Woman hides camera in roommates bedroom due to feeling ‘unsafe’ in the apartment, roommate demands she move out, accusing her of infringing on her privacy and consent as roommates

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jan 5, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. We've all had roommates before, and most of us have had good and bad experiences with it. When you don't get along with your roommate, the entire house can feel like there's tension. You don't want to come home or spend time there, and you end up hiding in your room half the time, and the shared space becomes an unused dust bunny. When you're friends with your roommate, it's the best situation you could ask for. You come home and get to dish out how your days were, and connect in an intimate way with someone. 

In this situation and story, the roommate situation isn't really working out. One woman hid cameras in the shared space and her roommate's room. Talk about invasive, creepy, and inappropriate. I'm not sure what drove her to feel like she had to see what was going on in there, but she's obviously seen too much, and the two can't continue living together.

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    "I have a right to know what's happening in your room" Canon EF LENS
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    r/AITAH • 10 hr. ago NovaXX987 AITA for kicking my roommate out after finding out she was secretly recording me in the apartment?
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    I (25F) live in a two-bedroom apartment with my roommate, Sarah (26F). We've been friends for years and decided to move in together to save money. For the most part, it's been fine-until recently.
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    A few weeks ago, I started noticing weird things, like my stuff being moved around when I wasn't home. I asked Sarah about it, and she brushed it off, saying. maybe I was imagining it or forgetting where I'd put things.
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    One night, I was up late and noticed a blinking light coming from one of my bookshelves. I found a small hidden camera tucked between some books. I freaked out and confronted Sarah. She admitted she'd put cameras in the common areas and my room because she felt "unsafe" and wanted to "monitor the apartment."
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    This is beyond crazy…it's so intimate to be in your room alone. It's why people chose to have their own rooms instead of sharing. How is one supposed to feel safe or secure when they now know they're being watched when they're in their own room? They change their clothes in there, and do a multitude of other things that one would never want other people to see. How do you come back from this? 

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    She claimed it wasn't a big deal because she wasn't watching the footage unless something happened, but I felt completely violated. I told her it was an invasion of my privacy, and she didn't have the right to record me without my consent.
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    Why are you filming your roommate if you're not watching the footage? Sounds sketchy, creepy, and just absolutely not okay. 

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    She tried to argue that since we share the apartment, she had the right to know what's happening in it. I disagreed, especially since the camera was hidden in my personal space. After a heated argument, I told her she had to move out by the end of the month.
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    She's now telling mutual friends I'm overreacting and that she was just trying to "feel safe." Some of them are saying I should have handled it differently or given her a chance to stay. But to me, this was a deal-breaker.
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    Lyra00 • 10h ago NTA. Recording someone without their consent is a massive violation of trust and privacy, especially in their personal space.
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    Medical_Onion... • 10h ago • She felt unsafe in YOUR bedroom? You need to call the police on the loon.
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    boomzgoesthe... • 10h ago. Top 1% Commenter Yeahhh I'd call the police just to ensure she's actually erasing all the footage. In your bedroom? F that.
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    NovaXX987 OP • 10h ago • Sarah had mentioned a few months back that she was worried about some packages being stolen from the lobby, but we live in a secure building with cameras already in common areas. I suggested we ask the landlord to review the
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    footage or add more security, but she never followed up on it. When I asked her why she didn't tell me about the cameras, she said she thought I'd "overreact" and that she didn't see it as a big deal since she wasn't using them to spy-just to have
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    "peace of mind.” But then why hide them? That's what really gets to me. If she had come to me and we'd talked it out, maybe things would've been different, but sneaking cameras into my personal space was just too much.
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    nelsonlayla 10h ago • You're definitely not overreacting. What she did was a huge violation of trust and privacy. It's your home too, and you have every right to feel safe there.
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    Many_Worlds_... • 10h ago • NTA. You are massively under reacting. She could be selling pictures or videos of you n ked online. Usually when you find hidden cameras in your bedroom - that's what it's about, and her explanation makes no sense. Make a police report,
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    make sure she has handed over any and all footage. A restraining order also makes sense in my mind. Do not give her until the end of the month to leave your apartment you are not safe with her there.
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    Old_Airline_855 • 10h ago NTA, secretly recording someone in their private space is a massive violation. If she felt unsafe there are a hundred better ways to address it than turning your home into her personal surveillance project. You handled it better than most
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    would because honestly that's an instant eviction move.
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    Inevitable-Forc... 10h ago • You did the right thing! Did she ever show you all the footage she had! I bet not because she doesn't want you to know what she has. She could be selling pictures of you online. You should call the police!!
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    gastropod43 .10h ago. NTA Top 1% Commenter What else is she hiding from you. The camera in your room is unforgivable.
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