Pregnant sister demands younger brother give her his bedroom, refuses to sleep in the guest room and gets family to guilt trip him: "You should want to make me comfortable"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Mar 12, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

Have you ever had a guest make really outrageous demands? While any guest can try to take advantage of your hospitality, I find that family members and friends are the worst in this regard. Perhaps they think that the close relationship is somehow grounds to boss people around. As a teen, I remember my parents having some distant relatives over who broke into my parents' secret sweets drawer. My parents made them breakfast, lunch, and dinner every single day, and they had access to snacks in the pantry, but they went on a treasure hunt for cookies and had to literally enter my parents' room and snoop around to find them. Bizarre!

In our story today, a man's pregnant sister is staying at his home while she works through some life issues. However, she expects that he give up his bedroom for her and makes a huge fuss over being put in the guest room. When things don't go her way, she cries for mommy and daddy. Scroll down for the full story!

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    AITAH For Not Letting My Pregnant Sister Sleep In My Bed?

    "She called me selfish and accused me of not caring about her or her baby."
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    I (26M) rent a small two-bedroom apartment. I live alone, but I use the second bedroom as my office because I work from home full-time. My older sister, "Lily" (31F), is 6 months pregnant and soon to be single mother.
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    She has some issues with her apartment (in a disagreement with her landlord, and in the process of moving out), so she asked if she could stay with me for a few weeks. Of course, I said yes and that I would be happy to accomodate her for as long as she needs.
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    She moved in last weekend, and the first thing she did when settling in was pointing towards my bed and saying: "I'll take this one." I laughed, thinking she was joking. Only later in the evening when I asked her if she needs anything else before going to bed did she mention that she was not joking about wanting to sleep in my bed.
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    Now I'm a little bit of a germophob, and I am quite uncomfortable with the idea of other people sleeping in my bed.
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    I told her that I am uncomfortable letting anyone else sleep in my bed. But I will gladly set her up with my guest bed (which I did use to sleep on before buying my current bed, and I know for a fact is very comfortable and spacious).
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    Then, she started guilt tripping me saying that since she got pregnant she's having problems falling asleep and that she needs the bigger more comfortable bed.
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    I stood my ground and told her I was happy to accommodate her, but I wasn't giving up my bedroom. She sulked, but she took the guest bed.
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    That lasted exactly two nights before she started complaining that the bed was "too stiff" and that she "couldn't sleep." I offered to buy a new mattress topper, but she refused. Instead, she tried to pull the "you're my brother, you should want to make me comfortable" guilt trip again...
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    I told her that she is lucky I can even take her in, since I work 10 hours a day from home and I do value having a work enviroment that's private, calm and quiet.
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    She called me selfish and accused me of not caring about her or her baby. I told her she could take the couch if the guest bed was that unbearable. Well, she did... but exactly for 1 night before turning into an absolute menace.
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    In the second night on the couch, she made sure to sigh loudly all night, "accidentally" bump into things, and complain the next morning about how "horrible" I was making her feel.
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  • It's a big pet peeve of mine when people do these dramatic, sulky sighs. I think I'd give into her demands just to stop hearing that!

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    The following day, she kept making calls and talking loudly on the phone while I was working. I didn't pay attention to the actual calls and what she was saying, but later it became very clear... In the evening I started getting phone calls from most if not all of my family members.
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    Apparently, she was ranting all day on the phone to my family about how r de and how horrible I was making her feel, trying to make my family put pressure on me just to let her sleep in my bed... Like she's on a mission or something..
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    My mom took her side and tore me a new one on the phone saying that Lily is carrying a child and I'm being inconsiderate, she also said "I thought I taught you better hospitality than this, I am very disappointed".
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    My aunt called to tell me that my uncle (her husband) used to sleep on the couch and sometimes on the floor next to her when she was pregnant. Even my cousin (who I haven't spoken to in like 2 years) called to tell me I'm being selfish.
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    My father is taking my side telling me to ignore them and that my sister is a f that she got in that situation in the first place... But I feel like my mom is giving him a super hard time in the background because he did sound kind of hesitant when I asked him to have my back.
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    Honestly I'm just feeling like I'm in the middle of a soap opera drama. My mom is threatening to come take Lily home (yea like that's much of a threat haha) but she's giving me such a hard time and telling me I disappointed her and that she raised me better..
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    I don't know how to feel about this anymore.. AITAH for not letting my pregnant sister sleep in my bed?
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  • She's really milking the whole pregnant thing. She knows this is her time to shine and gets whatever she wants. Everyone will be on her side.

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    FunProfessional570 Get her out of your house ASAP. You're going to end up with her in your room, baby in guest room and you're going to be sleeping on the couch. Check your lease and tenancy laws. Do not let her use your address for mail. Seriously, get her out before she gives birth. Ship her off to mom.
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    sameOsame0 Didn't even think of it that way but it's the most realistic outcome ouch.
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    zeiaxar She's been there maybe a week at most, she won't have tenants rights.
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    BurgerThyme No "ifs." Just tell her to pack up because she's staying with Mom and Dad now.
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    Tight_Jaguar_3881 Your sister is a spoiled selfish brat. Tell her to leave. She is ruining your ability to work effectively by moaning all night. Send her to your mom who seems to favor her over you.
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    lorn33 If it was on a fold out sofa bed or something I'd maybe understand the moaning but still think NTA but it's a decent bed! She's being a brat! Let mum take her
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    Classic Cauliflower4 Right?? I thought the question was the floor or a love seat or something. Not between one bed and a bigger bed. To sis: This ain't the Hilton, and he's not your baby daddy. He gave you a roof and a bed; expecting him to cater to your every whim is ridiculous.
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    Lissa Bryan It's about power. She wanted his bed before she even tried sleeping in the other bed. She wants to take from him, to have him give up more prestigious master bedroom for her.
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    Likely, she's feeling insecure and anxious since her pregnancy, and she wants the assurance her family will now put the pregnant lady first and foremost and make sacrifices for her.
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    And when her brother wouldn't sacrifice his bed, she called all of her relatives to go to war for her. She's going to be deeply unsettled if this doesn't work and this won't be her last attempt.
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    Fluff _Pineapple I'm sorry, but since when is her pregnancy his problem. Hate on me all everyone wants, but I never expected anyone to cater to me just because I was pregnant.
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    Her brother was already a rock star to allow her to move in, disrupting his routine, but cared that she had a place to stay. I can't stand the fact someone will resort to calling most their family members to try and get their way in someone else's home as if it's somehow owed. Then for said family members to dictate what the brother should do.
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    If those family members are so flipping concerned, how about stepping up and offering the sister to stay with them. I know just how uncomfortable pregnancy can make you feel. My second and third pregnancies, I slept sitting up in my couch. Both were laying bad in my pelvic and bladder.
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    I'm not trying to be ride, but I would have been beyond grateful just to have a place to stay.
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