Entitled mom throws an unwanted gender reveal party for her pregnant daughter and doesn't even invite her, then steals her pregnancy announcement and tells the whole family behind her back: ‘That’s right! We’re having a girl!’

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  • "Mom Threw The Gender Reveal I Didn’t Want… Without Me"

    It seemed like many were amused by my crazy mother's antics shared in "Mom still complains we named my daughter after MIL 1.5y later. My MIL is deceased", so here's another funny, ridiculous story from my pregnancy.
  • Disclaimer that this took place almost 2 years ago. My mother is narcissistic and ab ive. She pretended to change when we were adults. All that went
  • out the window when during my pregnancy. Everything had to be her way, or she'd scream I was making everything about me, ignoring that she was making everything about her.
  • One thing she DEMANDED early on was a gender reveal. I still don't know why. She and my father didn't have them for my brothers or me. My brothers also wanted a gender reveal. When I
  • asked why, I was told... because they wanted to. I said no. I think they're a bit creepy tbh (this is NOT a judgement on people who do
  • have them, I just didn't want one for us.) My husband agreed. I offered a compromise to my mom to add pink filters to the ultrasound photos.
  • That wasn't good enough. My mother planned a gender reveal anyway for a weekend I was visiting (I'm about 7 hours from them), and didn't tell me. She planned a virtual party with pink gender reveal decorations.
  • My dad let me know, and I was upset. I talked to my mother, and she told me she was compromising by doing a virtual gender reveal, because I didn't want a party. I told her I appreciated the thought (I
  • was in therapy for family doormatism at the time), but it wasn't something to compromise on because it wasn't wanted. I couldn't even cancel it myself because she didn't tell me who she'd invited.
  • She and my brothers hounded my husband and me, trying to get us to change our minds. Even my dad reached out to ask me to just go along with it to keep the peace.
  • After weeks of this, my mother came to us and meekly said she understood we didn't want it, but that she'd bought some pink poppers on sale. She said it would
  • mean a lot if we could please pop them and take some pictures with just my husband, dad, and brothers when we visited? It was a completely different way than she'd been talking to me. I
  • agreed, since I was taken a back, and a few photos for posterity couldn't hurt, right? Plus she asked so nicely... Well. A week before we were to visit, I was flooded with calls and
  • texts congratulating me on my baby girl. My husband and I had only told immediate family at that point, as I had suffered a late miscarriage previously.
  • My mom had changed the date and had the gender reveal a week early. My husband and I weren't even in the state. She filmed it and sent it to everyone in my family but my
  • husband and me. She also didn't include any of my husband's family, though she had their contact info. I tried to call her; straight to voicemail. 4 hours after sending it to everyone else, she sent the video to me.
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  • It features my brothers breaking a piñata. When it explodes in pink powder, my mother says "That's right! We're having a girl." Then they pop pink poppers. Honestly I think it's pretty cringy.
  • Finally, she answered me. I asked why tf she had the gender reveal and sent the video without my involvement. She dismissed me and said "I don't know why you're so upset. You didn't want the gender reveal anyway."
  • Like... yes. That is exactly why I was upset. She stole my pregnancy announcement and specifically did the gender reveal I didn't want and hid it from me.
  • I was so upset I cancelled on visiting the following weekend and spent time with my husband's family instead. That's when we agreed to use my MIL's middle name for my daughter, which is
  • covered in the post I mentioned at the beginning. Hopefully you get some enjoyment from this story! I was so upset at the time, but looking back, the absurdity makes me laugh.
  • jahubb062 I hope your mom is now on the list of people who don't get to know anything until after you've told literally everyone else. She shouldn't know about pregnancies until you've
  • told absolutely everyone you want to tell. She shouldn't find out the gender until the baby is born. Your dad and brothers go on that list too, since they're her enablers.
  • Catqueen25 I would have told mom we planned to use her name but because of the gender reveal, we went with MIL's name instead.

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