Woman doesn't want to continue to be responsible for 18-year-old sister-in-law's pet snake mistake: 'I plan to give her the $200 she paid and re-home the snake permanently'

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    "AITA for telling my SIL I’m done taking care of her snake?"

    My SIL, who's in high school, wanted a snake, but her mom said no, so she asked my husband to co-own one with her. He agreed, and I went along with it since I've wanted a snake before. We bought the tank, lights, and bedding, while she got decorative items, and we split the cost of the snake ($200 each). We set up the tank in our spare room.
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    However, I somehow became the snake's primary caretaker, even though it wasn't my idea. My husband's involvement was minimal-mostly driving with me to get rats (a 30- minute drive) and pre-killing them. I was the only one feeding, cleaning, and handling the snake. SIL would visit occasionally to see the snake, but not often.
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    After about a year, my SIL said she could take the snake to her career technical school, where she's in an animal program. So that's was we did for the rest of junior year and then again when senior year started. I was relieved and drove her and the snake to school whenever needed (a 35-40 minute drive). It felt like a solution, but then winter break came, and the snake came back to my house.
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    Now I'm pregnant, and our spare room will become the baby's room. I started asking SIL to take the snake after graduation (about 5+ months away). I told her she'd need to convince her mom to let her keep him or rehome him. Her response was always the same: she'd come over to care for the snake after getting her license and even suggested having a key to my house. I told her no-that doesn't solve the problem of the snake taking up space.
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    When I insisted she figure it out, she became ride, saying " calling me a you" and person for "throwing the snake out." Then in the same breath she claimed she's the most mature person in the family. I tried to give her plenty of time, but she's not being respectful of the fact that it's my house, and I no longer want the snake here. If she continues being ride, I plan to give her the $200 she paid and rehome. the snake permanently. AITA?
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    Let me clear a few things, She's 18 guys. Not some "little kid". Let me remind you that she said she's the most mature person in her family (she's the youngest out of 7 btw) Yes my husband could have helped more but considering he works the most and helps take care of the house and our three cats (cats we've had since they were 13 weeks and are now over 5 years old... we love and take care of our pets) I've let it slide. But that wasn't right of me so I have been conversing with him about it and
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    Guys his tank takes up too much space in a single wide trailer... if I wanted the snake there's no logical place for him.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hole: I'm insensitive to the fact that she doesn't want him out of my house because her mom won't let her have him.
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    jadepumpkin1984 . 4h ago. Nta. But your husband also needs to be in on this conversation.
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    AllTheColors8762 4h ago • NTA. • Where's your husband in all of this? Hopefully he'll take better care of his baby than his snake.
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    bellamy-bl8ke • 3h ago. ESH except the snake A snake is a pet and pets take lots of forethought and planning. It's a commitment to the lifetime of the pet. If you always knew the snake could never stay in the home when you started a family, and SIL could never keep the snake at her house while she's still in high school, I'm... not sure why there is now a snake in the mix.
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    She's a kid, and while her attitude and cursing at you s ks I'm just not sure this was a good idea to begin with. I get that things change and life happens but I feel as if this was a decision to get a snake just because a teenager was like "yeah, always wanted a snake!" without actually thinking about how much work and care and enthusiasm goes into one, and everyone just went along with it rather than telling them no and waiting a few years for them to grow up and get one on their own. But hind
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    And lastly, where is the husband in all of this? Are you not at all worried that this lackadaisical attitude to his own pet will translate to his future child?
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    Okdoey 3h ago • ESH Your SIL was a minor and therefore could not legally enter into a binding contract. While the idea may have been hers, it's really your husbands snake since he's the adult who actually purchased the snake. He shouldn't have agreed to do so without the understanding that the snake is his responsibility and not counting on a minor.
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    A pet, any pet, is a lifelong responsibility and shouldn't have been entered into lightly. Hopefully you can find a good home for the snake with someone who is more responsible in making that choice.
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    Prairie Bunny91 · 2h ago • ESH. So many exotic pets like snakes end up in conditions or in rescues because no one puts the time and energy into really thinking about the care that goes into them and how long they live.
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    Mountain-BI • d-7374 3h ago • Nta. And don't give her back the $200 she spent if you rehome the snake. You've probably spent more than that on feeding the snake since it began living with you. She doesn't just get her money back because she can't be responsible. Also, give her a hard deadline. Make communication with your SIL your husband's problem. The only way I'd find you the AH in this situation is if you decide that rehoming the snake means letting it loose outside rather than it going to a
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