Husband asks his wife of 6 years and mother of his 3 children to sign a prenup years after their wedding: 'I would never ask for half of his shares in the business'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Jan 28, 2025 6:00 PM EST

Asking your partner to sign a prenup can make the relationship slightly tense. Although it's perfectly normal to want to protect millions of dollars worth of assets that you acquired before the marriage, you're basically saying you don't trust your partner and are in some way anticipating a divorce. I know that's not actually what you're saying, but it's easy to jump from A to B to C. Maybe assuming that prenups are premeditating divorce is kind of an immature way to think about it, but as someone who watched Charlotte York get torn up over whether to sign a prenup, negotiate with Bunny MacDougal for $1 million, have a horrible, unfulfilling, loveless marriage with Trey, and barely even make it out with her apartment, I have my reasons to be suspicious. All I know is that Harry Goldenblatt would NEVER ask his beautiful, wonderful wife to sign a prenup.

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  • Asking for a prenup before getting married is relatively standard, but what about a postnup? The wife in this story is baffled when her husband asks her to sign a prenup after they have been together for 10 years and married for 6. Her husband says it's because of his dad, but the internet is not sure they believe that excuse. 

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    AITA refusing sign prenup after marriage?

    My husband (35M) and I (33F) have been married for 6 years and together for 10 (we knew each other forever, lol). We have 3 kids. When we got married, we were both pharmacists. Two years into our marriage, my husband opened a family business with his father, and the business is doing really well.
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    My husband gets 50% of the net revenue and owns a good amount of money, but everything is ☐☐ in the company, and the balance is updated every year as the business grows. His father is worried that if we ever get divorced, I'll ask for half of the business's money, so he wants me to sign a document relinquishing that right.
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    For context, we're Muslims, and in Islam, the woman is entitled to what was agreed upon prior to marriage in case of divorce. For me, that amount is around $120,000, and our house is already 50/50, so I wouldn't ask for anything more. However, I don't want to sign anything. I feel my husband should trust me when I say I would never ask for half of his share ins the business.
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    Studious_Noodle If you're in the US I'd tell you to consult a lawyer immediately. This is not something you should have to handle alone, or be forced into.
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    imasitegazer Seems maybe the dad knows more than he is letting on, as in maybe the husband is considering divorce. Or spouse is saying it's coming from dad to cover his motives. Unfortunately it's not uncommon that a spouse will seek divorce after they become dramatically more wealthy.
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    Boymom1505 OP I am in Canada, and no I have access to all the bank accounts/official documents sales and everything. My husband run his weekly goals and success every day/week month lolll sooo no. and It began with his father wanting this but now he is on board to which is making me stand my grounds more
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    slatz 1970 Go talk to an attorney. Your husband and fil are doing a lot of behind the scenes talking. You need your person to chat (legally) with. Regardless of customs, there are laws where you live. Don't sell yourself short.
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    Soapyfreshfingers FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT
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    Opposite-Progress990 NTA. Asking for a post marital contract 6 years and 3 kids into the marriage is absurd. If they wanted a prenup, that ship sailed before the wedding. The double standard with your MIL makes it even more insulting.
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    Your word and Islamic marriage contract should be enough. This feels like your FIL trying to control things and your husband not standing up for you. Hold your ground.
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    WHODATSAIDD It must be doing really well for him to ask about it now, do not sign. NTA
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    betterthanur2 A prenup is called a prenup because it occurs before marriage not during. You are entitled to half of martial assets especially because he used martial assets to create that asset, period.
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    1RainbowUnicorn Yes, he used marital assets to create the business so of course you would be entitled to half if you were to divorce!!! DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING! If he had lost that money, you would have lost that money, too
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    chonk_fox89 And there's a very good chance he wouldn't have been able to run the business without her caring for the home and such. She's entitled to part of that id they split. If really wants you to sign a post-nup agreement, make sure it's fair and have it checked by a lawyer but don't sign anything retro actively.
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    Old_Fatty_Lumpkin She's a pharmacist too, not a housewife. I wouldn't sign anything after the marriage, nor would I advise anyone to do so.
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    saesmith Trained as pharmacist does not mean she's actually working. But even if she is, given the religious context of her stated pre-nup I would be willing to bet she handles more of the household duties (as much as most housewives) than he does even if she works full time. I agree with you on not signing anything post- nuptials though.
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    More_Good_Advice I think he is asking because he is looking for an exit strategy. Please get a lawyer. Please go to couples counseling. This is a big yellow flag. Men who are wealthy and happy do not ask these questions
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    DozenBia To me it sounds like the dad is afraid of loosing the business in case of divorce, not the husband. If suddenly OP owns 25% and wants to be bought out of the company, where all the money they might go bankrupt assuming is they'd have to sell their equipment for example.
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    OP says she wouldn't want that and is fine with the religious ruling of a theoritical divorce. But a family court may see that differently to ensure OPs and the kids financial wellbeing, besides the fact OP could change her mind.
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    cthulularoo Technically a Post-nup. Money and family is always a tricky subject. Is he offering you anything for this consideration? You're technically entitled to this money because as his wife, you helped him build the business. If he
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    wants you to give up something you're entitled to, there's got to be some sort of compensation for it. Its not even a trust issue for me, its just you shouldn't be screwed over. NTA, get a lawyer to help cover your bt.
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    Boymom1505 OP For him I am entiteled to this half. he is saying that I am only entiteled to what was agreed on when we got married the 120k and thats it. I agree because this is how our religion is despite living in canada. I wanted to tell him that I am working as well for him to build his wealth and it is not fair to not get anything if we divorced but I dont want to go to this extent yet. Like whenhe travels I stay with the kids and care for them 100%. Thats work too and If i dont do it propr
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    Impossible-Fly-8236 It's reasonable to feel uncomfortable signing something that implies distrust in your marriage
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    Boymom1505 OP exactlyy thanks
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