Entitled 32-year-old pregnant sister takes 28-year-old woman's baby name that she shared with her in confidence just because her due date is first: 'Well, we’re due first, and you don’t own names'

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    "AITA for refusing to give my sister the baby name I chose, even though she’s due first?"

    So, my (28F) husband and I are expecting our first baby in December. We've had a name picked out for years. "Elara" - ever since we started dating. It has personal significance to us, and we've talked about it many times.
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    My sister (32F) is also pregnant and due in September. A few weeks ago, during a family gathering, she asked about our name choices. I mentioned "Elara," and her face changed. She said it was beautiful and didn't say much more.
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    This week, she told me that she and her husband decided to name their daughter "Elara." I was shocked. I reminded her that we told her that was our name. She said, "Well, we're due first, and you don't own names." I said. that's true, but it feels like she stole it, knowing how much it meant to us.
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    Now she's mad because I said I'd still name my daughter Elara, even if she uses it. She says I'm being petty, and it will cause confusion in the family. My parents are staying out of it, but my brother thinks I'm being stubborn and should let it go. AITA for refusing to give up the name, even though she's due first?
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    I told my sister I still plan to name my baby "Elara" even though she now says she's using that name and is due before me. She feels like I'm being petty and intentionally causing future. confusion in the family by "copying" her baby's name. I might be the ah le because I knew this could create family tension and confusion, and I chose to go ahead with the name anyway rather than picking a different one to avoid conflict.
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    CommunicateQueen 1h ago • NTA. Holding your ground on this stance could be the only thing that makes her end up not using it potentially. Even if she does. though, the same way you "don't own a name", neither does she. Name your baby what you want to name them.
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    . Formal_Cap_1324 • 1h ago OK, different answer than I thought I'd give, but NTA. Your sister is being one for thinking that you can't name your child Elara because she is using the name. Remind her that SHE doesn't own the name either.
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    megagirthyguapoboi I would post on all your socials a pic of your sonogram and "Baby Elara coming in (month of when the baby is due")
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    GardenSafe8519 49m ago • Sorry to burst your bubble sis but I've already bought monogrammed things with Elara's name on them. So in a way, yes I do "own the name." it'll You can still use the name. Sure her off. But it's a unique name that's special for you and your husband and you can tell your daughter all about it when she's older (in front of her cousin Elara). Bet mom can't think of a reason to give her daughter why she "chose" that name.
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    Make sure to buy some monogrammed things (baby blanket and such). And next time NEVER mention a name you choose for baby until the baby is born.
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    Donutsmell .56m ago NTA. This is why you shouldn't share baby names before the birth. Learn from this and the kind of person your sister is. At least others know you chose it first. I would still use it and remind your sister how much it has always meant to you and your husband. For her to deny you of that would make her the petty one.
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    UnableCombination713 59m ago • Keep firm!!! Tell her you are absolutely sure you're doing this with 100% confidence whenever she asks! What a thief, seriously. She doesn't get to be mad that YOU'RE naming your child what YOU and your spouse declared you were naming them YEARS ago!! If anything maybe she will waver when she sees how confident you are that you are naming your child what they were meant to be named from the start.
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    kimmysharma • 1h ago NTA your sister s ks! I would go one step further and get the named engraved on all my baby things and at your sisters baby shower I would sign the card to say from your name, husbands name and your soon to be cousin Elara!

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