Mother-in-law constantly complains about the soda her daughter-in-law buys when she visits her house, first that the cans are too small and second that it's not the soda she likes: 'This is literally the soda she has at home'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Nov 30, 2024 12:00 PM EST

I am an incredibly easy person to host. I'll sleep anywhere, eat anything, and have one beverage that I consume every day: Diet Coke. I never cease to be surprised and grateful when I'm staying over at a friend or family member's place, and they provide me with a 12-pack or a 2-liter bottle of Diet Coke. It really shows that they care about me and my ability to get through the day. While I do have a slight preference for particular packaging of the soda (20 oz bottles hit different), I would never deny a Diet Coke that someone else bought for me with their hard-earned money. That's why the mother-in-law in this story has me in a tizzy. Imagine your daughter-in-law tries to provide you with some thoughtful hospitality, and you decide to complain about it constantly. If you would be mildly infuriated by that, you've come to the right place. 

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    Last visit, my MIL complained that I got her the mini cans of a soda (that we don't drink), this trip she says it's not the soda she prefers.
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    When my in laws visit, I buy things that they like. They were staying for a short time, so I bought the mini cans. She made a comment along the lines of "wow these cans are just too small." Fast forward to their longer visit this time. I get the full sized cans and she says, "this is not my preferred soda" as she takes a can to have for lunch.
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    This is literally the soda she has at home and the soda that she orders at restaurants, which is one that most restaurants don't carry. Happy holidays everyone! Wishing you all the patience in the world.
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    Dizzy_Chipmunk_3530 • 22h ago My MIL is an endless complainer, and I established years ago that making her happy is not my responsibility because she'll never be satisfied. "You know who has more bathroom towels? The Holiday Inn" "Know where your favorite soda is? Your house" "You've been coming to my house for 20 years, I'm pretty sure you know where to find a paper towel"
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    alotabit OP I can relate to this! I flat out told her "well last time you were here you complained that the cans were too small!" My FIL reassured me that she does drink it everyday.
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    ultraprismic For people like her, it's more about the power trip than anything else. Nothing you ever buy or do will be right because it makes her feel powerful if you feel small. The best way to deal with that is to deny them that sense of power. Blow it off like she said she was fine with it. "I don't like this soda." "Ok!" "These are so small." "Oh, hm!" Smile and move on. My sister's MIL is like this. She's always testing who she can draw into her weird power plays.
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    theemilyann lol. You don't need reassurance. You aren't an idiot. You need her to say "oh thank you for getting the full sized cans! I know you don't drink soda and you just get this to have on hand for me cause I'm too much of ab to just drink water like an adult."
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    high_throughput this is not my preferred soda Well, you're not my preferred guest.
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    OkeyDokey654 Next time: "No, I didn't get you any soda. The last two times I got something you didn't like, and I didn't want to do that again."
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    Ben50Leven Prepare to get gaslit because "Don't be ridiculous, that didn't happen"
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    Electrical-Pie-8192 My dad did something similar with his dad and his gf. She complained that my parents bathroom was too small so the next time they wanted to come for a visit my dad provided a list of local hotels. My grandpa asked why they had to get a room and my dad said gf doesn't like our bathroom. Grandpa insisted it was fine and they could stay in
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    the house. My dad didn't back down. He told us if couldn't make it a few hours that ungrateful b in his home without complaining about the bathroom no way did she deserve to stay again. The only reason she wasn't banned from the house was because grandpa wouldn't travel without her and he wanted to see his dad
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    ew73 "Here's $10. Go buy something you won't complain about."
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    seriouslyjan This is the answer.
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    capn_bex Just tell them to bring their own drinks. They're obviously going to be little about it anyway
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    comfortablynumb15 "Oh well, best you provide the soda for everyone while you stay with us". (if you thought she was offended before ....... lol)
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    UnicornFarts1111 I'm picky about what I drink. I never expect someone to have what I want. I always bring with me what I want, and then everybody is happy! Mine is easy though, it is just crystal light drink packets, I can get the water from my host, lol.
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    DependentAd235 When people act like this. Respond is terse monosyllabic words. Just say Okay or Right. Don't even be sarcastic. It will them off but they will have no room to complain.
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    Them: "I don't like this type of Soda." You: "Right" I do this to teenagers when they whine.
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    ikonet Respond with, "that's not how to pronounce 'Thank You'," or "I didn't buy those for you but I guess you can have one."
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    FeRooster808 For the last few years my MIL has complained she's too old to host holidays. She's in her 70s, fair enough. We offered to host which means I do 85% of it. Every. Single. Time. She cooks her own complete meals and brings it. I'm talking about whole turkey and sides and four costco pies and etc. The whole deal. Makes it all and drags it on a 30 minute drive. Last year, the real breaking point for me, she shows up with all her food and says, "just put yours away." I looked her straight
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    the face and sternly said "no. We're not doing that." She looked like i has slapped her. I told my husband never again. He can't stand up to her so she does her whole pity me I'm old thing and he says we'll host. I am not making any thing. He's going to order food and she'll do whatever. But I'm done. Just stop buying it for her and tell her to bring her own from now on. Don't play the game.
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    alotabit OP Edit (sorry about being in the comments, mobile is being dumb): because people are somehow stuck on why I would get her mini cans for a shorter visit and I feel like you are missing the point Context: 1. The soda I bought her is Sprite Zero, my husband drinks Coke Zero (it is always in stock in our fridge) and she likes to drink that too. 2. she prefers cans (not 2L, not bottles) 3. she sometimes shares a full can with my FIL 4. my grocery store doesn't sell the six packs of the regu
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    I did not actually have a problem with her first comment when it happened weeks ago. I just made a mental note that I would get her the full size next time and have them go to waste or store them bc they only visit us twice a year. The problem that some of you seem to have missed is the juxtaposition in her comments.
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    Why complain about the mini cans and then say it's not your preferred soda weeks later? We had full cans of Coke Zero (which she now claims is her preference) weeks ago and she still complained about the mini cans. Fast forward to me getting full cans and now it's not her preference? MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!! Also, this subreddit is called mildly infuriating for a reason. It's very annoying to me but I still love my in laws
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    Iloveellie15 Please don't let this jaded individual stop you from being the thoughtful human that you naturally are
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    alotabit OP I appreciate that! I def try to be a great host. I might be annoyed momentarily but I agree with you I will continue to be me!
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