'm getting flak from mutual friends who think I'm being petty and need to move on. So, Reddit, AITA for refusing to forgive them or be involved in any part of their lives?
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    BoredofBin 2d ago • NTA! No way would this be right. on any planet in the galaxy. Good for you for standing your ground and cutting them out of your life.
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    Since you are on a cutting spree, maybe you should cut those mutual friends out of your life too. You don't need that kind of negativity around you.
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    Zealousideal-Win... OP.2d ago I am honestly trying to avoid them as much as possible
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    BoredofBin 2d ago • Keep at it. No person in their right mind would ask of you what your ex best friend and ex fiance are asking of you.
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    Come to think of it, it seems like they just want to show it to the people around you that all is forgiven. They know what they did was wrong and hence inviting you would be their way of salvaging what's left of the situation.
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    Zealousideal-Win... OP 2d ago Yeah they know they are guilty, and I guess they still wanna be in my life but it's hard for me to accept that.. at least not now
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    Dizzy-Buddy1270 • 2d ago • NTA and those mutual friends are not friends at all.
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    Zealousideal-Win... OP 2d ago I don't consider them friends anymore, been avoiding any communication with them lately. I'm ready to move on and surround myself with positivity
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    MadMaz27 • 2d ago OMG. I just can't. I will say something that will get me banned for life from Reddit. I just can't.
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    Zealousideal-Win... OP.2d ago Lol, what is it.. take a breath and try your best to convey it in a way you don't get banned ②
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    jocoguy007 2d ago · • Sounds like you need to cut some mutual friends out of your life, too.
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    Zealousideal-Win... OP 2d ago Yes that's the plan, cut them off and try to distance myself for good
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    Special_Lychee_6847 2d ago • Cheating on your fiance with his best friend is usually a sure way to get that fiance out of your and your affair partner's lives. I don't know why they thought it would be different. Are you usually way to easy with forgiving things, or something?
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    And NTA, of course. >He says it's a chance for me to show I've forgiven them and that we're still family. What made him think you ever would?
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    Zealousideal-Win... OP.2d ago Idk perhaps he was desperate for forgiveness
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    DRarryLove_69 • 2d ago • They're trying to manipulate you. Good on you for cutting them off. They wanna see hey OP is cool with it so everyone else should be cool with it too. And it's also a rub it in your face thing. No contact for the ex-best friend, ex-fiance and mutual busybodies (they're not friends) who support the cheaters. The audacity of some people. e
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