Rich farmer boy refuses to tell 25-year-old girlfriend that he’s wealthy, fearing she will only love him for his money, the clock ticks on their relationship: “Stay away from the big house for awhile”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 17, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back people of the internet. Dating these days is harder than full-time work in a coalmine in the Dust Bowl era. A planet of single, sad, and confused people who are constantly wondering why they're single, and when they're going to get a partner. For people in a relationship already, you go through good times and bad times. The highs and lows of relationship dynamics can keep someone absolutely satisfied, or it can drive them crazy. As they say, the grass is always greener. Sometimes the struggles that come with being in a long-term partnership outweigh the ease of being single, even if it is boring and lonely. It all depends on the person you're with, and it depends how happy you are with yourself and being alone. 

Money is unfortunately a huge part of life, and of course it's a huge part of relationships. It's important to know your partner's financial situation, and how they react and respond to money. In the story below, money is the issue for one person, and the other doesn't even know it.

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    AITAH for still not letting my girlfriend know that my family is wealthy?

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    Hi. I (26M) have been dating (let's say Emma) (25F) for 3 months now. Things are great between us but she has no idea my family is very wealthy
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  • This guy may have been born into money, but maybe he's lacking in the intellectual sphere. Of course if your girlfriend wants to meet your parents, why would it need to be in your mansion? Go to coffee, or drinks, or dinner, and you can appease her needs. Also, 3 months isn't too quick. 

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    My family's business is agriculture and I don't wanna mention any name due to privacy reasons, but let's say they're one of the biggest companies in the states. I grew up with money (private school, nice vacations and all that stuff) but my parents raised me to value hard
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    work. I have a normal dev job and live completely off my own salary. Emma knows I'm doing okay financially since I bought a Toyota last month with my own savings and some extra from freelancing some projects after work.
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    The issue is I've been making excuses about why she can't meet my parents or see their mansion. I keep finding excuses on why we can't meet them yet (they're busy with work, travelling and so on)
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    I'm not ashamed of her at all. I just really like how things are between us like she likes me for me. I've had past girlfriends suddenly get very interested once they found out about my family's money and it was awful.
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    AITAH for keeping this secret? Is 3 months too soon to worry about gold diggers? Should I just tell her since it's been 3 months?
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    • Cold Lengthiness79... 18h ago NTA, meet for lunch or something similar, stay away from the big house for a while
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    • Tyberious 18h ago Have her meet them at dinner or something, she doesn't have to meet them for the first time at their home.
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    If YouStayPetty • 18h ago Most people don't meet parents until 6 months to a year. That's not weird at all to hold off.
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    NotAgainHel15 • 18h ago Three months is pretty early to be meeting families anyway.
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    But if you really want to, why can't you arrange to meet them for a coffee or a drink, maybe a meal, instead of going to their house?
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    I do think you might be storing up trouble for later if you're hiding a lot of information though. She might think you don't trust her or were lying if you're hiding things like what school you went to and if your family are well-known the way you imply.
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    Sure-Selection-4351 • 18h ago NTA for not saying anything. yet, especially given past experiences. But don't let it become a deception by omission. If the relationship is getting serious, it's time to start having honest conversations. Not about wealth but about trust.
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    HatingOnNames 17h ago. I was bff and later dated a guy in HS and it was years before I found out his grandparents were wealthy. He didn't warn me when he took me to his grandparents for 4th of July, and we pulled up to a gate
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    that opened, then drove up this long road that led to a huge mansion, and I mentally freaked the .t. I grew up POOR, was a foster kid for the last ten years, and had no idea
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    what I was in for. I had all these pre-conceived ideas that "these people are going to hate me and not think I'm good enough".
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    They turned out to be some of the warmest, welcoming, and kindest people I've ever met. Like, weeks later I moved from the west coast to the Midwest and got a care package a few months later with a winter coat, hat and gloves, and a note saying they were worried I'd get cold.
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    Keep it to yourself as long as you like because in the end, their wealth has no bearing on your relationship and should mean nothing to her when in relation to you, but for goodness sake give her a heads up before they're to
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    meet her. I'd have dressed a little bit nicer (I was wearing cutoff shirts and a T-shirt) and felt a lot less self conscious and awkward. I was lucky they were as kind as they were because they didn't appear to even notice what I was wearing, hugged me like I was
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    a long lost granddaughter, and even switched to casual clothing to match at some point during the day.
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    Ancient_Maybe_6197 • 17h ago Also remember, it's not your money, it's their money
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