"Work wife" employee shows up unannounced at coworker's house when she's sick, concerned coworker goes to HR: "I never gave her my address"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 1, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Hey there people of the internet. Work is like our second home. We spent more time there than our actual homes to the point where we start bringing blankets, jackets, extra shoes, and mugs to our work. It really is the place we ultimately spend the majority of our days, so if you don't like your job, the environment, or your coworkers then things can get complicated for you. 


Coworkers sometimes know more about us than our friends or family. Think about it, you bond over the absurdity of your boss, hating that one employee who always has the stupidest things to say, or texting each other throughout the day about all the workplace gossip. You come in after a fight with your boyfriend or mom and who's there to comfort you? Coworkers. Our coworkers see us at our worst Monday morning when we'd all be back in bed, and they see us Friday before 5 about to let lose for the weekend. 


In the story below, it centers around two coworkers. They were friends until things get strange. The narrator claims her female coworker starts making her feel uncomfortable. 

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    AITA for reporting my coworker for showing up at my apartment uninvited, even though she said she was just checking on me?

    "It felt like a huge invasion of privacy"
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    I (27F) work in a small office and get along fine with everyone, but I mostly keep to myself. There's one coworker I used to grab lunch with now and then, but we were never super close. A couple months ago I
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  • This woman sounds creepy! You can't just call yourself a work wife because you're friends with someone. Plus, going to HR to complain that her coworker seemed cold? What does she expect HR to do, force her to be friends? You can't make someone befriend you. 

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    started dating someone new, and I guess she noticed I seemed happier or was dressing differently, because she started making weird comments about me ditching her
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    and calling herself my work wife. I just laughed it off, but it made me a little uncomfortable.
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    Then I got sick and was out of work for a few days, and she straight-up showed up at my apartment. I never gave her my address. She said she brought soup and was just
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    worried, but it felt like a huge invasion of privacy. I told her later that it wasn't okay, and she acted offended. A few days later, I found out she went to HR first saying I was being cold and distant, so I
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    told them what actually happened. Now some coworkers think I was too harsh and that I overreacted. I really don't think I did, but AITA?
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    • jrm1102 19h ago NTA it was not appropriate - for her to get your address and show up
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    hungrydruid 19h ago NTA and I'd want to know how she found your address. Does she have access to employee files?
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    AngelicDivineHealer ⚫ 19h ago She reported you to HR and you thinking your the AH? That goes on your work record and she was actively working on getting you into trouble.
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    PM_ME_YOUR_.. ... • 19h ago NTA Showing up at your home uninvited, especially without being given your address, is a huge boundary violation.
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    It's not "just checking in,” it's invasive and inappropriate. You're allowed to feel uncomfortable and to protect your privacy, especially when
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    she escalated things by going to HR first. You didn't overreact, you responded to a red flag.
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    Cebuanolearner • 19h ago Nope, she's weird as f
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    Willing_Show_7663 • 19h ago She overstepped. Her behavior is stalkerish. She definitely has stronger feelings for you than you do for her. If I were you, I would
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    start documenting all interactions with as much detail as you can. That way you have receipts if it escalates. Otherwise, ignore her. Any interaction should be strictly work related.
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    EfficientWall6197 • 19h ago You responded aptly beneath a glaring red flag waving furiously. Dropping by someone's pad unannounced especially when they've kept
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    their digs on the down low can be super weird not giving a hoot. Soup garnished with stalker behavior somehow manages not sweet outcomes rather unexpectedly.
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    RaulPenwa 19h ago NTA She went to HR to report you "were cold and distant?" She's a loon.
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    Brazen Duck 18h ago It's weird and it's insidious because it can all be couched as concern and seem reasonable if she told the story to someone with a sympathetic ear.
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    happycoffeebean13 • 16h ago NTA. Getting your address and tuning up at your home gives stalker vibes. You did the right thing. Nobody needs a stalker.
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