Couple confesses that they're unwilling to let their friends and family live with them in their 4200 sq ft home after letting a friend stay who refused to leave: 'A few weeks ended up being 6 months before we kicked her out'

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    "AITA because we won’t let anyone live with us?"

    Background- we have a beautiful 4200 sq foot home in a beautiful neighborhood. We have no children and it's our happy place. Several years back we allowed a friend to live with us as she was going through a divorce and moving back to her home. state. It ended up being a disaster. She was an alc ic and want was suppose to be a few weeks ended up being 6 months before we kicked her out.
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    My husband and I made a pact that no one would be able to stay longer than a visit like Christmas week, etc. since then we've had the following: ⚫ my dads ex wife wanted to move in as she was having financial issues: we said NO ⚫ my uncle wanted us to take in my cousin and her 4 children because she was experiencing homelessness due to her drug problem and he wanted them to be in a stable environment. ( so it's ok to make our environment unstable???). We said NO • now another friend keeps bringi
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    Background- we have a beautiful 4200 sq foot home in a beautiful neighborhood. We have no children and it's our happy place. Several years back we allowed a friend to live with us as she was going through a divorce and moving back to her home state. It ended up being a disaster. She was an al c and want was suppose to be a few weeks ended up being 6 months before we kicked her out. My husband and I made a pact that no one would be able to stay longer than a visit like Christmas week, etc. since
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    my dads ex wife wanted to move in as she was having financial issues: we said NO • my uncle wanted us to take in my cousin and her 4 children because she was experiencing homelessness due to her drug problem and he wanted them to be in a stable environment. ( so it's ok to make our environment unstable???). We said NO • now another friend keeps bringing up moving with us because we have all this room. Again we said NO. We are getting very tired of people continuing to move in as we have the room
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the ahle: Because we have the space in our home and several of the people mentioned have financial problems are we assholea for saying no to their requests.
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    Competitive-Maize 996 When I had a house that big, people would come out of the woodwork trying to get space in there. You have to stand your ground to keep your peace.
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    lotusblossom60 I had a woman whose house got destroyed in a natural disaster. Come and stay with me for two months. She was the most selfish b I've ever met in my life. She ate all my food. She had a party when I went away for a weekend. She rearranged stuff in my kitchen how she liked it to be. I could literally go on for a half an hour. The reason I didn't say anything was because she was in my friend group and women can be so friggin bitchy. The only reason she left was because I told her tha
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    sarahmegatron • 2h ago NTA It's really ride for your friends and family to keep trying to convince you to allow them to move in with you and your husband. And specifically in your cousin's case, she's going to have so many struggles and issues that it would be a nightmare to have her live in your home, she needs real help.
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    • Individual_Ad_9213 · 3h ago NTA. You were taken advantage of. This is a case of "Once burned, twice cautious!"
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    Adorable_Click9074 • 2h ago . NTA. Your response is: "This is our home; not a hotel. Which, if it were, you would be paying a daily rate."
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    . pixyfire 2h ago NTA. I've "helped people out with a short-term place to stay" a few times and I will never do it again. If they don't have it together enough to have a place to stay today, they are not going to have it together enough to have a place to stay in 6 months. Hold your ground.
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    BlondDee1970 2h ago • NTA. You are not running a B&B. Just because you have space it doesn't mean friends or family are entitled to it. No is a complete answer and it's ok to protect your own peace.
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