“Stop seeing him as free labor”: Pregnant woman forces brother-in-law to build her baby’s nursery and in exchange will do his taxes, his pregnant wife puts her foot and does them before she can

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    AITAH for doing my partners taxes so his sister in law cannot do them and then utilize him to build her furniture in return?

    "I just had a baby and we received zero help"
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    My partner usually has his sister in law do his taxes, he has a fairly simple return I think he doesn't realize it's just inputting the numbers. Anyways, his sister in law is pregnant and said she'd do the taxes if he helps them out with building hauling furniture for the nursery. Here's the kicker and why I went ahead and
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    squashed this deal and did his tax return myself. I just had a baby and my partner and I received 0 help with our nursery from them, heck his brother wouldn't come 5 minutes down the road to hold a door while my partner installed it! This especially annoyed me as my partner is always doing favors for them since he has a truck. Since
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    we have a new baby I don't want them thinking my partner is gonna take time away from his own child to prepare for theirs especially since my partner works a ton of overtime and has a demanding job he's never home as it is! I am extremely excited for them but I would like them to stop seeing my partner as a free
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    truck rental/laborer just because he's super handy. I feel like the ah le because I know how daunting building furniture can be, but we managed. Also, this is an extremely simple tax return 1 income, 1 state, and common deductions. Idk why she's fed in his head that this is some complex work she's doing it took
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    me 1 hour and that's because I check, double check and recheck. I must add I am not trying to make a pregnant ladies life harder as I was just pregnant myself I'm 2 month post partum writing this but he simply does. not have the time to do this work for them we struggled a lot to get our own nursery done.
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    Otherwise Degre... 20h ago NTA. So we all have family members that believe in "family helps family" as long. as they never help anyone and everyone helps them.
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    9smalltowngirl • 21h ago NTA teach him the word NO. Remind him he has his own family that needs him. That they are 2 grown adults and can figure it out. She's going to be dumping her kid on y'all to babysit. Then she won't have time to watch yours in return. He needs to practice saying NO.
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    SparkleLifeLola • 21h ago NTA, good for you! This is top tier problem solving. Clever with a side of petty, well played.
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    Big-Tomorrow2187 • 21h ago If you wanna be petty, tell sister-in-law, you're returning the favor when you tell her you did his taxes
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    Pawn_of_the_Void • 21h ago NTA but instead of doing things quietly you should tell him upfront you would appreciate if he spent more focus at home
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    Bubbly Tulpa_X3 • 21h ago nta. you did the right thing. his sis was trying to use a simple tax return to trade his time for building furniture, and that's just not fair with a new baby in the mix. you stepped in to protect your partner from
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    being treated like free labor, and it was a simple task anyway. good call op.
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    e... 21h ago Edited 18h ago NTA - put yourself and your family first as they absolutely are.
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    Ultimately your husband needs to manage his family and be the one to put his foot down else this will be a never ending cycle where you are left with resentment
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    Astyryx 20h ago This is fine, but your avoiding the real issues here: your partner needs to get a spine and handle his family. You cannot rescue him. And with a baby, it's even more important that the primary caretaker not
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    fall into the trap of having both a baby and an adult with a child's mindset. Your partner is a father now. If he's a pushover, if he won't manage his time, his energy and his priorities, he needs therapy so he doesn't burden you or his child.
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    sigharewedoneyet ⚫ 18h ago Your SIL needs to use her own husband, not yours. I'm sorry for her. She married a looser, but she can't rely upon your husband forever. NTA
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    Any_Growth4832 • 21h ago NTA. They're taking advantage, and you're protecting your family. Good for you
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    • LavaPoppyJax 20h ago. Just make sure to talk to him about you wanting his help at home right now and please pass on going over
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    kmflushing 21h ago NTA. Be prepared for them to ask for the help anyway. You know they will.

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