Woman excludes self-proclaimed ‘total klepto’ from a group hangout at her house after alleged thief brags about her sticky fingers

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jan 23, 2025 6:00 AM EST

You can never be too careful about who you invite into your home. You never know what kind of behavior you're inviting into your sacred space filled with expensive items that you spent your hard-earned paychecks on. The last thing you want to do is not take someone's word for it when they tell you they have an irrational urge to steal.

This story is definitely towing the bizarre side… Who would willingly admit they have an irrational stealing problem and allow that to be their first impression? Yeah, the alleged "total klepto" in this story went around a woman's social club and used that as her opening line. The user who posted this story was taken aback when she realized this person was being serious and continued to tell others that she had a problem with theft. So, when the user decides to host a few friends in her home, the "total klepto" did not receive an invitation, rightfully so. You can never be too careful these days.

Well, instead of everyone understanding where the user is coming from, more are coming to the alleged thief's defense. What do you think? Scroll to read the entire story.

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  • "I'm not comfortable inviting a kleptomaniac into my home."
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  • "AITA for declining to invite a woman who has called herself ‘a total klepto’ into my home?"

    I joined a Women's Social Club 6 months ago because I've been struggling to make friends after relocating to a new-to-me city. It took
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  • me a while to warm up to the group and to connect with people I actually had anything in common with. I had to wade through a lot of botox parties and boozy brunches to find things I was interested in.
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  • But I did, and I started coming to group events fairly often. I hang out most often with the women who like to read, do crafty things, bake, skywatch, etc.
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  • Among these women is one, I'll call her Andea, who has made several comments about how she's a total klepto. I think that she makes these comments to seem "cool" to the other people. in the group.
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  • I reached out to some of the women I see regularly at these events and invited them over to my place to watch a TV show we'd been talking about and do crafty stuff. They were excited and agreed to come.
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  • Unfortunately, Andrea found out (I assume someone asked if she was going) and reached out to me to ask if she was invited. I considered
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  • this for a bit and then told her no, as I only had so much room at home. She didn't believe me and asked me for the real reason, saying "I thought. we got along" which yes, is true.
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  • I told her I'm not comfortable inviting a kleptomaniac into my home. That I've worked hard to have the things I have and it would be stupid for me to invite her knowing that she openly brags about it.
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  • She said 'Okay' very quietly. She then said. "You're painting me out to be some horrible criminal when you don't even know anything about me."
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  • The user who posted this story might've been too quick to judge if this “total klepto" nonsense was mentioned only once before. But several times? She's given everyone a reason to worry about her potential immoral behavior.

    Also—it's the user's house. She isn't required to invite everyone in the entire social group if she doesn't want to. Andrea made her bed to lie in for the sake of seeming “cool” (though I'm not sure how that would make her seem as such) and she's reaping what she sowed. As for the other group members—I'm not sure where their logic went.

  • I said that her being proud to call herself a klepto was all I needed to know. She said that I was a high school mean girl and ableist. I am unsure what the foundation for that statement is.
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  • This unfortunately has spilled over to the group, which is frustrating. But what has me the most surprised is that there are so many people defending her and telling. me that I'm out of touch. and take things too literally. Am I?
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  • Tipsy-boo NTA Being a thief isn't the same as being a kleptomaniac or a 'klepto' One of the key factors of diagnosing kleptomania (which is a legit rare mental health disorder)
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  • is the rollercoaster of emotions about the theft. A kleptomaniac will not tell virtual strangers that they have stolen because the shame is physically painful to them. Andrea is the ableist for rebranding kleptomania to justify her poor behaviour
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  • 101037633 NTA. Those defending her are more than welcome to have Klepto-Andi in their houses. I'd say no too. She isn't entitled to an invite to your home, no matter her circumstances.
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  • People who make these comments have to learn there are consequences to their behaviours....even if she is exaggerating the issue. You aren't an ableist or high school mean girl for protecting your property.
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  • lihzee NTA. She shouldn't be bragging about being a thief if she doesn't want people worried that she'll steal from them. Common sense.
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  • Filthy Daemon NTA. "You're right, Andrea, I don't know you that well. I only know what you've told me about yourself."
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  • Still_Cardiologis... Have you asked the other girls if she's stolen anything from them? Just curious, NTA
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  • Kno... I have not asked the other women in the group, mostly out of simply not wanting to foster drama when I'm new.
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