24-year-old demands that 23-year-old girlfriend cover all expenses in shared apartment, refuses to move in if he can't live rent-free like he does with his parents: "He wants a momma, not a GF"

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    AITA for refusing to let my boyfriend move into my apartment rent-free?

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    Update: We just broke up... Told him about the post and he went and sent me an essay of how I didn't care ABT him and that it would be better if we broke up... I will upload a photo in my profile in a sec... I'm speechless... like bro
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    I'm (23F) currently living in a one-bedroom apartment that I rent on my own. My boyfriend (24M) has been living with his parents to save money, but recently he suggested moving in with me to "test the waters" before considering a future together.
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    NO STAD VON H
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    I proposed that he contribute to the rent and utilities if he were to move in, but he balked at the idea, arguing that since he's already saving money by not paying rent elsewhere, he shouldn't have to pay at my place. He suggested that I should cover all expenses since I have a stable job and can afford it.
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    While I understand his desire to save on rent, I value my personal space and independence.
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    I feel uncomfortable with the idea of shouldering all the financial responsibilities, especially since he earns a decent income and has no pressing financial obligations. I also worry about the potential strain on our relationship if we live together without clear boundaries and contributions.
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    His friends think I'm being unreasonable and that I should be more supportive of his situation. They say it's a great opportunity for us to grow closer and that I'm overthinking things. Partnership should be equitable in all aspects, including finances... Right???
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    Salty_Thing3144 NTA. I think it's pretty obvious that you aren't and he has ridiculous excuses. Say no to his moving in - AND to your relationship. He's selfish, entitled and a real brat.
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    TwinklingsSunset Omg yes, this isn't about supporting him, it's about being taken advantage of. You're 100% right to set boundaries - love doesn't mean paying someone else's rent.
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    Chadmartigan His excuse for not paying rent is that he could save that money instead. The ask itself would end the relationship for me.
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    Ariaxnxn I agree. His excuses are so out of line.OP is absolutely not the a h le here. Stand firm and don't let him manipulate you he's showing his true colors. You deserve much more than this
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    Angelblade92 NTA - So he just wants to freeload of anyone who will let him?
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    Zesty Turn He wants to replace one mom with another. She'll probably have to warm up his hot pockets too
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    Ok-Lunch3448 Wow he must be a real prize to deserve no living expenses. To test the waters i'm assuming is all about whether ur worthy of his cheap ass.
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    Tumbleweed New3833 It sounds like he wants an easy way to get away from his parents and still save all his money and ride your financial coattails. This is not okay. I wouldn't let him move in. He's selfish and not worried about you at all. He wants a momma, not a gf.
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    henchwench89 NTA did he miss the part where he is the one who wants to move in with you? Like you're not asking him to move in and give up his rent free life. He wants to move it and leech off you
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    This would make me rethink the relationship. He is trying to take advantage of you and blame the financial burden completely on you
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    Proper_Strategy_6663 NTA but he already proved to you that you're not compatible, "test the waters" but refuses to split cost? yeah that's ex territory not partner territory.
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    alv269 NTA. He wants someone he can mooch off of as an adult? Let that continue to be his parents. It's absolutely ridiculous to think that he should live with you and contribute nothing. How much you wanna bet that he would also leave the place a mess and never clean.
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    Kellbows Thank you for mentioning the division of labor. Now I don't have to make this speculation. We all know that will fall on OP as well, as she's already managing without him. This man is a child.
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    Heraonolympia123 He can stay at his mom's house where he pays nothing, or he can start being a grown up and start contributing. Also, he set his friends on you which is not acceptable in adult relationships.
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    Quick_like_a_Bunny Please stay uncomfortable with shouldering all the financial responsibilities because if you set this precedent now, you will. He's testing you to see what he can get away with. Be smarter than that
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    Lady_Gator_2027 If his friends feel that way, then he should move in with them. Rent free

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