“I swear I don’t know how she got here!”: Girlfriend living with boyfriend walks in on woman in her bed, he makes up ridiculous excuses as to who she is and why she’s there

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    AITA for leaving my boyfriend after finding a woman in our bed?

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    So, I (26F) am going on a trip to London with my sister today. I've been staying with her since yesterday because she lives close to the airport. I realized I forgot my passport at my apartment, where my boyfriend (27M) and I live together, and I had time to go back and get it, so I did.
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    I texted him this morning to let him know I was coming back to get my passport, but he didn't respond. When I got there, he looked really antsy and suspicious. I went into our bedroom and found a woman I don't recognize lying in our bed (fully clothed). I just went on autopilot, grabbed my passport, told him "we're over" and left.
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    Now, my boyfriend is blowing up my phone saying that the woman is his long-time friend and that she's a lesbian who just needed a place to crash for the night. I don't believe him because he never mentioned anything about her staying over while I was gone, and the whole situation feels off.
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    He's saying I'm making a huge mistake and that he's telling the truth, but honestly, I'm just really hurt and confused.
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    He's begging for me to hear him out and is apologizing, but this whole situation is not right. So, AITA for leaving him? Should I believe his explanation, or is my gut telling me the truth? We just signed the lease two months ago, and I'm literally leaving the country today, so it's a horrible and stressful situation.
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    Any-Expression2... • 12h ago "long time friend" and "lesbian" Maybe if he threw in a couple more it might have been believable.
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    "The god mother of my pastor's sister's long time lesbian friend who is mute and in a coma, I swear I don't know how she got here!"
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    just_me_8419 • 12h ago Regardless if it's true or not what he says, it's disrespectful to bring someone into a shared home without, at the very least telling you... Let alone letting someone you clearly don't know into YOUR bed... It's a deal breaker for me
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    Unable-Fall5946 • 12h ago NTA, your boyfriend never mentioned her before and it's convenient for him to use that as an excuse when there's a person of opposite S lying in his bed.
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    If she needed a place to crash, why his bed and not the couch? He knows he has a girlfriend and it's ok for someone else to share a bed with him without giving you a heads up first?
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    bravenewgrandma • 12h ago Block his calls. You're not the A. He is.
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    Eastern-Season68... • 12h ago Really? So it is a coincidence she came just the day you left?
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    Ratchet_gurl24 • 12h ago A long time friend...... That you've never met before......Yeh, right.
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    ApricotBig6402 • 12h ago NTA he was antsy and suspicious while not answering. There was no reason for her to be on YOUR bed. He can gaslight you til the cows come home.
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    Unless you cancel your trip (don't) he has all the time to start deleting anything that could serve as evidence. He can start spinning the narrative like he is now. You will never know the absolute truth no matter what he says. Why have you never heard of her until now? Why
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    would he not tell you prior if it was innocent? You did the right thing. Tell him you said what you said and you're not talking until your back (you don't actually need to). Enjoy your trip as a single lady. Enter the home when you're ready to get your belongings with some
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    assistance. Do it quickly after returning. You already said you're done so just maintain that and take your stuff.
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    Saffron Wavee . 6h ago Honestly, his story is super sketchy. You have every right to leave. He's the one who created this 'horrible and stressful' situation. Don't let him gaslight you. Deal with the lease later, your peace of mind is more important. Enjoy London, and don't let him ruin your trip.
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    mfruitfly ⚫12h ago So first, block him until you are back from your trip, and try and enjoy as much of the trip as you can- hard to do, but the priority should be to not miss out on the big moments in life. Plus, having some time in a different part
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    of the world doing different things could also give you perspective.
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    Second, do not allow yourself to question things you know to be true. You have never heard of that friend, which is odd if you know most of his other friends/have at least heard of his other friends. He did not tell you that this friend. was staying over, and of all
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    the nights where someone needed a place to crash, it was the night you were gone. From your story, these seem to be facts that you do not need to question.
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    Third, absolutely trust your gut. He was antsy when you showed up, the vibe was off, and why, of all the times in all the years, was it the very first night you were gone that this woman was in your bed?
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    So finally, you can figure out the logistics of a break up and/or hearing him out when you are back. If you need some conversation, you can certainly talk to him and hear him out, but again, it isn't going to change what you know, what you saw, or what you felt.
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    And ya, it is a remarkably suspicious thing to be gone for a trip and walk in to your home to see a woman in your bed. I think any committed partner would have called you to let you know someone was crashing at your place, and also...wouldn't be in your bed but on the couch.
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    Natures Vivid Pict... • 12h ago NTA. Wow the moment you leave huh? Not even really you hadn't even left yet. Well if you happen to know her name you could always look at their social media media.

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