Woman’s Entitled Roommates Expect Her to Pay Higher Rent After Finding Out How Much She Makes, Sparking Household Hostility When She Refuses, Despite Them Struggling to Pay Rent

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    r/AITAH • 14 hr. ago Unable-String-6735 AITA for not telling my roommate about my large salary, when I'm aware he's been struggling to pay rent?
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    I (28f) live in a 2-bedroom apartment with three roommates. It's small and we step on each other's toes sometimes, but it works for us because we were all in graduate programs when we met and needed something cheap. For the last six years, we've all split rent evenly, and I've been fine with that. Even when
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    they all got jobs and I was still a resident, I didn't once ask to adjust the rent. Now, to be honest, I'm a very quiet and non- confrontational person and residency kept me on weird hours so I didn't speak to them a lot and they didn't even realize that I'd finished my program when I did. I also live on the second floor
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    of our apartment in a space off the attic storage that was meant to be an office, so I keep to myself and go about my business. Once I became a licensed emergency physician, I was able to find a job in our city relatively quickly and started working about four months out of residency. I'd already worked as
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    an EMT for years around this hospital, even in college when I was getting clinical hours for med school, so I knew the ED well and it wasn't hard for me to get a job there. I still had loans from med school to pay off so I saw no problem with hanging around and paying my same share of the rent, utilities, and groceries that I'd paid for six years until I built
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    up savings, even though I was making more than my other three roommates combined. I'm not in a relationship, don't want kids now, and I liked my little living arrangements while I got some savings behind me. I was fine until hit the fan yesterday, and by some insane stroke of bad luck, one of my roommates A, (27m) was in a car crash and was
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    transported to the hospital by ambulance when I was on shift. He was fine, just a bit of whiplash and a stitched-up cut from broken glass, but while he was in the ED he saw me and realized I wasn't a resident anymore. Even though he couldn't pin down my exact salary, a quick Google search could tell him that in our
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    city I was making at least double what my roommates were. He was ped and he told my other two roommates while I was still at work, so when I came home, they were all waiting for me. He confronted me and asked me what I was making, and I told them the truth. They all lost their minds at me because I knew that A had been struggling to make
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    his share of the rent every month, whereas I was "hoarding my money". I listened to what they had to say but said that I still had loans to pay off and I was going to bed. I was tired after a long shift, and I'm aware that I was probably really blunt and cold because when I'm getting yelled at, part of my job description is just to take it with a calm face.
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    This morning, they've all been giving me the cold shoulder, and though they haven't talked about it yet, I can feel it coming. I don't know how to address this because I really liked our living arrangements and don't want it to change, but I can't help feeling like I'm the AH for not helping A out more. So, AITA?
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    throw05282021 • 14h ago • Clearly, you are NTA. You didn't ask for help when you were still a resident and they were making more. None of them offered to cover part of your rent. You don't owe your roommate any money. You shouldn't be expected to subsidize the lifestyle of
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    anyone you are neither related to nor in a romantic relationship with. That said, now that your roommates know you make a lot more than they do, things will never go back to being the way that they used to be. That season of your life is over. And you
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    need to decide how you prefer to deal with the new reality. My suggestion, if your roommates seriously expect you to pay more rent than they do, is to move out as soon as you can, because their requests will get increasingly more
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    unreasonable until you do leave. "You make more than all of us put together, you should pay half the rent." "You've been paying half the rent, but you still have more money left over than we do. You should pay all the rent from now on, and all of the utilities, too."
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    Seriously, do not expect them to be reasonable. Anyone who thinks you should pay part of your roommate's share of the rent but who never offered to do that themselves is an AH. They want to spend your paychecks but not their own. They are not arguing in
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    good faith when they try to spend your paychecks without being willing to spend their own in the same way.
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    Leahthevagab... • 14h ago • NTA your income has - nothing to do with your split of the house. You SHOULD be splitting it evenly between the roommates. They have no right to your income in anyway. If one of them is struggling, that's on them. They are roommates,
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    not partners. If they throw a big stink, look for your own place.
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    NixKlappt-Red... • 14h ago NTA You are roommates and not a married couple. They should be happy that you always pay your part of the rent instead of worrying about it too.
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    Maybe it's time to look for some new roommates.

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