Young mother refuses to put stepdad as her child's emergency contact, her mother takes offense and threatens to cut contact: ‘She called me an unfit mother’

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Apr 21, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

The people you entrust with your child are people whom you are supposed to feel like you can count on 100% of the time. If there is any doubt on whether or not they are capable of taking care of your child, then you should not take that risk at all. You may take that risk when it comes to a plant, to an imminent object, and on extremely rare occasions, a pet, but never, ever, should you take that risk with a child. 

If there's a doubt, there is no doubt.

This also applies to whom you're putting down as your child's emergency contact. That contact, again, should only be someone you trust wholeheartedly and without a shadow of a doubt. It doesn't matter if it's your romantic partner, parent, or even just a friend, as long as you know that person is able to take on that task and not let you down.

That is not something that can be said about either the stepdad or the mother in the story below.

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  • The daughter in this story grew up in a difficult environment with her mother and stepfather. When she became a mother herself, she decided to trust her mom with her child, but it proved to be quite a bad decision.

    The situation reached a boiling point when the mom found out that the daughter had not put her stepfather as an emergency contact for her son.

    Keep scrolling to read the rest of the story…

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    1. Fill out the Emergency affix it to the bottom of ve 2. Affix one of the s window. 3. Aff EMERGENCY CONTACT INFOR CHILD'S NAME EMERGENCY CONTACT NAM GENCY CONTACT NAME OR N (Allergies
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    "AITA because I wouldn't put my step dad on my child's emergency contacts"

    ΑΙΤΑ, So my mother and father broke up when i was around 12. She then got a partner who had O interest me in, according to my
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    family my step dad said he would adopt me and my mum rightly said no as he'd been in my life a year at most and we didn't get along in that year and he didnt take it well my Auntys
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    say they think he took it out on me. This aggression got worse as I grew up, he'd do things like lock me out of the house when they didn't let me have a key so if they'd "forgot" to leave a
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    key I'd have no other option but to try and see if any friends could let me stay at there's and many awful things in-between it'd take an age to list. I
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    probably wasn't the easiest to deal with as a child admittedly. Skip forward to the present day, I have a baby of my own and have had recent problems
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    regarding my son and my parents, so the first was a family wedding we all were invited too, my son is only just 2 and we are a big family who like to drink 7 ocklock was the latest i
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    wanted to be there. I then got told the day before by my mum that she'd booked me a hotel room and If I get a lift down with her they're getting a taxi to the
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    hotel around midnight. I said she shouldn't have done that without asking and I'd already arranged a lift back. Her partner then got on the phone called me
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    selfish and childish and that not everything is always about me. I ended up just not going to the wedding. The second time my mum was looking after my child
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    while I went to night school she was going to have him until the morning and bring him home. When I got back home I called to check how he'd gone down he doesnt
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    stay there too much, they have problems with him getting to sleep. They didn't answer for the first 2 rings and then my mum messaged me and it had a load of typos which isnt
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    normal for her, I rang and she was dk, slurring and my 2 year old was still awake in the background when I asked if she'd been drinking she started saying
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    I was being stupid and she couldn't believe me, I walked to thier house to get my child and she called me an unfit mother and threw his clothes at me her
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    partner came out and asked me why i over react so much. I just walked off. Since that me and my mum once again are trying to repair, because I don't drive
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    I asked her to drop a form off for my babys nursery that hes due to start. She didn't drop it off and instead took it home and read through it and when she saw that her partner
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    wasn't on the emergency contacts she asked me why and accused me of pushing him out. She then said if he wasnt on the emergency contacts she didn't want to
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    be and I told her I don't trust him after everything that's happened hes never not once in my life ever been there for me in an emergency he has only
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    ever been a person who's made me feel worthless, I wouldn't ring him in an emergency for me or my child, why would I put him down. He also doesnt drive
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    so wouldn't be much use. She then said if thats how she felt then she will cut contact with me. AITA
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    Foxlikebox NTA but She then said if thats how she felt then she will cut contact with me. Contact should be cut with these people anyway. I get
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    cutting contact with family is difficult, but your mother is awful to you and doesn't seem to be making your life more positive in any way. Cut her off now or be prepared to always have to watch your child around her.
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    bamf1701 NTA. You are a parent, and your single most important responsibility is the safety of your child, certainly more important than the feelings of your mother and her partner. If
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    you don't feel like your child is safe around them, then you are no only justified not putting. him on the emergency contacts, but you are obligated to do it. Also, same thing with your
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    mother if she is drinking - around your child, your child isn't safe around her and you need to keep her away form them, no matter how insulted she feels about it.
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    RoyallyOakie NTA...You never ever have to take a chance on your child's trust and safety. Ever. I'm sorry you have a parent you can't count on.
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    bigbadmamaofdc NTA and it sounds like the trash is taking itself out. Your mom is selfish and your stepdad is a piece of work. I understand needing a village but they sound like more pain than support
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