Dad excludes 14-year-old triplet daughter from Six Flags trip with sons under the guise of a "boy's trip," gets mad at wife for taking her on a mother-daughter date to compensate: "[You] shouldn't get her used to special treatment"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jun 8, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Some of my favorite memories growing up were the mother-daughter dates that I had with my homegirl. For us, that meant really, really long Target runs and trips to the mall. We'd try on clothes for ages and get soft pretzels covered in cinnamon with a giant cup of lemonade as a pick-me-up. Shopping was always a lot more fun with just her – you know, without my dad trailing behind us, silently sulking. I always felt more free to talk about my multiple crushes and receive "womanly" advice from her when it was just us.

In our story today, a mother-daughter duo have their own cute little day to themselves. As cute as it was, eating brunch and making Build-a-Bears for each other, the hangout was prompted by the girl's dad completely excluding her from a trip to Six Flags. His excuse? She would ruin the vibe of the "boy's trip." If that's not sad enough, dad was pretty mad at the girls for having fun without him. 

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    AITA for taking my daughter somewhere when my husband and sons went on a "boys trip."

    "She felt left out and I felt bad for her."
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    I (43f) have triplets: Mark, Liam, and Abby (14) with my husband Josh (45m.)
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    Last Friday Josh decided to bring Mark and Liam on a spontaneous trip to Six Flags. I don't like amysement parks so I wasn't bothered by not being invited. Abby asked to go as well but Mark and Liam
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    said it was a "boy's trip" and that she would ruin the vibe. Abby was upset because she felt left out and I felt bad for her so I decided we'd have a day out.
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    On Saturday we went to Cheesecake Factory (our favorite restaurant), a local spa, and I let her have a mini shopping spree at the mall that only came out to about $150. I paid for it all since I got a hefty
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    bonus and didn't know what else to spend it on. She felt better after and we even had a heartfelt mother- daughter moment at Build-A-Bear where we made each other bears. We also had brunch on Sunday although it wasn't very costly.
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    The boys came home last night and Abby was excited to tell Josh all about what we did over the weekend. He got mad and confronted me about it saying I shouldn't have done that. I asked why
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    because he refused to let Abby go in the first place and he said it was a boy's trip and that I shouldn't get her used to special treatment for not being involved in anything. I asked why it bothered him so
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    much since I know he'd do it for our sons but he won't tell me why it bothers him so much. He ended up even trying to take her bear but I wouldn't let him. He's being cold to me and Abby now and I'm at a loss. AITA?
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  • Trying to take away the bear is a step too far… He really has control issues. 

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    NextSplit2683 Can we all crown OP's husband, THE BAD FATHER OF THE YEAR!
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    FutsalR It's not even about cheering Abby up. It was a Mom and daughter having some bonding time. Just as the boys did with Dad. Sounds like Dad is a smuck.
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    Embarrassed_Advice59 Also any child would love to visit the amusement park. Your husband and sons were again, excluding her.
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    _use_r_name_ And who even wants to have a party of 3 at Six Flags when you have the option to have 4?! Seats are almost always in pairs, so 3 makes someone feel left out most of the time on rides.
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    Constant-Internet-50 The fact he let his boys say she would "kill the vibe" without correcting is super concerning.
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    Guilty_Helicopter572 Right, like what kind of vibe would be ruined by his daughter/their sister?
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  • It's really awful that our protagonist's daughter has been excluded so often, and that dad can't seem to handle the idea of her having fun in general. 

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    cacciatore3 As an only daughter with two brothers, this type of exclusion is very familiar to me
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    KlingonSpy I'm a twin, and the fact that the boys are eager to exclude their sister is messed up. They are literal twins, but the father is teaching them that the sister is not equal because she is a girl
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    lizzyote This is alarming behavior tbh. If they're allowed boys trips, why are girls trips not allowed? Unless he can give a better explanation, the only reason he's
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    against this is because he wanted her to feel excluded. So why does he insist his daughter feel excluded? Does he hate her or something? Is this the first time he's treated her as less than when it comes to all the kids?
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    ClickDependent8 OP He refuses to explain why and just says that it's not right and won't explain further. I don't know if he hates her but I am wondering now, and wondering why would he treat her this way? There have been times before where he'd take the boys
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    somewhere extravagant and take Abby somewhere less than exciting after (like taking our sons camping for the weekend and taking Abby to Denny's to make it up) but she always seemed to appreciate it so I thought he put thought into it. Now I'm wondering if she was an afterthought to him.
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    LadyBug_0570 So were you and Abby supposed to stay home and knit until the menfolk came home?
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    InternationalTexan71 Unacceptable. I wouldn't give the boys a choice right now. I would pack up all 3 kids, say we're going to see Tia, and drive. And then have one on one conversations with each one about this so-called boys trip. NTA, but you apparently married one.
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