'My parents missed my important event': Parents choose air show over daughter's celebrity contest win, family friend calls them out

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Dec 18, 2024 11:00 AM EST

These parents are missing out on their kid's special day because "they paid for the [airshow] tickets already, otherwise they would come." 

When you've been in the same situation for long enough, sometimes you just get used to the relationship's dynamics. This person, u/ComfortableMess3145, knows that very well: their parents never seem to prioritize them over doing things they want to do. For example, they recently missed a big event in their kid's life, just because they wanted to see an airshow. Those are cool, don't get me wrong. But should it really take priority over watching your kid receive a prestigious celebrity award? 

Well, one family friend found out about this and flipped out. It's made this person realize that their parents haven't been caring about their event for quite some time (including their wedding!). Commenters also showed up to support this person, telling them that they did nothing wrong. You'll have to check out the full story plus comments below to see if this person is doing the right thing, or if the family friend went too far. 

Up next, read about the bride who found the dress of her dreams, but since her mom finds it "childish and embarrassing," she's now second-guessing herself!

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    AITA for being upset that my parents missed my important event again?
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    I'll give it to you straight, my parents have had an air show booked for months, they are always going to air shows its my dad's passion. It's fine but things like air shows, steam shows or stuff that they are more interested in often takes priority over me.
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    A week ago I had an email telling me I won a design contest, I needed a win given what my ex husband and ex BFF did to me last year and honestly I was hoping my parents would give up the air show and come to see my crowning achievement.
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    I presented a celebrity chef with an apron printed with my design that he was to wear throughout the day, my parents left me to find someone to take photos of this event so I asked their long time friend to come, he was telling me that he "felt my parents could have given up this one air show, given that they visit as many as they can in a year". I told him it was OK and that "I'm used to it", but he said that "it shouldn't be that way"
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    He first voiced these opinions on the morning of my wedding day in 2017 when I was left alone and ended up crying, I really wanted my mum to be there but she felt it was more important to be a hostess to her friends, I had relied on them to bring me food or take me to get lunch before the wedding as we were in the middle of no where and I can't drive, this is something I had discussed with them before the wedding, I only found out they weren't coming that morning
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    when i rang to find out how far away they were. My parents called him to come keep me company while I got ready, he told me that "he had never known a mother not want to be there for her daughter on the wedding day". My parents have often put their friends or events first and me last, in the past they even put their pets first over me, I thought my appendix was about to burst as I was in so much pain I
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    couldn't move, my mum screeched at me when she came home because I hadn't fed the animals, I was crying in agony when she came in. They even go as far as to "forget" plans made with me and make plans with their friends, they like to joke about forgetting things we had planned because they know it upsets me. But even though I understand why they couldn't be there for me today I couldn't help but hold
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    back tears while I sat alone, I get this achievement is only important to me and it was just some stupid cookery thing to my parents, but I'd like it if for once they would put me first. Don't get me wrong my parents have been there for me through alot over the last year, the pandemic and divorce so I'm probably the a here. I did tell them a few times that I'd like it if they could be there today, but they told me "they paid for the
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    tickets already other wise they would come"... I do understand I just feel let down even though I'm used to it. I feel like an a h le because I'm upset, am I? (EDIT to add: the animals weren't starving as they did have food, they just hadn't been fed their main meal yet and it was only a few minutes after they were officially meant to be fed. I was
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    legitimately crying when my mum came in and she didn't care, luckily it was due to what I'd eaten, I had been diagnosed previously with grumbling appendix and had considered calling an ambulance, but didn't and was ok)
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hole: My parents couldn't make it because they had another air show booked and paid for, I felt really upset that they weren't there for me again
    via u/ComfortableMess3145
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    abbygrau Oh my god, NTA NTA NTA! Your parents didn't come to be with you before your WEDDING? An event that parents dream of being involved in??? You say that your parents have been "there for you" but good parents drop everything for their children. You should ALWAYS be first priority. It
    via u/abbygrau
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    really me off, your parents honestly don't deserve any more or your time. It seems like your parents may always be self absorbed, but they don't deserve to have such a successful child anyway. If they won't say it I will: I'm proud of you. Congrats on winning that contest.
    via u/abbygrau
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    neverthelessidi... NTA. Your parents are incredibly unsupportive, especially considering that they don't ever show up for you for the big stuff. Your dad's friend is right
    via u/neverthelessidissent
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    KimmyKibbles NTA. Your parents should be there for you in moments like this and your mom and dad should definitely be there for you on your wedding day, what on earth???
    via u/KimmyKibbles
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    Your parents should be there and be happy to celebrate you. They sound really selfish and mean for not making big events like this a priority and not making planned time with you a priority in their lives.
    via u/KimmyKibbles
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    [deleted] NTA. Sure, they had this particular thing booked, but you probably wouldn't be this upset if they hadn't been acting like for years and years leading up to this point. And they're not ah les because they went to this particular airshow; they're because they've been skipping out
    via u/[deleted]
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    on everything else. Given that, it's reasonable for you to feel bummed every time it happens, even when some times are more reasonable than others.
    via u/[deleted]
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    EliGlinn NTA! Your parents are the ahles for letting you down again and again and again. You have every right to be upset.
    via u/EliGlinn
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    lost-cannuck Nta - this is a milestone you achieved and should celebrate any way you choose. I would highly recommend not relying on your parents for anything. They have a proven track record so build a life with people who you can rely on and support you.
    via u/lost-cannuck
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    [deleted] They don't care about you, so you should stop caring about them. Cut them out of your life, and be with people. who actually want to be in your life. NTA.
    via u/[deleted]

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