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AITA for secretly outbidding my in-laws for a house on our block?
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I can completely understand how the couple feels. I also wouldn't want to be direct neighbors with my in-laws, nor my parents. It's just too close for comfort. I would want to know there's some separation between the two. I want to live my life and not feel like I'm a child living next to my parents.
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I don't disagree with his decision to buy the home to avoid living next to his in-laws, but he definitely should have told his wife. They're married, and it's slightly breaching on their trust. She has no idea who bid on the home, plus he plans to rent it out, so she's bound to find out sooner rather than later.
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Man secretly outbids his in-laws to avoid having them as neighbors, he tells only his brother, who alludes to spilling his secrets: “She doesn’t want them as neighbors either”
Money is going to come up at some point in a relationship. It should be brought up even in the early stages of dating. You wouldn't want to end up in a situation where you live with someone and find out they're broke, in debt, gambling, or just bad with their money. It's important to figure out where you each stand before things get too serious. I'm not saying you have to show each other your monthly paychecks, but there should be some level of reasonability when it comes to financial compatibility.
Because money and relationships can get so complicated, a lot of couples are choosing to have separate bank accounts these days. Some have only shared bank accounts, but it's fewer and fewer each year. Ideally, you would still want your own account, just to be on the safe side. There's no harm in having your own piggy bank that only you have access to, just in case. It's not a bad idea to have a shared one as well, so that you and your partner can turn there for mutual expenses like trips, groceries, mortgage or rent.
In the story below, the couple do have separate bank accounts. This allows them to spend differently, as well as keep secrets about their spending.