Parents force teenage son to move in with his grandparents across the country after his 17-year-old sister gets pregnant and needs help raising the baby: ‘They claim they're trying to spare me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jan 15, 2025 5:00 PM EST

When you grow up with siblings, you often find yourself being blamed, or even paying, for your siblings' mistakes. If you are a middle child (like yours truly) you are constantly paying for your older and younger sibling's misdeeds, until you get used to basically being the family's scapegoat.

Is it fair? Absolutely not. But can you do something about it? Usually also… no.

In most occasions, the outcome of paying for your siblings' mistakes is not so bad. Maybe you'll be grounded for a week, maybe you'll have to physically pay for something that broke around the house, maybe all you have to do is sit through another lecture from your parents, but it is all quickly forgotten and you can move on. 

On other occasions, you find yourself 'paying' much more for your siblings' problems, so much so that you may consider standing up for yourself once and for all. 

The brother in the story down below, found himself having to face the consequences of his sister's big mistake, and you can be sure he did not simply accept his fate.

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  • It all started when his parents found out that his 17-year-old sister was pregnant and decided to help her raise the baby so she could finish school. 

    Obviously, the sister getting pregnant is not the younger brother's mistake or problem, and he should not be the one paying for it. But that did not stop the parents from trying to get him out of the house so they could use his room as the baby's room, expecting him to uproot his life and move in with his grandparents in a different state.

    How did he take these news? Keep scrolling to read the rest of the story.

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  • "My sister got pregnant and now my parents want me to stay with my grandparents in a different state, I don't want to aitah?"

    My sister is 17 and he recently found she was pregnant. My parents plan on helping her raise the baby but we have limited space. My grandparents
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  • who are nice but also very old and live in a different state suggested I stay with them that way my sister's baby can have a separate room or whatever.
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  • Our parents plan to help raise the baby so my sister can finish school and go to university. Academically she is fairly smart but outside of that yeah.
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  • I start HS next year, so my parents and grandparents think it would be an easier transition for me. My friends are here I really don't want to go through the HS experience with no one I know.
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  • My family thinks I am being stubborn and unsupportive. My uncle told me I am not thinking about this objectively. He told me facts are having a new born can
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  • be rough and not easy. He claims my parents are trying to spare me. I get that, but why do I have to move across the country because my sister got pregnant?
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  • Before you scroll down to the comments, try and think about what you would do in this situation. 

    As much as it is a terrible demand from the parents, it might still be a good decision for their son. Maybe staying in a house with a newborn baby is not the best idea, regardless of where the baby sleeps. Maybe a fresh start would be good for him. At least some of the people down below definitely think so…

  • ReleaseTheBlacken Think of it this way, you can get away from the t ors that don't want you. This may be a blessing in disguise. Why stay with people who care less about you? This is a great chance to get away and put in the work to be successful and cut them all off.
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  • TRA_ra... OP Idk i barely have a relationship with my grandparents I could count on one hand how many times I have met them. They don't travel much due to their age and they across the country so we don't visit them much.
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  • Maybe I am worried I will be asked to help care for them idk. Plus they live in PA all I remember from where they live it gets very cold.
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  • Findinganewnormal Which high school is better? Would your grandparents be more able than your parents to support you with any sports or after school activities you might want to do? Does the new high school have a lot
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  • of new students or is it someplace where everyone's been together since kindergarten? It would be awful to be away from your friends but if the new school and living arrangement is better then it might be worth the rough adjustment for future benefits.
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  • TRA_random88737 OP My grandparents are in pushing 80, so doubt they would be much support with activities. I also barely know them given their age they don't travel much and given how
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  • they live in PA we don't make our way up their much either. I can count on one hand how often I have seen them. As for the schools I know nothing about their school, I will look into that.
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  • Haunting Reaction6124 Just something to think of, if you stay you run the risk of being in house babysitter and any social life or extra for school will be put at bottom of list because your parents and sister already telling you the priority in the house will be the baby.
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  • TRA_random88737 OP My uncle also told me something similar but not in as many words.
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  • crotchetyoldwitch How about your sister and her new baby go live with your grandparents? You shouldn't be punished for her stupidity.
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  • TRA_random88737 OP I can only guess but doubt they want a baby in their house. I know they mean well.
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  • shammy_dammy How would you like this to go?
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  • TRA_random88737 OP Idk have her stay with the father's family.
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  • shammy_dammy Does she know them? Do they agree to this?
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  • TRA_random88737 OP We know him yeah, as for his parents idk. At first our dad was pi ed and wanted to k¦ him I know that much.
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  • DesperateToNotDream Nta Why does the baby need a whole room to itself? Your sister can't share her room with her child?
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  • TissueOfLies NTA You shouldn't have to, but as a minor, you might not have a choice or at least much of one. You can try to speak to your parents rationally and calmly stating why you want to remain
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  • where you are. Be respectful when they are talking, as you want at least the same. Let them know that you think upon things. rather than make a rash decision.
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