'He’s the guest, not me': Woman and boyfriend demand roommate clear the living room to 'give them space’, roommate insists they have no right

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Mar 6, 2025 8:00 AM EST

You never know what to expect when you are forced to live with another person.

It's crazy how we got so used to the idea that if we need a place to live, and we cannot afford living alone, we have to share our space with at least one other person, who we often never even met before. Think about it, the place where we live is quite literally the most sacred place to us on earth. It's where we keep all of our belongings, when we should feel the most comfortable and secure, and most importantly, it's where we sleep at night.

And we have to share that space with someone we don't know.

If you're lucky, the most you will have to deal with is a few quirks, most about the unclean dishes in the sink and maybe an early bird who makes noise in the morning, but nothing more serious than that. If you're not so lucky, your roommate might actually make the place you're supposed to feel the most at home in into a place you cannot wait to get out of.

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  • The woman in the story below is dealing with a roommate who seems eager to make her as uncomfortable as possible. Mostly because she keeps bringing her boyfriend to their place, and acting like he is a 3rd roommate whose entitled to everything they do.

    When this roommate and her boyfriend demanded the other roommate clear out the living room for them, she decided she would finally take a stand against their behavior.

    Scroll down to read what happened next.

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    ก "Why should I go hide in my room?"
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    "My roommate thinks I should give up the living room whenever her boyfriend is over"

    Okay so I (18F) live with my roommate (19F) and we usually get along fine. But lately, her boyfriend (23M) has been over ALL the time. Like, he's basically just living here
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    now, except he doesn't pay rent. So last night, I get home from work, grab some food, and plop down on the couch to
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    eat and watch Netflix. Five minutes later, my roommate and her boyfriend walk in, and I can tell he's already annoyed. He looks at me and goes, "I thought we were gonna have some alone time?"
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    She sighs and says, "Hey, do you mind giving us the living room for a bit?" And I just said, "Uh... I live here?" Like, this is MY apartment too. She kinda rolls her eyes and says,
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    "You could just go chill in your room for a bit." Like... excuse me?? I pay rent here too. Why should I go hide in my room just because he wants to sit on my couch? |
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    didn't move, and they ended up going to her room, but later she texts me saying I was "being inconsiderate" and that I should've "respected their space."
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    Am I being crazy? How is it THEIR space? We share this apartment! If anything, he's the guest, not me.
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    Lonely-Wafer-9664 NTA.....And why have "alone time" in the living room? Let them get a room or use her own room.
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    Ruby-Luca845 OP Glad to see I'm not the only one who thinks this is weird. I honestly just want my living room back, is that too much to ask?
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    T9Para "Yes, you are correct, it IS inconsiderate, and YOU BOTH dont respect MY space" "As soon as our 3rd roommate
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    starts paying 1/3 of the rent and all utilities......." Pause and let that soak in.
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    your-yogurt check your apartment lease. if he's over that often, sleeping over, etc, he may be violating apartment rules. landlords hate not getting rent
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    Big_It ...it's not THEIR space. In fact the boyfriend has 0 space in the apartment. It's your and your roommates space and you're being considerate letting him
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    come over nearly every day. I bet if you looked into the lease agreement there is a clause about how long guests can be there
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    JanetInSpain NTA. She can pay 2/3 of the rent if she wants 2/3 of the space.
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    TeeBrownie NTA. They should spend more time at his place. However, I have a feeling I know why they don't. I'd respond that if he keeps
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    coming over so much I'm going to notify the landlord that we have a third roommate and that she will be increasing her rent portion to 2/3.
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    Sensitive-Issue84 NTA, he doesn't pay rent. He has absolutely no say in where you hang out. If they want alone time, it should be in her space, not "our" space. Plus, he sounds like a whining baby.
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