Entitled guests demand that hosts rehome family dog because of 5-year-old daughter's mild allergies, refusal to compromise while living rent-free gets them kicked out: "The dog is family, they are guests"

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    AITAH refusing rehome my dog because my friend's child is allergic?

    She accused me of valuing a dog over a child.
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    I have a golden retriever, Milo, who I've had for six years. He's my best friend, incredibly well trained, and honestly like family to me.
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    A few months ago, my close friend Erica and her husband had to move unexpectedly due to financial reasons. They were struggling to find a place, so I
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    offered for them to stay in my guest house temporarily while they got back on their feet. I made it clear that Milo lives in the main house, but he does come into the yard, which we share.
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    Everything was fine until a week in, when Erica told me her 5 year old daughter is allergic to dogs. Apparently, it's not life threatening, but she gets
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    itchy and sniffly whenever she's near Milo. I felt bad and offered to keep him out of the guest house, but she told me that wasn't enough I needed to re home him entirely because even having him in the yard was "too much of a risk."
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    Milo is my dog, my family, and I'm not getting rid of him. So I said absolutely not. I reminded her that I was doing her a favor by letting them stay here rent free. Didn't really want to use that card but here we are. She got upset and accused me of valuing a dog over a child.
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    Some people are saying I'm being heartless since it's "just a dog" and that I should "compromise" because I don't have kids. Others say Erica is out of
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    line for demanding such a huge sacrifice when I was already helping them. Erica and her family left last. night to stay with her in laws, and she's barely speaking to me now. So, AITAH for refusing to rehome my dog?
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    - jrm1102 NTA the dog is family. They are guests. They can find somewhere else to stay. Your ungrateful friends should rehome themselves.
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    napsrule321 Summed it up perfectly.
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    litkitsmkx OP Thank you! :) I wished them well and that's all I can do at this point. I'll definitely still check up on Erica and family in the near future.
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    wigglepie Good call, that was such an unbelievable thing to ask of you. That's Milo's home!
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    Though I'm surprised that Erica didn't know about her daughter's allergy or that she hadn't mentioned it before staying with you. Also, her asking you to re-home Milo makes it seem like they had planned on staying with you for much longer than originally stated.
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    gobsmacked247 You are a better person than I. Anyone asking me to get rid of my fur baby would no longer be a part of my world.
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    Befuddled Polydactyls Definitely. You don't evict permanent residents for a temporary guest. The "friend" is entitled and a serious boundary stomper. OP should be thrilled they left so quickly.
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    GabrielleArcha You should value a dog over a child because Milo is your dog and the child is not.
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    MediumDrink Erica sounds like a real peach. Hopefully you get lucky and she never speaks to you again.
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    Bonnm42 NTA Erica was completely out of line. I would also remind her this situation is temporary so why would you rehome him? It's not like they are going to be there long. If Erica is so worried, she can find
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    somewhere else to stay. This also feels like a power play and a way to push boundaries. It may be best for Erica and her family to find somewhere else to live. Also, all the people who told you that you were "heartless" and than proceeded to tell you "it's just a dog" need to go too....
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    Substantial Shoe_360 I have a feeling this wasn't going to be short term, they'd made a plan to stay as long as possible.
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    Hawk73Cub16 Erica was probably planning on an extended stay. Milo ruined those plans. NTA BTW. Milo deserves a treat.
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    Healthy-Magician-502 Rehome the friend. It's time for her to go.
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    randomguy2342156 Erica prioritized her child's allergies over your well-being. You deserve loyalty and respect for your generosity.
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    datapizza MILD allergies, which could be kept up with by... cleaning the guest house where they live, teaching the child to wash up after being near the dog or playing in the yard, and staying out of OPs main home. Or even getting wild and giving the child allergy medicine and maybe Benadryl cream and eyedrops.
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    This is like asking a neighbor to rehome the dog due to their allergies because it plays in a shared yard. You would never even consider it because it's an insane request.
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    Straysmom NTA. It is your property & they are guests. The audacity to demand that you get rid of your dog, when they are staying for free in your guesthouse amazes me. Erica doesn't sound like a very good friend.

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