Woman Tries to Use Sister's Wedding as an Exuse for a Family Reunion, Sister Puts Her Foot Down, Determined to Keep Wedding Intimate

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    r/AITAH u/mycutemia 1d • AITA for telling my sister she can't use my wedding as a "family reunion"?
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    I (28F) am getting married in a few months, and my fiancé and I are keeping it small and intimate, with just close family and friends. My sister, who lives out of state, has been talking about how excited she is to see everyone since it's been years since the whole family was together. She asked if she could invite some extended family members and a few distant relatives she hasn't seen in a long time.
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    I told her I wasn't comfortable with that, as my fiancé and I want to keep the guest list limited. She was disappointed and said I was being selfish, as this is a rare chance for everyone to gather. Now, my parents are saying I should make an exception for family's sake, but I feel like my wedding isn't the right time for a reunion.
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    AITA for not allowing my sister to turn my wedding into a family reunion? 1,755 | 446 Д D
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    NTA The_Bad_Agent • 1d This is YOUR wedding, not HER family reunion. If she wants a family reunion, she can host one. ... Reply 2.3k
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    busywreck 1d Like meals are 150 bucks each, the bride is supposed to cough up this money? Get bent lady. She can absolutely host something. The entitlement ... 749
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    mixi_e. 1d My first thought. Part of my job involves being on the committee for parties and certain events. I know it's not the same as a wedding but when you see what is the cost per guest is insane that people feel entitled to add more people to the list just as because they'll get an engraved fake Yeti and an after office party And this is without the wedding up charge and the fact that we save on snacks and drinks because the company makes them 83
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    Beth21286. 1d Nothing stopping sister inviting the other relatives to another event the day after the wedding when most people will still be there. She just wants OP to pay that bill and do all the organising so she can enjoy it. Freeloader. ← & 25
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    Affectionate Poet4586 • 1d Yes, and pay for the photos and meals for Sis's family reunion too? This "but family" is getting tiresome! Plus a proposal, a gender reveal, and Uncle Ted's sixtieth birthday? ← & 63
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    Glen-Ellyn 23h You are so right! This "but family" stuff has to stop! Some families are truly toxic. Why should anyone be expected to put up with their ? Д ↑ 2 ♡
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    Low-maintenancegal · 1d That's not a bad idea. Tell her that if she wants to throw you a wedding party (day after the wedding), she can invite them all she wants. ... ← a ↑ зд
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    FloMoJoeBlow • 1d . NTA, but be prepared that sister or mother may invite people anyway. Have a bouncer on hand to eject uninvited guests. Reply 292
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    SadLocal8314 • 1d Definitely! Security is a must. Also, make sure all arrangements are password protected. ... 61
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    No_Plankton_114 • 1d Tell your family to throw a family reunion, after the wedding ... ← Reply 134
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    BadBandit1970 · 1d • And OP's sister can organize it and their parents can pay for it. ... → 76 ⇓ 76⇓
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    xSparkleNights • 1d I completely agree. If your family wants a reunion, they can plan it for after the wedding. Your big day should be about you and your fiancé, not a large gathering. It's totally reasonable to keep. your wedding intimate and focused on the people who matter most to you OP. NTA ... 4 5 3
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    Bonnm42 1d NTA your Sister is being selfish I would tell her "That's a great idea do a family reunion! You should plan one, after my wedding!" Reply 86 ↓
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    Hi_Im_Dadbot • 1d NTA. If she wants to host a family reunion, she can invite everybody and organize it herself. Your wedding is about YOU, not about everyone else. Reply 40 ⇓
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    nylonvest 1d NTA. It's over the line for your sister to be calling you "selfish" over this. A big wedding, of course, you would invite a pretty wide range of family members. You might tell your sister and parents that a family reunion does sound like a good idea and maybe you can all plan one together... AFTER your wedding. Reply 17
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    NTA. chez2202 1d • Tell your sister and your mother that they are welcome to have as many family members as they want to have round for a reunion THE DAY AFTER your wedding and they can foot the bill for it. ← Reply 36
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    Organic-Meeting734. 1d If your sister is traveling to attend the wedding she has every right to connect with family while she is in town. You do not need to host that at your wedding. ΝΤΑ ... ← Reply 14
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    ⑬prettysweetavocado. 1d Your wedding should reflect the day you and your fiancé envision, not an extended family get- together. Stand your ground this is your celebration! Reply 10

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