‘Why are we still doing this in 2025??’: Coworker touches colleague's belly without her consent and assumes she's pregnant, woman claps back at their arrogance

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  • "So I said, 'Don't be wishing that kind of bad luck on me.""
  • "AITA for snapping when someone rubbed my belly and implied I might be pregnant?"

    So today, my office building was throwing a little fiesta-themed event and they offered free lunch in the cafeteria. A bunch of us went down to grab food.
  • While I was standing in line, I opened the Nest camera app to check on something and saw a little bird that's been showing up
  • outside every day. I laughed and casually said to no one in particular, "This bird comes to visit me every day."
  • Right after I said that, a coworker (who has made pregnancy comments toward me before) came up, rubbed my belly without asking, and said something like, "Maybe it's because you've got a baby bird on the way."
  • I felt this immediate wave of rage -like why are we still doing this in 2025?? So I said, "Don't be wishing that kind of bad luck on me."
  • She looked super taken aback, and my boss (who overheard) also looked at me like I'd just said something offensive. It felt like I was the crazy one for being
  • upset. But I didn't ask to be touched, I'm not pregnant, and I really don't like people making those kinds of comments about my body.
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  • Now I'm wondering-AITA for reacting the way I did?
  • wesmorgan1 NTA - and you need to put a stop to this as soon as possible. If you haven't already told this person to stop their behavior (both spoken and physical), do so in a calm, clear manner. If they continue, it's time to bring management/HR into the picture.
  • (If you think it necessary, you can ask your boss to present when you tell the person to stop their behavior, so that there are no questions later about how you handled the matter.)
  • bassoonprune NTA. Don't touch people's bodies. Don't comment about people's bodies. These are good life rules, and imperative office rules. I'd be chatting with HR immediately if I were you.
  • OldSag tBiscuits NTA, unwelcome touching is just that, UNWELCOME. That's so gross of someone to do that Contact HR immediately!
  • pacalaga Normalize slapping people's hands away. And report said coworker to HR.
  • Creative_Goose5614 NTA. Who in their right mind thinks it's ok to just walk up to someone and touch them?
  • Sudden-Green3769 It's far easier to keep your hands to yourself and mouth hushed than to do all that. NTA Some people don't learn until they get called out. And many more don't learn until called out repeatedly.
  • BigBellyThickThighs NTA- for some reason, a lot of people forgot what "Keep your hands to yourself" meant when they learned that in Kindergarten. No one touches anyone unless they say they can. Ugh. Other note - if this coworker has done this in the past, I would encourage to report them. They think this is okay which is why it continues.

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