'I don’t think I overreacted at all': Woman's boyfriend causes a scene in the grocery store, she leaves him there to figure out how to get home on his own

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    "AITA for leaving my boyfriend at the grocery store after he acted like a total a**h*le?"

    So, my boyfriend (28M) and I (23F) went grocery shopping together last night. I hate grocery shopping with him because he always treats it like a game- grabbing random crop we don't need and making jokes about the "boring" things I put on the list, like it's some kind of personal attack. I wasn't in the mood for his nonsense, but I figured I'd try to stay chill. Spoiler: it didn't work.
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    We're halfway through the store, and he's already tossed in a bunch of overpriced snacks, fancy meats, and a random kitchen gadget we absolutely do not need. I reminded him, nicely, that we're sticking to the budget this month because I just paid a huge bill, and he completely flipped. He started making these snide comments like, "Oh, sorry, I didn't realize you were my financial manager" and "Maybe I should just Venmo you for every chip I eat."
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    I told him to stop, but he just kept going, louder, like he wanted people to hear. "Why don't you write me a little shopping allowance, huh? Would that make you feel better?" People were definitely staring at this point, and I was mortified. I told him I was serious, we needed to stick to the essentials, and he rolled his eyes and said, "You're so uptight, no wonder people think you're controlling."
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    That was it for me. I told him I wasn't doing this and started walking toward the car. He followed me halfway, still yelling, "Are you seriously leaving? Wow, real mature!" but then turned back to the store, probably to pout or buy more unnecessary cr p.
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    I sat in the car for like 10 minutes, texting him to stop being dramatic and let's just finish the shopping and go home. He didn't reply, so I left. He had his phone, his wallet, and plenty of options for getting home. When he got back later, he was p ed. He said I humiliated him by "abandoning" him, that I overreacted, and that I'm always trying to control him.
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    But honestly? I don't think I overreacted at all. He acted like a complete child, picked a public fight over nothing, and made me feel like crop for trying to keep us on track financially. Now he's sulking and making me feel guilty, but I don't think I did anything wrong. AITA?
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    Here's what commenters had to say

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    YTA for thinking you're dating an adult and not being able to recognize that he's ACTUALLY 2 kids stacked in a trenchcoat.
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    Do you think he actually bought his snacks or...

    NTA. You are living with a man child. He threw a tantrum in the store over not getting some chips and a toy. I am surprised he didn't lay on the floor and hold his breath, he did everything else in the toddler playbook.
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    You don't negotiate with toddlers and terrorists, so you were absolutely right to leave him at the store. He is continuing to act like a toddler. I don't see this relationship lasting at this rate. You are trying to get control of the budget and he wants to make you feel guilty and sulk. That is a huge immature red flag right there.
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    You are NTA. Your boyfriend's behavior was childish, disrespectful, and manipulative
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    Preach!

    NTA. in fact, i'm personally a proponent of you leaving him (and not just at the grocery store)
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    NTA. The fact that he's 5 years older than you but act like a toddler says a lot. Personally I cannot stand being with anyone financially irresponsible, it's a deal breaker for me. Let alone how he acted after you try to communicate like an adult. DUMP HIM. He can go himself. f
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    Your only mistake was not packing and leaving. He's childish, embarrassing and financially irresponsible. I see no redeeming qualities. You can do better. Let him sulk and have his little tantrums but remove yourself from this immature person. NTA
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    NTA. He's the one making a scene in public and throwing a tantrum over budget management. If he's that childish over grocery shopping, imagine how he'd handle real problems. You didn't abandon him, you just wisely left a grown man to figure out his own drama. If he can't handle a simple budget discussion without flipping out, that's a red flag, not an overreaction.
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    You need to dump his worthless a - he's only a boyfriend there are more out there
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    NTA. Your boyfriend's behavior was childish, disrespectful, and completely unnecessary. You were clear about the need to stick to a budget, and instead of having a mature conversation, he turned it into a public spectacle, embarrassing you in the process. Walking away was a reasonable response to that.
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    Owned.

    NTA. Ask your man child if he noticed all the actual toddlers giving him side eye.
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    OWNED!!

    NTA Congratulations you dating a toddler. Maybe upgrade him to at least grade schooler, they usually more reasonable

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