22-year-old spurns dad's affair partner at family dinner after she makes Facebook posts exaggerating her role in her life and downplaying her bio mom: "She's rewriting history"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Apr 6, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Facebook is a great place to get all caught up on the family drama – or, so I've heard. Truth is, I haven't had a FB page in over a decade. I used to stir up my own drama by putting dark lyrics with curse words as my status, garnering quite a bit of pushback from my aunts and uncles, who then, of course, informed my parents! That's child's play, though. Real adult people take to social media to air out all sorts of drama – they spill family secrets, leave scathing reviews, and write up passive-aggressive walls of texts directed at specific relatives.

In our story today, a woman starts making social media posts about her wholesome relationship with her stepdaughter. She reminisces fondly over raising her and being there for her throughout her girlhood. However, it's all a lie! Her stepdaughter, our protagonist, was raised by her mother, and she has no patience for her trying to take credit for her mother's parenting. Scroll down for the full story. 

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    AITA for telling my dad's wife I'm not her "do-over daughter"?

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    I (22F) have had a strained relationship with my dad. (48M) ever since he cheated on my mom when I was 12. He ended up marrying the woman he cheated with, Lynne (44F). I was civil with her growing up, but we've never been close. She kept her distance and I honestly appreciated that.
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    But lately she's been trying to force this weird “mom" relationship with me out of nowhere. I'm graduating college soon, and she's suddenly all over me, commenting on my social media, calling me "her girl," and telling people how she's "so proud of the woman I've become."
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    She even made a Facebook post saying she remembers "tucking me in before big tests" and how she's been there "every step of the way." Um... what?
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    She literally wasn't. My mom raised me. My mom worked two jobs. My mom drove me to every practice and every college tour. Lynne showed up to Christmas with matching pajamas and that was it.
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    So at dinner last weekend, she says she "can't wait to help me plan my wedding someday," and I just snapped. I told her, "You weren't there. You don't get to act like you were. I'm not your do-over daughter."
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    She got up and left the table crying. My dad flipped out and said I humiliated her, that she's trying to build a bond and I "ripped it away." His side of the family is now saying I'm ungrateful and "just angry about the past."
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    But to me, this feels like she's trying to rewrite history and take credit for things she didn't do. And it me off. So yeah. Was I too harsh? AITA?
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  • Is she just hoping that our protagonist will play along, or does she hope that everyone will start retroactively hallucinating her involvement as a mother if she talks about it enough?

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    Nta emryldmyst She's delusional. Homewreckers usually are
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    florgar001 NTA. She's trying to rewrite history, and it's okay to set boundaries. Your feelings are valid, and your dad's family should respect that.
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    S Tillyyy OP Fr, thank you. I was starting to feel like I was going crazy. Everyone's acting like I flipped out for no reason, but like... she was never there. It's wild how they expect me to just let her rewrite the whole story.
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    jOvers NTA at all. She can't expect you to play along with her version of events. It's important for you to set boundaries and let her know how you feel about the situation.
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    Kiara231 NTA. She doesn't get to make up stories and rewrite history for likes on social media.
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    S /Tillyyy OP RIGHT?? Like girl wasn't in the group chat for 10+ years but now she's posting like we shared matching aprons and trauma all for a few likes and "you're such a good stepmom" comments. Nahhh, not on my watch
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    NTA JustGeeseMemes it exists you can't make a bond exist by just... saying Usually I kind of think these things are a "not wrong but could have been more tactful" thing but I honestly don't even think that here.
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    Fionadarkk NTA at all! She's straight up lying and trying to rewrite history, that's messed up. You had every right to say something.
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    Sunshine_1530 NTA, you just put her in her place, she can't force something on you so you're not wrong (your father saying you ruined the family made me laugh hahahha)
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    Antique-Nose-5604 Everytime she compliments you on your post, tell her you have your "real" mom to thank
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    WhiteKnightPrimal NTA. She's rewriting history and trying to force a bond that doesn't exist and never has. She's not your mum, she never acted like your mum. She doesn't get to pretend otherwise.
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    Why would she even expect to help you plan your wedding someday? Does she even know if marriage is something you even want? And what about your actual mum, who you have an actual relationship with? Surely it will be bio mum who helps plan such an event?
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  • There are so many genuine ways to try to form a bond; gaslighting someone about their childhood is not one of them!

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    It sounds like Lynne is trying to forcefully bring a fantasy to life and using you to do it. Has she perhaps been getting comments about the distance between you and your dad, which includes her by extension?
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    Whatever the reason, she doesn't get to force a relationship that doesn't exist plus a false narrative of the past. She's not trying to 'build a bond', she's trying to force something that you clearly don't want. That's never okay and you get to stand up for the truth of your life and the relationship, or lack thereof, that you have with Lynne.
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    CaptainBeefy79 ed that NTA. She's the kid in school who puts zero effort into to the group project and then gets på she didn't get an A. I say, F her.
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