Woman Locks Husband Out of Her Car After He Loses Track of the Key One Too Many Times, Refusing to Let Him Drive It Again: 'You can't be trusted'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Nov 11, 2024 6:00 PM EST

Welcome, gossip-loving ladies. Do you ever meet someone and wonder how on God's green Earth they have managed to make it so far in life? I am referring to those who have a habit of arriving an hour late to anything and are no stranger to calling a restaurant to ask if they left their credit card on the table. As a fellow chronically late individual who cannot keep track of her phone, I often credit dumb luck as to how I have made it safely into adulthood without any major hiccups. Of course I, like many other absent-minded adults, have learned the hard way, over time, to pay special attention to certain important things. While I still may leave the cupboard open after getting a mug out, I know now to verbally announce out loud to myself that the boiler, AC, and stove are all off before leaving the house, lest a fire starts in my absence. 

In our story today, a forgetful man loses his wife's car keys for the millionth time, prompting his day of reckoning. His wife locks him out of the car purposefully to teach him a lesson and refuses to let him drive it again. He probably should have worked on some fail-safes for his forgetfulness instead of assuming that his wife would keep pandering to his carelessness. 

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    r/AITAH u/According-Heat-1331 • 1d AITAH for locking the car door and saying my husband will never drive my car again?
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    My husband has a horrible habit of leaving keys in the car. He claims he started doing it after he lost keys on a few occasions and it was just easier to know where they'd be. I've told him before that is a really bad idea and encouraged him to stop, got him those little tags that'll tell you where you left your keys, etc. He continued to do it until he ended up getting his car stolen. Insurance barely paid enough for him to get a new car and it wasn't anywhere near as nice as the other. I thoug
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    His car was getting serviced one day, so I let him borrow mine. I get a notification on the app a little while later, telling me the car was unlocked. Thinking maybe my husband just forgot to lock it himself, I tried calling him to go get the keys but he didn't answer his phone. So, I locked the door using the app.
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    A couple of hours later, I get a frantic call from my husband saying he can't get into the car. I ask where the keys are. He says he left them in the car and must have locked the door accidentally. I told him that I locked the door using the app. I then tried to unlock it but it took a few minutes as the app wasn't working. Finally, the door was unlocked and my husband could get the keys.
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    He returned home not long after, mad at me for locking the door and saying it's my fault this happened. I said it was his fault for leaving the keys in the car and he shouldn't have done that. When I asked why he did it, he said he was afraid of losing my keys. I said I have a backup set of keys (which he also knows about), I care more about the car.
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    Yes, it has a tracker on it and I have insurance, but that doesn't mean I want to put myself in that situation where it goes missing. I said going forward he isn't allowed to use my car. I make the payments out of my own account, just as he pays for his car with his own money. At this point, he can't be trusted. If he needs a ride, I'll drive him or he can use a ride share.
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    My husband is calling me petty and saying that I'm being overdramatic but I really don't think I am given he's continuing to make the same mistakes as before. 7,542 887 D
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    naeviie_ • 1d NTA has he learnt of a keychain?? a lanyard??? how the h I are you 'overdramatic' when his idiocy got his car STOLEN He'd rather lose an entire car than a keys!!??! pair of ← Reply 2.6k
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    Wifeof Bath1984 • 1d Right! My wife kept locking her keys in the car too (she does doordash). She would call me at work and tell me to get a ride to her to bring her the spare keys. Well I can't just leave work over and over again because she wasn't changing anything to stop it from happening, so I finally got mad enough that I kind of went off. I demanded she buy a lanyard and guess what. She actually did!!!! Now her keys are always around her neck and she hasn't locked them in the car since. 6
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    naeviie_ • 1d It really is just the simplest solutions!! I'm also a risk for forgetting my keys so they have a lanyard and I stuck a drawing pin in the wall right beside my door which I hang my keys on, so they're always right there when I'm heading out every day ... 151
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    Haunting-Nebula-1685. 1d NTA - your husband is a moron. Men have pockets. Put the key in your pocket. Problem solved. He's just lazy ... Reply 745
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    TwinkleStarlitx • 1d I totally agree. It's infuriating that your husband can't be bothered to use his pockets instead of leaving the keys in the car. This isn't just about being lazy, it's about being responsible. He needs to take ownership of his actions instead of blaming you OP. NTA 20
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    phunkjnky • 1d He thinks his weaponized incompetence magically makes him competent? NTA Reply 711
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    Sunkissed-Harper • 1d NTA. You've set clear boundaries, and he ignored them. It's frustrating when someone keeps repeating the same mistakes, especially when it puts your stuff at risk. It's not petty, it's protecting your car and your peace of mind. ... ← Reply 91
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    Reactor Jack • 1d I have the opposite problem, in a way. My SO locks the car everywhere, including in our home garage. I found it very frustrating that I needed to go back into the house if I was in the garage to unlock her car (or mine if she drove it last) to get something out of the trunk. Mind you we don't have an issue with locking keys (well fobs now) in a car, or misplacing them.
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    I confronted her about it and her explanation was spot on: "I lock my car just as soon as I get out. Its a habit I have, and its safe." I agreed, and no longer got frustrated with my trip back into the house (not a burden) to unlock if I needed to. I would rather have her locking her doors all the time as a habit than not in today's world. ... 33 ⇓
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    Final_Echidna_6743 • 1d is this a car that has a push button starter? He can leave the keys in his pocket. If it's.the kind you have to insert a key into the ignition and turn the key - get him one of those small carbiners and he can latch it to his belt loop.
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    My son leaves his key in his truck all the time, never takes it out. He uses the electric door locks to lock and a digital code to unlock the doors. Ive warned him that if his truck gets broken into then his truck is gone. I am pretty sure that if you leave the keys in the vehicle and it gets stolen your insurance won't cover it. Not my vehicle, not my insurance so his risk has loss. Reply 210
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    Yetikins • 1d I have the push button start/smart key and I go months without seeing my key. It lives in a zip pocket in my wallet. Never lost, never forgotten, always right where I left it. ← 14 д
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    Kap85.1d As a man most of my pant options has a magical area of fabric called a pocket, has worked wonders for 30 plus years Reply 67
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    What Happened Monday ⚫ 1d NTA. Sounds like hubby needs a reality service check. I wouldn't let him anywhere near my car or my keys going forward. Reply 60
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    Winter_Parsley_3798 • 1d As a latchkey kid.... get him a lanyard and make him wear the keys around his neck like an albatross. Reply 48
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    fairylaceflutter • 1d It's not about control, it's about avoiding preventable issues. If he keeps doing this, he should be the one taking the bus! ... Reply 12 ⇓
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    candyheartswish. 1d He clearly has a pattern of ignoring sound advice until something goes wrong, and you've had enough. You're not being overdramatic; you're just setting boundaries. ... Reply 12
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