“You’re just my dad’s insecure second wife”: Stepmother calls the cops on 17-year-old stepdaughter for "stealing" when she tries to stop her from throwing away late mother's memories, causing family dispute

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    AITA My dad and his wife threw my mom's things in the trash and I took them back out and refused to give them back

    "I'm not giving them back"
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    My mom when I (17f) was 10 and my dad remarried almost 3 years ago. Last month my dad's wife got mad at my dad for keeping so many of mom's things or things that symbolized their marriage. He kept her engagement and wedding ring in a box, his own on a chain around his neck, my mom's postcard collection that she started as a
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    kid, her favorite stuffy, a bottle of her perfume, her keychain, her passport holder, cooking and baking books she used to experiment with and a locket she wore all the time. My brother (20m) and I got her jewelry and other items she had. They were shared between us after mom di d and they're at our aunts house for safe keeping.
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    My dad's wife said she wanted all that stuff gone and the wedding photos and any couple photos of them and any family photos had to be put away if mom was in them. But the rest had to go. My dad fought back for like a day and then they started throwing all the stuff in garbage bags and they were brought out to the
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    trash. When they weren't looking I took all of it and brought it to my aunts to keep it safe.
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    It took two days for my dad's wife to realize the trash was empty and then she and my dad realized I had taken the stuff. My dad's wife went crazy and said they were in the trash for a reason. I told her I wasn't letting my mom's stuff go like that. She said it doesn't need to be in her house
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    and I said it wasn't anymore and she wouldn't need to see it. She said it was nothing but bad memories and they didn't need to be in her and dad's marriage. I told her she didn't need to worry and they weren't dad's anymore. Dad told me to just give the stuff back to them and they'd deal
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    with it and I refused. His wife said she wasn't allowing that kind of disrespect in her house and dad said it'd be dealt with.
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    They asked a few people if they had them and all said no. Including my brother (20m) who let them know he thought they were both disgusting and he didn't want to talk to them again. When that didn't work my dad tried to convince me again and he failed. He said I was making it worse. My dad's wife told me
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    she's my stepmother and more deserving of respect. I said she'll never be my stepmother, she'll never be my family, she's just my dad's insecure second wife who'll never be good enough to be seen as family by me or my brother. I told her I'm not giving them back.
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    She tried to get the police involved and accused me of stealing but they brushed her off because I live in the house and took them from the trash so... she said I'm a thief and the most disrespectful kind there is. She asked was doing this worth hurting my relationship with them and I told her I didn't care
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    about having a relationship with her to begin with. I told her she was nothing to me and to stop acting like she has some kind of real authority over me. I told her I was willing to accept whatever consequences they gave because I would be leaving asap and nothing she said or did would stop me. My dad stopped her
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    from taking everything I own as leverage but he's still applying pressure.
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    It's been annoying to deal with but could be way worse. But I came here to find out from outside parties if they think I'm wrong for what I'm doing. AITA?
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    cannibalisticego NTA Honestly what the h_l. Your dad's wife is crazy that she even went to the police. You should run as soon as you can. That woman sounds like a psychopath because being insecure would not make her do
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    those actions. Also shame on your father for not defending you, it's memories of your de d mom, of course you would want to keep it.
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    Same-kangaroo-3... NTA. But anything of yours that you care about needs to go to your aunts house asap. Step mom will 100% take it or throw it out.
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    GiaMarilyn NTA. Your dad's wife really thought she could erase your mom like a bad ex?? That's wild. She threw away sentimental stuff that wasn't even hers to begin with, and now she's mad it didn't out of existence? Nah. You
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    did exactly what needed to be done. And calling the cops?? Over TRASH?? She's lucky they didn't arrest her for audacity. Hold your ground. You and your brother are the only ones making sense in this mess.
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    YouSayWotNow It's one thing for her to decide she didn't like having so many memories of your mother on show in the house (though it's very insecure to insist on NONE) but it's quite something else to insist they must actually
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    be thrown away in trash rather than put into storage where she can't see, or stored in a relative's home.
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    Those items obviously meant something to your dad for him to have kept them, and to try and argue her actions before acquiescing. So it's utterly outrageous that he's backing her insistence on insisting she get them back so she can put them all in trash.
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    Genuinely disgusting behaviour on her part and utterly pathetic on your father's.
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    I'm so sorry you're dealing with this but glad other family members have your back and are supporting you in keeping all these cherished items safe. NTA, not by a LONG shot!
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    Odd Effort_8899 NTA, your dad and his insecure second wife are the AH here. Make sure you have an escape plan for the moment you turn 18.

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