Stepdad demands daughter give part of her inheritance to 10 and 12-year-old half-siblings: 'My stepdad has been insisting I share the money'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Feb 17, 2025 11:00 AM EST

There are few things that can split up a seemingly happy family faster than money issues. 

Let's face it, lots of people don't just live paycheck to paycheck, they don't always have any upward mobility to look forward to. Working 40+ hours a week for your whole life is just the hand that many people are dealt. So when they come into a windfall of money, they know their life could transform instantly overnight. Instead of grinding away for a boss you hate, you could be reading a book on the beach in Miami, or investing in a swanky Corvette, or taking all your friends to a sports game with box seats. It's the kind of thing we all daydream about, but probably won't get the chance to achieve. 

All this money represents something worth fighting for, but when the person you're squared up against is your sibling, half-sibling, or another family member, it can change the whole dynamic of your relationship. This person disagrees with her stepdad that she should give a bunch of her own inheritance money to her 10 and 12-year-old half-siblings. They're way too young to even know what to do with the money! And as this person notes, they already did get some inheritance money, just not quite as much. So why does Dad want that additional money so badly? Hmm…

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    DSTATES OFAMERICA 'She could have left the money to your siblings, but she specifically did not' 100 REDSTVIES RICA DOLLARS CRNAR 100 100
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    "AITA for not wanting to share my inheritance with my half-siblings?"

    1 (25F), just inherited a lot of money from my deceased mother. She passed away unexpectedly not too long ago. My parents got divorced when I was 10. My mom got remarried a year later and had 2 kids with my stepdad. So, my half-sibling are 12M and 10F. My mom and I were very close growing up. After the divorce, I technically did live with
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    her and visited with my dad on weekends. My stepdad was nice, but I never felt like I was truly a part of that family, though. My mom had let it be known that she was going to set me up for life because she realized that my father was not very set up. So, when my mom passed, she left everything to me. In her will, it was written that she wanted me to use the money for my education, future, and general
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    well-being. She left a lesser amount in a trust for my half- siblings that they could access when they reached 18, but the main body of her estate went to me, of course. Lately, my stepdad has been insisting that I share the money my mom left me with my half-siblings. The reason he has given is that my mom would never have wanted one of her children to live better than the others, and they are still minors,
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    after all. Sorry, but I think my mom had her reasons for writing her will the way she did so precisely. My dad says that I should not feel guilty about honoring my mom's wishes. But my stepdad, and even some of my extended family, are painting me as selfish and greedy. They're of the opinion that I'm putting money ahead of the best interests of the family and that I should be considering the needs of my half-siblings down the line.
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    I love my half-siblings, and at this point, I feel a greater responsibility is to honor my mom's wishes. I am caught between what I feel is right and the pressure from my stepdad and extended family.
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    Commenters assured this person that she wasn't doing anything wrong

    MouiiSpace NTA Family seems to always come up and call people selfish when money is involved. It's yours. And she gave it to you for a reason. If you want to share it that's fine but you are not obligated nor do you have to. Your half siblings have a trust it kind of sounds like your mother might not have
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    trusted your step dad with the money. But in no way should you feel obligated to give something that was meant for your future.
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    I agree that it's a bit suspicious that the dad is pushing so hard for more money. It's almost like he took the siblings' cash and spent it already… but we can't say for certain. It's an interesting thing for him to do, though! 

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    Mom knows best! Save that money for the children's college funds or a house payment

    [deleted] NTA. Your mother (R.I.P) obviously knew what she was doing when she left the majority of the estate to you. Also it's not like she left the other kids out to dry. She left them a trust fund that they can access in 6-8 years.
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    Plus are kids gonna do with that money now anyway? Presumably their father is taking care of them right? Don't let your step-dad bu y you.
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    ryujinakitas NTA. Your mom had her reasons and nobody knows them except her. Honor your mothers last hope and wish in life. This could be money your mom saved while stepdad spent his. Dont Fund Stupidity. Its yours, make the most of it to make your mom proud. Stepdad still has years to fund and support his kids, you have no-one.
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    Honor thy Mother respectfully, obey her dying wishes
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    flobaby1 Your Mother knew your step dad better than anyone. She knows when step dad dies, everything goes to his bio kids and he will leave you out. That's why she covered your back. Step dad is the greedy ah le here. Honor thy Mother <3
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    colin_staples Them: "The deceased would have wanted you to share the money" You: "The deceased spelled out in the will exactly what they wanted, and I will do exactly what the will says" Don't give them any money
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    Perhaps bringing in some outside legal counsel could make things go more smoothly too, with fewer hurt feelings

    princessofperky You would actually be disrespectful to your mom by not doing what she wanted. She could have left the money to your siblings. but she specifically did not. Make sure your money is secured and your dad and the attorney know about the pressure. NTA
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