Mom makes fun of 17-year-old sister for having no social life, teen proves her wong by refusing to babysit for free and going out with friends instead: '[I'm] finding a life'

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    AITA for refusing to babysit my sister's kids?

    "No boyfriend, no social life, just stuck at home doing math."
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    So, I (17F) have an older sister, "Lisa" (27F), who has three kids (6M, 4F, and 2F). She's always asking me to babysit for free, and I usually do it because I love my nieces and nephew. But lately, I feel like she's been taking advantage of me.
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    Last weekend, we had a big family dinner at my parents' house. Everything was fine until my mom jokingly mentioned how I've been focusing on school a lot lately, and Lisa goes, "Yeah, because she doesn't have a life otherwise. No boyfriend, no social life, just stuck at home doing math."
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    I laughed it off at first, but she kept going, making jokes about how I'm "basically a live-in nanny" and how she's doing me a favor by giving me "something to do." The whole table was laughing, and I was sitting there embarrassed as h_l. My dad even said, "Lisa, that's enough," but she shrugged it off.
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    I was so mad that I decided right then and there that I was done. The next time she texted me, "Hey, can you watch the kids Saturday?" I just replied, "No, I'm busy." She asked me with what, and I said, "Finding a life."
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    Now she's furious, saying I'm being childish and punishing her kids over a joke. Even my mom is saying I should "be the bigger person." But I feel like if I don't set a boundary now, she'll keep walking all over me.
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    AITA? Edit: thank you so much I was going to cave in and say srry cause i really like spending time with her kids.
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    peakpenguins NTA. You should be the bigger person? She's 27 years old ffs. She was relying on you for child care and instead of being appreciative, sh all over you in front of your family. She made her bed, she can lay in it while she's watching her own kids.
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    SelenaGlixnt She wanted free childcare but instead got a free lesson in consequences
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    TwithHoney And if Mum has an opinion Mum can watch the kids
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    wayne85d Exactly, she couldn't appreciate the help you gave her, she should then take care of her own kids in the end its not your responsibility, NTA in any way
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    KiraSelith Guess being 27 means she skipped the 'adulting' class. Time for her to hit the books!
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    1danikuchr Being the bigger person doesn't mean tolerating disrespect. It means knowing your worth and standing up for yourself.
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    Nowelo NTA setting that boundary is a smart thing to do. Stick to it!
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    SelenaGlixnt Exactly Being the 'bigger person' doesn't mean being a doormat.
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    Hot_Rice_2952 Asking someone 10 years younger to be the bigger person is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. I can't believe the adult depending on a child for childcare thought it was a good idea to put her down. In a world where you can be anything, be kind. And if you can't be kind, shut up.
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    butterbeemeister NTA. If you mom wants a bigger person, she can babysit. Why doesn't your sister have to be the bigger person? She's older and should know better. I'm glad you're 17 and don't have to stay with these fools much longer. Sorry your fam are awful. You sound like a great auntie. Focus on schoolwork and having fun.
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    Strong_Storm_2167 Agree. Whenever your mum says to be the bigger person say to her. Well since you are older and wiser and are the bigger person. You can babysit. I'll stay home and focus on my studies or I'm going out with friends.
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    hdgal63 NTA, if she can't appreciate you, then let her learn how to deal without you. That was just downright ride, uncalled for and you have every right to set boundaries. You are not punishing anyone, your sister is doing that all on her own.
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    dogmamayeah Sounds like she's jealous of you and your freedom. You sound like a wonderful sister. Excellent quip back to her. You can forgive her when you're ready on your terms.
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    AARCEntertainment And charge her the going rate for babysitting three children. Maybe $30 - $40 per hour.
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    MuntjackDrowning Per kid.

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