32-year-old sister-in-law pretends she was fired after quitting her job to move in with brother, gets kicked out when wife discovers the truth: ‘‘She didn't want to have an irresponsible reputation but still wants to stay with us to "sort things out."’

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  • "AITA for refusing to let my sister-in-law move in after lying about losing her job?"

    "She betrayed our trust, and we were justified in asking her to leave"
  • So, background: I (29F) have a sister-in-law, "Melanie" (32F), who's been kind of. difficult. She's always been dramatic, but things have been worse lately. A few weeks ago, she told us that she got fired and was having money problems. She begged my
  • husband (28M) and me if she might come and stay with us until she was better off. We've helped her before, so we agreed - but under the proviso that she would go out and seek work and do what she could for us while staying with us. She seemed to be really down on her luck, so we agreed.
  • The problem was, after she'd moved in, everything started to look fishy. She was still going out with friends every other weekend and blowing money on clothes, takeout, and all sorts of other things that didn't add up if she
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  • was really in as much financial difficulty as she said she was. My husband and I were getting suspicious about it, but we didn't want to accuse her of anything until we were absolutely sure.
  • Well, last week, I ran into one of my old coworkers who works for the same company Melanie claimed she'd been laid off from. I inquired about her well-being, and this person told me that
  • Melanie hadn't been laid off whatsoever! It turned out that she'd actually quit working there weeks earlier to reach out to us, and nobody had any idea why she was making up this story.
  • I quarreled with Melanie about it, and she admitted that she had quit her job but did not want to admit that to us because she did not want to have an irresponsible
  • reputation. She said that she was too embarrassed to tell the truth, but she still wanted to stay with us to "sort things out."
  • I told her to leave. I'm upset because she deceived us, took advantage of our hospitality, and to be honest, I don't appreciate being manipulated like that. My husband is backing me up, but
  • now his family is giving me such a hard time, calling me heartless and unsympathetic. They say I should have been more sympathetic and that I'm overreacting.
  • I believe that she betrayed our trust, and we were justified in asking her to leave. But now I'm wondering if maybe I should have handled it differently. AITA for not allowing her to stay after the lie?
  • SheCantbelieveit His family has an opinion and a place she can stay. NTA.
  • glimmerseeker His family thinks you should be more sympathetic to what?! She LIED about being fired, quit her job, to be able to move in with you and
  • your husband. If they're so worried about her they can take her in. (They won't.) You're NTA. Good thing you and your husband agree.
  • Grandmapatty64 Tell anyone that says your heartless that they are free to open their home to her. It doesn't have to be you and your husband. There's more members of the family and she can sponge off with somebody else.
  • wild-druid OP, you are NTA. I really think that spouses should manage their own side of the family during ordeals like this. It is your husband's sister. You guys
  • made the decision to help together, but primarily contact to remove the SIL should've been handled by your spouse as it is his sister.
  • makeitmakesense2023 NTA-if her family is so disappointed then maybe it's their turn to step up and step in? Funny how people who aren't doing anything always seem to have the most to say.
  • Fickle_Toe1724 NTA. She quit her job, then lied about it. She can go stay with anyone who says you should keep her.
  • I grew up with the idea of, you never quit a job until you have another one lined up. Take a day off to do interviews, yes. But you don't quit until you have the start date for the new job.
  • Any-Split3724 Every guest room should be outfitted with a mother-in- law mattress (so uncomfortable and hard they can't stay more than 3 days). She's gotten comfy
  • and buried herself into your home like the bloodsucker tick that she is. Your husband needs to man up and give her walking papers. Time for her to leech off someone rise.
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