Man conceals information from wife about sister’s husband’s whereabouts in the aftermath of her cheating, she demands to know and threatens divorce: “I deserve to know”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 10, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Sometimes in life we have the urge to run and for no one to chase after us. To feel like we're alone, to feel exonerated and free and not obligated to anyone. Everyone needs a breather from the hustle and bustle, the daily struggles, and the feeling of being smothered by others. Maybe something shook your life to its core and you need that release, maybe it's just something that's been building for some time. Regardless of why, it's healthy and okay to run sometimes and ignore everyone. 

When someone cheats on you, these feelings of needing to run away may come up. It's the worst feeling in the world, and it's as if someone took a sledgehammer to your heart and broke it into a million little pieces. You start seeing the world differently than you did before, and you can't even look your partner in the eyes. Infidelity is inexcusable, and anyone who commits this odious crime deserves to be left all alone. 

In the story below, infidelity runs through the narrative of a particular couple. After the man finds out about his wife's cheating, he runs. But you'll have to read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for hiding the location of my best friend from my wife?

    "She even tried using my phone and impersonate me to call him"
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    About 5 years ago, I moved about 15 hours away from my hometown for a job. Shortly after moving, I met my now wife ("Becca"). A few years ago, I had a buddy ("JR") from back home come stay with me. While here, he met my wife's sister ("Maggie"). JR and Maggie hit it off. They pretty quickly started
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    dating. Maggie has a daughter from a previous relationship (daughter's dad is very much in the picture).
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    Almost a year ago, Maggie and JR moved in together. At the time, Maggie was living with her parents because she could not afford rent on her own. Things seemed to be going well.
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    It is a long story, but almost two months ago, JR got pretty irrefutable proof that Maggie was cheating on him. He was angry, depressed, and overall distraught. He could not deal with confronting her but he could also not deal with living with her. He talked to me and wanted my help to get away. So, I reached out to
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    my network of people, who are not mutual friends of Becca and I, to get him a place to stay. Becca, Maggie, Maggie's daughter, and my MIL were going out of town to visit MIL's mom a few weeks after he found out. I had a work friend with a rent house. I helped JR pack his stuff (which was like 90% of the apartment), and he
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    moved out. He sent an email to Maggie about why he moved out. He left a check for rent and utilities through the end of March when their lease is up and informed the landlord that he was not renewing.
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    Maggie got the email and called JR numerous times while on the trip. My wife called me and asked what was going on and where was JR. I told her that JR moved out and he was safe, but I will not tell her where he is. They got back and Maggie flipped about all the stuff JR took. My wife was quite angry and demanded to
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    know where JR was. I kept telling her that he is safe, but I am not telling her where he is. The last month has been tense and my wife has begged and made threats to know where JR is. She has even tried using my phone to impersonate me to call JR and get information. I have since changed my passcode. She says,
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    "we are married, this is effecting my family, I deserve to know." | refuse. She has even talked about this being divorcable. AITA?
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    Edit (1) My wife knows my JR left. (2) Maggie has admitted since he left that she was cheating.
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    (3) My wife denies know about the cheating and I do believe her. Historically, Maggie and Becca are not close. Prior to JR moving here, we would see Maggie maybe once every 3-ish months. Since JR moved, we see her a lot more because JR and I regularly organized get-togethers. Which is why my wife's reaction is surprising to me.
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    (4) The stuff JR took was only his stuff. In fact, a lot of stuff he left is also his stuff. Other than gadgets, he left all the kitchen stuff despite it being 100% his. He left all the stuff in my niece's room, even though he paid for a lot of it.
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    dheffe01 • 18h ago NTA, what does your wife have to say about her sister cheating on your friend!
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    New-Comment2... • 17h ago NTA. Maggie has made her bed, and she can lay in it (at least until the eviction notice rolls around). The fact that your wife has a bigger problem with JR leaving Maggie than she does with her sister cheating on JR
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    says an awful lot about your wife, and as a woman myself, it doesn't say anything good. If your wife chooses to implode your marriage because her sister is a cheater, that is on her. You don't owe Maggie anything.
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    CatJarmansPants ⚫ 17h ago I'm interested in why your wife/Maggie needs to know where JR lives they've - broken up, it's over, that's it...
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    As ever, the best way to see how you feel about a situation is to turn it around, and look at it from other angles:
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    Let's say it was Maggie who moved out with your wife's help, she's ended the relationship and doesn't want JR to know where she now lives now, can we imagine the response if you were pressurising your wife to tell you, and presumably JR, where she was living?
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    Yeah, that would a big, fat 'get the f out You've got several options: Ask your wife, if the situation were reversed, how she would feel about your pressuring her to give JR Maggie's address?
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    Tell her that JR has moved again, and that he has deliberately not told you his new address because he knows your wife is trying to give that information to Maggie. I'll be honest, I think that you're learning some really unpleasant things about
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    FitOrFat-1999 • 18h ago NTA. Doesn't the reason JR left matter to your wife? Apparently not. Yes, it's affecting her sister, but mostly financially. If she's not working, she needs to find a job, and maybe move back with her parents until
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    she can find another place to live. JR and Maggie weren't married, so no divorce. Maggie and your wife just want to harangue the poor dude or guilt trip him into giving Maggie money. F that. And if your wife thinks divorcing you will solve her cheating sister's problems, she has
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    sister's problems, she has another think coming.
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    B... • 17h ago⚫ Edited 17h ago NTA. If this is the issue your wife is wanting to divorce over, then you should get a lawyer on retainer. Your friend has a right to be safe.
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    Edit: If your wife is willing to use your phone to find your friend, she will use a tracker device to find where you go. Be very careful.
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