24-year-old freeloader misses job interview when girlfriend's roommate refuses to lend him her car and miss her doctor's appointment, he blames her for “ruining his future”

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Apr 7, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

The job interview process is absolutely terrifying. It feels like every step is fraught with possible mistakes that could cost you a potential job. Have you ever looked over your CV after sending it only to notice a tiny typo after the fact? In the moment, it can feel really scary, but most hiring managers aren't scrutinizing resumes too hard. I know I've found myself rehashing old interview questions and my responses to them in the shower, trying desperately to revise my answers to the audience in my imagination. 

In our story today, a young man fumbles a potential new job by not making it to the interview. It's totally not his fault though; it's all because of his girlfriend's evil, selfish roommate who wouldn't let him borrow her car. Sure, she had a doctor's appointment set for that day, but she could have just taken an Uber! Wait a minute… Scroll down below to get the full story!

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    AITA for not letting my roommates boyfriend use my car, even though it made him miss a job interview?

    She said I was ruining his shot at a "better life."
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    So I (25F) share an apartment with my roommate Jess (24F). We generally get along okay, but she started dating this guy Kyle a few months ago and he's been around constantly. He doesn't live here officially, but he's here 5-6 nights a week, eats our food, uses our stuff, and never really contributes to anything. It's annoying but I've tolerated it to keep the peace.
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    I own a car, which I use for work, errands, and occasional weekend trips. Jess doesn't have a car, and neither does Kyle.
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    Last week, Kyle asked me very last minute if he could borrow my car to drive to a job interview. I asked a few questions - where it was, how far, how long he'd need it - and it turned out he needed it during a time I'd already told Jess I had a doctor's appointment across town. I said sorry, but I needed it and couldn't change my appointment.
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    He got p ed and said I was being selfish and ruining his shot at a "better life." Jess backed him up, saying I could Uber to the doctor "just this once," because his interview was more important than my check-up.
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    I said no. I'm not comfortable lending my car to someone I barely know, especially not for a time I already need it. I don't owe him that. They both sulked and gave me the cold shoulder for days. Kyle apparently missed the interview because "he couldn't find a ride" and is now blaming me for "ruining his future."
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    I feel a little bad, because I could have changed my appointment if I really wanted to... but also, it's my car, my schedule, and I don't think I should have to upend my plans for someone who doesn't even live here.
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    77Megg77 Why couldn't he take an Uber to the interview? He should have secured transportation when he set the interview date/time. Couldn't he call a car rental place and rent a car for the day? Enterprise will even bring a car to you. Well, they used to offer that. I don't know if they still do.
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    But let's say you did lend him your car and he goes to the interview. It goes well and he is hired. How is he going to get to work every day? Would it then be your fault if he can't take your car to get to work every day?
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    You were right not to lend it. What if he got in an accident and totaled it? Can he afford to replace it? No. He needs to get a vehicle and then get an interview.
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    National_Savings_138 Agreed. Like, the fact he had no back up plans sounds like he wasn't really trying to get to the interview anyway. He just wants to continue to be . If the interview was so important to him, he would've made sure he went to it. a
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  • I'm sure this is obvious to anyone reading it, but if our protagonist could have taken an Uber to the doctor, couldn't the same be said for him? Did he want to impress the new boss with his cool ride or something?

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    rowdyfreebooter Yep his failure to plan does not constitute an emergency for you. The old saying failing to plan is planning to fail.
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    Rhodin265 If he had asked early enough, OP could have dropped him off. Also, what would happen if he got the job? Would he have expected rides every day?
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    Ambitious-Border-906 NTA! If you could have Uber-ed to your appointment that easily, how is it he couldn't get one to his interview?!
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    goddessofthewinds Easy, he wouldn't have paid a cent of gas, usure or repairs if he crashed it. Easy to see why he preferred the "free" option.
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    Both of them (but him in particular) sounds like leeches. OP needs to stop keeping the peace. Your stuff (including your food) is YOURS, not his, not theirs. If he can't stay the f out of your stuff, move out. If not possible, check with landlord about adding a lock and buy a small fridge to put in your room if you have space.
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  • This man had no chance at this job anywhow. He has zero critical thinking or problem solving skills.

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    Famous_Specialist_44 NTA they are ridiculous. Never lend your car except on the basis it will be smashed up and whoever you lent it to will be very sorry but can't pay to repair.
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    GeeGolly777 Exactly. Never lend anything you can't afford to not have returned. If you cannot afford to GIVE it to them, best not to lend it.
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    You don't know if they have a valid drivers license, have a history of any car related accidents, have a warrant for their arrest in general, how they treat cars and if they would cause damage to engine or exterior. And does your insurance coverage allow for another driver? Does it cover you from liability if he causes damage to someone else who decides to sue?
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    gringledoom Also, if they hurt somebody with it, you can find yourself liable for it!
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    scorpionmittens Yeah, maybe I'm mean but I wouldn't let a roommate's unemployed boyfriend borrow my car for any reason whatsoever.
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    Princess-She-ra NTA and they're both so entitled. It's not their car. It's your car. You owe them nothing. When did it become your responsibility to get Kyle to his interview? Oh right, it isn't your responsibility.
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    There's also a bigger issue here and that is your roommate essentially moving in her bf without any discussion. You need to have that discussion. You didn't sign up for sharing your space with a third person who isn't even contributing. Most leases don't even allow that.
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    buffandcoke Nta. Its YOUR car. You can say no without any reason.
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